Quote from: Tejas on January 28, 2013, 11:52:56 PM
Hahaha!! Oh, Chinese moms!
I think my mom changed my Chinese name at least four times when I was a kid. Luckily, my official name is in English and my Chinese name was not documented on anything so she could do as she pleased given whatever her latest interpretation of fēng shuǐ was at that time.
I think this may have been (slightly?) simpler in the past. Or maybe this is a bias I have from one of my Chinese teachers? He was a relative of
Yuan Shikai (
袁世凱) so he was from one of those families with a book of names (or at least first characters for the 2-character given name) that were expected to be given to members of successive generations.
I have only considered a feminine Chinese name a few times, and would probably want to have it assigned by someone who was a mentor before I settle on one, especially considering I'm not completely fluent and could miss some unfortunate associations with anything I picked myself. Have had 2 slightly different ones given by language teachers, with the one I use having been tweaked by the aforementioned member of the Yuan family.
My male-associated one is Dai Borui (
戴柏瑞), so I'll definitely want to change it some day. At this point I'm leaning towards Eleanor as an English given name, with Ellie as preferred nickname. It's a reference to an ancestor I found in records during my teens, and also an allusion to Eleanor Roosevelt, something I'm sure my maternal grandmother, at least, would have approved of, and a reasonable reference considering my age and family background (though at the time maybe my father
might have objected). No one need to know, though, how much his politics have changed since I was born.