Hi I'm Cindy, If you are new, you may not know me. If you are a member, even a newbie, you know me.

So, why haven't you posted something?

Tell me.

Best answer wins a blog. Or a virtual kiss from JamieD, with a free distemper vaccination.

I'd go for the blog.

TALK TO ME.

I'll help as well!

Free virtual kisses from me as well!! 

Quote from: Maegan on January 28, 2013, 05:01:29 AM
I'll help as well!

Free virtual kisses from me as well!! 

Thanks gorgeous, lets get a few of us together and help people.

Frightening place out there, sometimes it is easier with a friend to help.

SO TALK  TO US.

Only a pleasure!

I loooove your new look. Simply stunning and classy! 

I saw this and thought I would answer.

2 reasons:

1) I'm kind of shy,
2) There is so much to read and learn on here.

I'm working up the courage to post more, but I'm shy

I remember my first post.

Like others, I'd had a look around and decided this is where I wanted to be.

But..... How to create that right, first impression.

In the end I posted in some discussion about some Hic Sheriff in the US, a Wikipedia entry on the guy. I honestly had never heard of him before or since. But I figured a contribution backed by a reference might look better.

Anyway, since then I've come to realise, it really doesn't matter. We generally avoid saying things to others that we wouldn't seriously want said to us. There is every type of charatcer in here.

And you know something? I've come to love every last one of them.

The really good thing about posting here is that being shy doesn't matter. No one knows, and you gradually learn not be shy any more.

No one will 'go after you' and if you think some one is, report it to the Mods. We will deal with it.

A post, what to post.

Ahh lets seee, Mmmmm

I know!

Who are you? What did you do today? Got plans for any holidays? Been on any. Is the weather hot or cold?

That's a start. Join in a thread. Movies, fun, stufff.

The thing about joining in is that once you start it gets to be very natural and easy.

You make friends.

I'm blessed with having friends on this site that I adore and respect and love. And that makes me feel good, and they know I'm here for them as a friend as well.

Oh I've just written a post!!!!

There that was pretty easy.

Hugs

Cindy

I think one reason people may not end up making a post is possibly because the Introduction section of the site doesn't stand out very well at least that's my experience.  The moderators can probably attest to the number of posts that have to be moved to the Introduction section of the site, I know my first post was graciously moved by the wonderful Cindy into that section.  I feel that maybe if there was an automated message from Susan (kind of like when you get a reputation change) when you join the site asking you to introduce yourself with a link to the Introduction section, more people would be inclined to make that first post.

ah... i just had a look at my first posts here. i registered because of the androgyne forums, but had no idea how to join or start any conversation there. superscaryplace... because it's even more "abnormal" than just fairly common transsexualism (talking like an outsider now).

so i found the introductions forum. the transgender forum. the mtf forum.
why was i so scared of talking to the ftm and androgyne people who are most similar to me...? probably because i was still trying to escape the truth.

as if deluding myself would work in the long run.

I joined the forum yesterday for the first time.

I'm quite happy I found this website actually. I have little to no community when it comes to my city in terms of trans girls. I know none!! Granted, I'm sure there are some, but I haven't had the pleasure of getting to know any yet. I'm just now starting my journey into transition...about to begin sessions with a gender therapist, then onto HRT! I'm very excited, scared, nervous, hopeful, etc. My emotional capacity is running at maximum right now haha.

Thank you all for making me feel welcome. You've no idea how much it means to me.

-Alexia

For me it's a combination of an irrational fear of rejection and that most of the time someone else has already said what I would in a reply but they articulated it much better than I would.

