Quote from: Bexi on July 28, 2012, 08:12:16 AM


"Its a phase"

Erm ... sorry to disappoint ... its not a 'phase', I won't "grow out of it"!
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Yeah I went through that phase too, at 6, 9-12 inclusive, 14, 16, 17 and 18, 23-27, 31-36 inclusive 39 to 43 inclusive.  I see a pattern here, I think the times i may not have been in that phase were the actual phase I was in...  I think it's passed. 

Quote from: AwishForXX on February 10, 2013, 01:41:52 AM

Yeah I went through that phase too, at 6, 9-12 inclusive, 14, 16, 17 and 18, 23-27, 31-36 inclusive 39 to 43 inclusive.  I see a pattern here, I think the times i may not have been in that phase were the actual phase I was in...  I think it's passed. 

Hehe yeah! It's reached the point where my 'male' stage now seems to be the "phase"!
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Well, to me, being trans is a phase. It just so happens to last a lot longer than any other phase, say, the rest of my life? 

"Why can't you just accept the way you were born?"

Oh, we are - since we seem to have been born trans...

Here's a new one, as per an "argument" (it wasn't really one, lol) with my mom regarding my other family using my birth name:

"Well if you're going to let something as simple as a name define you..."

Well if the name is so "simple" and doesn't actually mean anything, people can use the right one then! Riiiiight? Right. -_-

Quote from: Caleb. on February 10, 2013, 04:24:35 PM
Here's a new one, as per an "argument" (it wasn't really one, lol) with my mom regarding my other family using my birth name:

"Well if you're going to let something as simple as a name define you..."

Well if the name is so "simple" and doesn't actually mean anything, people can use the right one then! Riiiiight? Right. -_-

Right, a name is so simple! JOHN, come here. MARY, over there.

And it bears no meaning to gender... Riiiight!

"Doormat" is a name, too...but it's not something I would want to be called...

Start calling those people by random names, see how they like it.

Yesterday from an in-law I got "Oh I'm sure it's just a phase" (yep I'm 27 I don't think so).

And then "Well what can be done to reverse it?" (meaning, reverse these insidious feelings I have!). Sigh, and he was the most progressive in-law I could think of which is why I started with him. It'll be downhill from here...

Tell him "yeah, like you being a man is just a phase."

A couple from my dad last night

- "You aren't transgendered, you haven't done anything to yourself yet, you're still a girl"
-"You talk about this way too much, you should be focusing on other things"
-"How do you expect anyone to take you seriously, you're all over the place"
-"You've always had phases, this is just another phase"
-"You're still my daughter... or kid... or whatever you are"

We aren't on speaking terms at the moment 

My mother:
You played Table tennis, you got bored with it. You did Archery you got bored with it. You collected stamps, you got bored with it. So many things you did you got bored with them. How do you know you will not get bored with being a woman.

Quote from: anya on February 20, 2013, 11:09:24 PM
My mother:
You played Table tennis, you got bored with it. You did Archery you got bored with it. You collected stamps, you got bored with it. So many things you did you got bored with them. How do you know you will not get bored with being a woman.

Ouch!!! I'd respond with 'Being a woman is not a fanciful hobby, this is who I am and how I feel inside'

Quote from: anya on February 20, 2013, 11:09:24 PM
My mother:
You played Table tennis, you got bored with it. You did Archery you got bored with it. You collected stamps, you got bored with it. So many things you did you got bored with them. How do you know you will not get bored with being a woman.

Tell her your bored with being a male. 

In all seriousness though I cant believe anyone would say something like that. Then again after reading through this thread it's amazing how stupid some of the comments that we hear are. 

Quote from: V M on February 20, 2013, 11:41:42 PM
this is who I am and how I feel inside

Those were my exact words to her. 

It's only a matter of will power!

Quote from: big kim on February 21, 2013, 03:14:51 AM
It's only a matter of will power!

and If you try hard enough you can change how you feel. 

duhhhh.... My brain is not a computer where you can uninstall one program  and install a new one.

From a girl I've known for several semesters of school:

"You never said anything about it before! You were fine with it last semester!"

In reference to my asking to not call me 'she' and my old name, ever. I've tried repeatedly explaining it to her that I was never okay with being called 'she' and my old name, and that the only reason I didn't say anything about it before is because I wasn't ready to come out to anyone.

She still refers to me with the wrong pronoun and name. So I stopped talking to her and reported her for discrimination to the Dean of Students.

Quote from: Siege on February 21, 2013, 02:15:41 PM
From a girl I've known for several semesters of school:

"You never said anything about it before! You were fine with it last semester!"

In reference to my asking to not call me 'she' and my old name, ever. I've tried repeatedly explaining it to her that I was never okay with being called 'she' and my old name, and that the only reason I didn't say anything about it before is because I wasn't ready to come out to anyone.

She still refers to me with the wrong pronoun and name. So I stopped talking to her and reported her for discrimination to the Dean of Students.

Ouch, I'm not gonna lie...she kind of deserved it.

We can only hope that she learned something from that experience...

"This is just another obsessive phase"