Quote from: Renae Lupini on June 04, 2007, 09:05:21 PM
then if we go against the common assumptions of society and view ourselves as female and enough of us do so then we could in fact change the position of what is acceptable and what is not? True?

Theoretically, yes. However, we'd be trying to change something that is already rather well established into something almost diametrically opposed, so it would take a lot of time and effort. Essentially, our doing it would not be enough; the major issue would be to get enough people to go along.

A lot of the LGBT awareness campaigning can be considered as related to this sort of an effort, by the way, and it is entirely possible that a change like this will eventually happen. This, I believe, is a big part of why we scare the various fundamentalist groups so much.

  Nfr

I tried to ignore it for awhile but I knew I could never live as a women. When I first heard of the term FTM I knew it was me. For now If I had to label my gender it would be male..I don't like thinking of myself as trans, just a normal guy. Post surgery/hormones I won't have that nagging thing anymore saying..'but you're not a full male'..

As a pre op trans girl, I feel that I am worthless every time a man stopped talking to me because I told him about me.

Every time I have an orgasm, I feel bad afterward.

I don't know if I am on an continuum, and I don't know if society will ever accept someone who doesn't have surgeries to be who they are, but I just know right now, it feels like crap to be in between.

Quote from: asiangurliee on June 07, 2007, 11:45:21 PM
As a pre op trans girl, I feel that I am worthless every time a man stopped talking to me because I told him about me.

Every time I have an orgasm, I feel bad afterward.

I don't know if I am on an continuum, and I don't know if society will ever accept someone who doesn't have surgeries to be who they are, but I just know right now, it feels like crap to be in between.

Asiangurliee,

Personally, I am not able to answer your specific comments from my own
experience, although I certainly know how true it is that "it feels like crap to
be in between."  I would just urge you to keep posting and to give serious
consideration to gender counseling!

With care and concern,

Sandra

Thank you, that's very kind of you.

I would never go back to being a guy, even though this is hard...

I usually just say trans or transgendered, because all of the other labels give away too much information.  And I like the queer label for my orientation for a lot the same reason.  I also don't like the emphasis on sex that the word transsexual has.  For some reason that bugs me.  I feel like I'm automatically steering someone's mind into an incorrect assumption.

Quote from: SarahFaceDoom on June 12, 2007, 08:48:22 AM
I usually just say trans or transgendered, because all of the other labels give away too much information.  And I like the queer label for my orientation for a lot the same reason.  I also don't like the emphasis on sex that the word transsexual has.  For some reason that bugs me.  I feel like I'm automatically steering someone's mind into an incorrect assumption.

Sarah,

Being closer to the CD end of the spectrum, I didn't at first understand why many who were referred to in the past as TS started referring to themselves as "transgenders."  But the more I have read about this, the more I see what you are saying about not liking "the emphasis on sex that the word transsexual has."  And if it carries that emphasis within the community of those of us who cross gender lines, how much more might it do so among the less informed/educated among the general public?

Now when I refer to myself as transgendered, I try to make it clear that I am using the word in the umbrella sense.

Thank you,

Sandra

IMO, we all use whatever label we feel that we belong to. Personally, I have no problem stating that I am a transsexual. While others may feel that they prefer other labels to describe the same thing, it is all about our own perspective of ourselves.

I am on the far TG end of the spectrum. I have lived as a woman (in private) for 28 yrs. The last 2 since retirement I have lived full time as a woman.

I consider myself as a woman with a mans genitals and when I am finally able to have the SRS. I will consider my self a Woman, not a TG.

Bobbi