Yeah the problem with sexist beliefs is we get them pounded into our heads, right till it is convenient to ignore them.
I see if from both sides of the fence too.
You are supposed to open a door for a lady, right till she gets pissed off you treated her like a lady. So you treat her like an equal, and then she gets pissed off for being treated poorly.
Lots of members here seem to have prior military service, so likely will recognize this issue from other than just a news item angle. A woman in the military gets sexually harassed by a man, and she pulls the sexual harassment card and wants sudden special treatment. When the correct response should be several of her girl friends 'correcting' the offender by arranging to beat the snot out of him and ensuring it looks like he not only tripped on a bar of soap, but accidentally rammed his head through the bathroom wall. Because if a woman can't cope with some jerk in the military getting out of hand then she's got no right to the rough and dangerous world of the military.
Yes I was brought up in a world where a kitchen was a woman's place. I didn't invent the stereotype, I am only reminding you of it. It hasn't gone away.
My son had some friends over the other day. Two young ladies along with his buddy who knew the two young ladies. They didn't know me beforehand. They were being shown my hobby room. No it's not a 'man cave'. It's not because the other half is the kitchen. I am in a room that has a partition divider of no account. The room is about 11x20 at most. 11x9 is effectively the kitchen. the rest has a wall of windows and a door to the balcony and two walls an interior wall and an exterior wall. It might be a man cave if I was an ordinary man and I needed to call it that. The tanks might tend to look masculine. I pointed out to the girls though, the Sailor Moon figures contradict the tanks, and the Haruhi Suzumiya cloth wall scroll contrasts nicely with all my dad's old steam engine photographs I have on it. Maybe if I had my sewing machine set up in here it would help I suppose. The thing is, the kitchen is indeed my domain as well.
My wife 'helps out' with the cooking in the same manner most husbands try to make themselves useful if they wish to earn points. I do most of the meaningful cooking around here. The only reason the fridge has sensible food in it is because of me. My wife eats like just about any atypical single male.
It's not easy to really call any one part of the housework mine and hers. I do all the housework accept the laundry. It's on par with the cliche old fashion set up, where the wife ensures the house works and the husband comes home after being at work and doesn't do anything. And with some luck and badgering, you can get him to do some yardwork on the weekend.
Alas my wife is disabled (depression) and isn't currently working. I try my best to keep her active in her day, but it isn't easy. I'm already forced to cope with my very own crushing limitations. It often takes monumental effort to get off my ass and do my own housework.
But I do all of this within the real world, where men are still considered to be people that do A B and C and woman do D E and F.
And saying, well anyone can do ABCDE and F, is also politically correct garbage that is merely ignoring the fact our society doesn't really believe it.
And on top of that, you have all the world's religious dogmas swirled into the mix.
I was married in a Calvary Pentecostal church (only one I could get to perform the ceremony at the time). They wouldn't budge on the marriage classes (6 sessions of silliness if you ask me). I was raised Anglican, but the local church, the one I went all of my life, simply wasn't interested in my schedule reality (I worked out of town). I must say, and I am not concerned if this bugs any of the Calvary Pentecostal faith that the entire 6 classes were such incredible, and inexcusable male chauvinistic garage. They think very little of their women, who are sure as heck not equals, not in that church that's for sure. Oh they were quite sure the woman's place was in the home, and serving her husband who was the head of the family and he was to be obeyed. Damned lucky for me I am a master of my language. I was able to reply to all their requests to write what I thought of very carefully taken out of context passages in the bible with words that wouldn't sink my chances of continuing to have a bride interested in me.
There's nothing wrong with a man doing housework. And guess what, if that man is single, well he either does it, or it doesn't get done.
Single men that are fathers have likely to become a lot of things they would rather a woman did for them. But, life doesn't always care.
But we sure here no small amount of the dialogue on 'family values' coming from various portions of society. I'm not making this stuff up eh.
Chances of being elected to high office if you are a married man and a church goer are a great deal better than if you are a single male, womanizing, atheist after all.
People simply don't like to have some truths stuffed in their face.
It's one of the reasons we have so much trouble we of the transgender reality. I look like a fairly handsome man if I have my hair neat and washed and I am wearing nice clean clothing. I am not in a hurry to BE handsome. I don't like being called handsome, any more than most men want to be called 'pretty'. It feels as good on my ears as it would for them.
Heck there are plenty of women out their ok with society's idea of their supposed place.
I really wouldn't mind a life of sun dresses and shopping and looking after the house and a spouse that went to work in the morning and was back in time for the dinner I had prepared. But the wife isn't a lesbian. It doesn't seem to reach her though, she's married to one. I am just really only stuck in a man's body is all. Sex to me, is the same as sex is for any other lesbian only I have better toys mine are more realistic. I feel good during sex the same way I am sure any other lesbian feels it. I just don't have the same clean up conditions.
I'm still a real person in here though. I am just not the sort of person I think anyone is expecting.
