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Going to a wedding- this is getting to be serious!

Started by Cindy, February 06, 2013, 05:14:56 AM

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Cindy

I posted a while back about what to wear at a wedding. I'm still lost..


Ok I'm me in the avatar, taken maybe 3 weeks back?

I'm 5' 9" weigh about 60 kilos. I'm 60 yrs old.

I'm invited to a wedding. It is a full Greek Orthodox wedding in Australia. In a Greek Orthodox church.  Wedding starts at 1 ish, reception at 6 ish.

I'm going.

I'm nothing, no one.
I do not want to stand out in any way. It is the bride and grooms day, and the several hundreds that are invited.

What do I wear?

OK what do woman wear in Greek Orthodox churches and ceremonies? Are there different rules for weddings? I'm not religious or  anything but I will never insult anyone's religion if I can possibly avoid it.

Yes I can google it but practical is better.

Any ideas?

Do woman need a head covering? If so a lace scarf? Whatever?

I'm ok wearing heels, and I carry fold up ballet slippers in my handbag for when the legs/feet collapse.

I'm interested in thoughts and more so practical experience. I am going with another woman and her husband but I really don't want to ask her about how to be a normal female in such situations. It doesn't feel right!

Ideas?

I may have to start Cindy's guide to social etiquette for transwoman!
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kelly_aus

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Cindy

Quote from: Kelly the Trans-Rebel on February 06, 2013, 05:24:23 AM
I'll ask mum, she's been to a few.. :)

Thanks Sis.

I should have asked last week?

I was a bit fazed out!!
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kelly_aus

Mum's been to a few.. She says that something nice, maybe a touch formal will be fine..

Oh, and given that you are likely to be standing for most of the service, high heels are not a winner..
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Penny Gurl

Well, last year alone I went to about 50 weddings.. Oh, I was photographing them.. I had one that was Greek Orthodox however other then a really pretty church nothing stood out more then another wedding.  I don't recall the women having a head covering, but things like that can vary so I would ask someone who attends about that churches traditions where that is concerned.  Now that being said at a wedding it's understood that there are going to be people of other faiths then the couples so I really wouldn't worry about it too much as "outsiders" will be accepted, I've had a few weddings that the priest/ pastor/ rabbi ect has even acknowledged that in the homilies/ sermon / blessings.. Ect.  Obviously NO WHITE, I would think that would go without saying but you'd be surprised.  A dress, top with skirt or even suit are all
Acceptable just as long as it's dressy and not casual.  For church I would suggest a modest heel if you're going to wear them, and bring a second pair of shoes for the reception.  Some girls eventually will even go bare foot, but to me that's nuts.  At a "good" wedding, drinks will be spilled, glasses broken and the last thing you want is a bleeding foot! Just remember, if you plan on dancing then wear something that you can dance in.  Hope that helps! I can't wait till wedding season again myself, the next one I photograph is Feb 16th so just around the corner!
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LBD*

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Justin 21

hope you ladies don't mind me putting in some advice since I'm speaking from across the road so to speak
I'm Italian catholic and the rules for dress seem  to be the same for Greek orthodox, which is something respectable, on a personal note i wouldn't wear black to a wedding, (well i would cause I'd be in a suit) so maybe  just a nice dress or skirt top combo, something comfortable, considering  the length of the service and the heat

also sorry to sour this lovely thread with something not so nice and I'm sorry for this being last minute but since we are talking dress etiquette, i have a funeral to go to in a couple days it's my grandfathers, i am to read a tribute and will be wearing a suit for the first time, would it be acceptable to wear a silver gray and white tie or should i buy a black one and is there any other dress etiquette i should be wary of, mind you i live up north any help is appreciated
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yellowsub11

Hi Cindy - I did a bit of searching for ya and found that for Greek Orthodox churches the most important thing is to keep it modest. Keep the shoulders covered and make sure the skirt hits below the knees. Keep the neckline modest. Other than that, you should be fine.

There will be A LOT of standing so you may want to re-think the heels. Unless they are just really comfortable! 

Don't worry about covering your head. There will be some there that will have the head covering but unless YOU are Greek Orthodox, no one will expect you to cover your head.

I personally would not wear black to a wedding but that is just me and I KNOW that those "rules" have changed. So if you love black and feel great in a LBD then girl - wear it!

I think something like these would be perfect: http://www.landsend.com/pp/womens-squareneck-dress~250403_59.html (If you don't like the hot pink - I think it looks fab in navy too!)
http://www.landsend.com/pp/womens-34-sleeve-crepe-jersey-gathered-surplice-dress~242221_59.html
http://www.landsend.com/pp/womens-short-sleeve-pattern-georgette-pintuck-dress~245453_59.html
http://www.landsend.com/pp/womens-silk-pattern-tuck-shoulder-dress~245455_59.html
http://www.theiconic.com.au/Short-Sleeve-Cross-Over-Dress--67224.html
http://www.theiconic.com.au/3%2F4-Sleeve-Tie-Front-Dress--67187.html

Oh! And HAVE FUN!!!!

Justin - In my opinion, A silver gray and white tie would be totally fine hun. And I think you will look great! :)





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spacial

I kinda feel along the lines of Justine, re colour.

Black is fun, not really safe.

As for his query about correct funeral wear, agree with Yellowsub, respectability and is what counts. Unlike a wedding, you are unlikely to upstage the principal whatever you wear!
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Cindy

Quote from: Justin 21 on February 06, 2013, 07:35:28 AM
hope you ladies don't mind me putting in some advice since I'm speaking from across the road so to speak
I'm Italian catholic and the rules for dress seem  to be the same for Greek orthodox, which is something respectable, on a personal note i wouldn't wear black to a wedding, (well i would cause I'd be in a suit) so maybe  just a nice dress or skirt top combo, something comfortable, considering  the length of the service and the heat

also sorry to sour this lovely thread with something not so nice and I'm sorry for this being last minute but since we are talking dress etiquette, i have a funeral to go to in a couple days it's my grandfathers, i am to read a tribute and will be wearing a suit for the first time, would it be acceptable to wear a silver gray and white tie or should i buy a black one and is there any other dress etiquette i should be wary of, mind you i live up north any help is appreciated

Thanks Justin and my sympathy for your loss.

As for the funeral a silver grey tie sounds fine. Up North the jacket my be optional depending upon the weather? The key thing, make sure to wear shoes and not thongs!  Although there probably are 'formal thongs" ?

For the USA people, thongs are foot wear, not underwear!
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spacial

Quote from: Cindy James on February 06, 2013, 03:53:44 PM


For the USA people, thongs are foot wear, not underwear!

You had me going there for a moment too Cindy, then I remember you people stick paper together with Durex.  :laugh:

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Justin 21

Quote from: Cindy James on February 06, 2013, 03:53:44 PM
  Although there probably are 'formal thongs" ?

do not laugh cindy but when we went shopping for my sisters wedding there were a pair of thongs made with a  slight heel for a bride to wear, so yes there is such a thing as formal thongs  :P
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aleon515

Jeeze Cindy, you had me wondering who the lucky guy (or gal) might be. :)

--Jay
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