I'm feeling extremely anxious and literally sick to my stomach now. I was born in one state and before I was even a toddler my parents moved us all to another state entirely. I've lived in the same state since, for more than 20 years I've lived in my current state. But I'm now wondering if changing my sex on my birth certificate has to be done under the law of the state I was born in, or can I do it by the laws of this state?
I'm freaking out because the state I live in now is comparatively awesome because "all" you need is a note from a professional saying you are the sex you say you are. Granted, I'm stuck in a non progressive, cis-centric, hetero normative area. I think I could probably find a gender counsellor about an hour from here in a more liberal part of the state and if I only had to go once a month or so I could afford that. In the state I was born in, the law is very unfair and in my opinion terribly non-progressive because you have to have a full "sex change" operation just to change sex on your ID. There's no way I will ever be able to afford this unless some cheap insurance starts covering it, I barely make ends meet as it is. In addition to the costs, and risks of surgery, the surgery for FtMs is really far behind so even if I could afford it I would be terribly disappointed, possibly even more dysphoric because of the end result.