I haven't posted much just because I'm rather introverted. social interaction is just... effortful. it's less so online because i have as much time as i need to think out things to post, but from almost three decades of not interacting much i just don't feel the need to chime in on most things. I'm mostly happy just being a wallflower. on any forum i frequent i lurk until something needs to be said, and then i say it, and lurk some more.

really i just started posting here rather than just lurking because I needed to vent about being trans. and isn't this the place for it?

i joined the site a few weeks after recognizing myself as trans. i was very anxious and dysphoric and google found me this site. i joined, but i was so afraid that someone would find out that i'm a member of a transgender community and all hell would turn on me. so until about 3 months after joining i had made only two posts, because i was too afraid to log in, in case my parents or brother decided to come to my room. i feared someone might check my browsing history and find out. so i'd come very rarely, and everytime i do i'd delete browsing history.i still do that for the laptop. well, in few months time the pressure was too much to bear on my own so i decided to log in more often through my phone. socializing, yes i've had few problems, but i didn't really care. if there is an interesting post and i have something to say, i say. if i have something to share or ask i start a new topic. nobody forbids you from posting unless you're being offensive, so i ignore what others might think and go on posting!

I'll be honest - I mostly just joined to ask the standard early-transition questions of the community.  Now that I've entered my third month of HRT, I no longer have much to ask or say.  I'm in a limbo where nothing but time itself can answer my questions further.

I just got here and am still working on an introduction post in the intros section.

And i came back after years of life events getting in the way.. We all know the job, husband, hobbies and seems for me work took most of my time.

Either way i am glad everyone that is here is here. And i know that if someone feels the need to post this site seem to draw it out of you...

Hugs
Izzy

Lets see... my first post consisted of a bunch of rambling lol.

Also I will throw in free virtual bro hugs

Quote from: Cindy on January 28, 2013, 04:33:09 AMSo, why haven't you posted something?
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TALK TO ME.

Oh, noes!  A moderator in distress!  Time for [disappears into phone booth, comes out in tights and cape] Super-Supporter!)

More seriously:

1.  Not sure where to post.  I'm not exactly an Orthodox Crossdresser, not sure if I count as transgender, etc.  Is there a "none of the above" forum?

2.  Bad experiences on other forum sites:

a.   Being told "you're doing it wrong," or being told "you're defining yourself wrong" -- a lot of being pushed into a box.

b.   Outright hostility when I reveal that what I'm doing isn't what everyone else is doing.  One place, I was told "you belong in a zoo" and "it's people like you who are the reason Real TS's and CD's are getting mistreated."  (In fairness, the mods shut that one down.  In that place, they have to shut a lot of threads down.)  I spent my formative years being a pariah for having the wrong color socks, or the wrong kind of lunchbox, etc.  Don't need to repeat the experience.

c.  M2F and men-in-skirts/kilts sites with more testosterone than I feel comfortable with.

d.  Frequent references to violence as a solution.  A fair number of sites find they have to ban all discussion of guns.  My experience is that when violence starts, I end up on the receiving end of it.

e.  Sexism and/or misogyny.  Groups where it's OK to see women (or any other less-privileged group) as less than human always seem to end up seeing me as less than human.

3.  Not sure I'll find people who are interested in the things that are on my mind, or who will "get" where I'm coming from (see my follow-up to my post in Introductions.)

[ETA:]

4.  I'm afraid if I post too many posts, I'll get yelled at for talking/posting too much.  I was always told I had a big mouth.

Quote from: Asche on September 21, 2013, 08:48:15 AM
Oh, noes!  A moderator in distress!  Time for [disappears into phone booth, comes out in tights and cape] Super-Supporter!)

More seriously:

1.  Not sure where to post.  I'm not exactly an Orthodox Crossdresser, not sure if I count as transgender, etc.  Is there a "none of the above" forum?

2.  Bad experiences on other forum sites

3.  Not sure I'll find people who are interested in the things that are on my mind, or who will "get" where I'm coming from (see my follow-up to my post in Introductions.)

4.  I'm afraid if I post too many posts, I'll get yelled at for talking/posting too much.  I was always told I had a big mouth.

1. my home

2. sorry about that. most of us and all the mods will do our best to prevent everything mentioned from happening.

3. i'm interested, but can't guarantee you that anyone will truly "get it". i don't even get myself *sigh*

4. post like crazy until 15, that's when you can upload an avatar. show us some representation of you, makes it easier to relate for some reason.