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Growing old

Started by androgynoid, January 19, 2013, 12:04:00 PM

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Shantel

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kimdp999

For me there is only one critical element of getting old.  When I reach the end point, whenever that may be (I'm 49), will I be able to look back on my life with no regrets.  My therapist even asked the question, mainly rhetorical, you've made it nearly 5 decades as male, why not just stay as a male?  The only thing that really matters is right here and right now.  You can't do anything about the past and the future may not come.  I've seen and done a great deal in this life time so far, including kissing my butt good bye and accepting the fact I was probably going to die in combat.  I will take the risks of transitioning to become the woman I've always wanted to be, but due to responsibilities and the views/restraints of society I couldn't be. 

One huge benefit of transitioning at this point is I have no more responsibilities.  My son is grown and on his own, I've finished one career(retired) which has left me in a good financial position to transition, and I'm looking forward to starting the next endeavor as Kimberly.  The reality of transitioning is one must have the psychological ability as well as the financial ability to successfully transition.
Kimberly
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Shantel

Quote from: kimdp999 on February 06, 2013, 05:33:55 PM
For me there is only one critical element of getting old.  When I reach the end point, whenever that may be (I'm 49), will I be able to look back on my life with no regrets.  My therapist even asked the question, mainly rhetorical, you've made it nearly 5 decades as male, why not just stay as a male?  The only thing that really matters is right here and right now.  You can't do anything about the past and the future may not come.  I've seen and done a great deal in this life time so far, including kissing my butt good bye and accepting the fact I was probably going to die in combat.  I will take the risks of transitioning to become the woman I've always wanted to be, but due to responsibilities and the views/restraints of society I couldn't be. 

One huge benefit of transitioning at this point is I have no more responsibilities.  My son is grown and on his own, I've finished one career(retired) which has left me in a good financial position to transition, and I'm looking forward to starting the next endeavor as Kimberly.  The reality of transitioning is one must have the psychological ability as well as the financial ability to successfully transition.

Hi Kimberly,
       Sounds as if you have been walking in my exact same footsteps, I started transition at 50. Hang in there friend, you'll do well.
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Shana A

I'm going on 57 years young. I re-started my transition this past year, and life is unfolding with new possibility. I embrace it!

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Shantel

Quote from: Zythyra on February 06, 2013, 08:32:15 PM
I'm going on 57 years young. I re-started my transition this past year, and life is unfolding with new possibility. I embrace it!

Z

Just a youngster, congrats!
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big kim

Growing old scared me as a guy,not now though I'm 55 and looking forward to going to the Rebellion punk festival again!
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Cindy

Quote from: big kim on February 07, 2013, 04:04:56 AM
Growing old scared me as a guy,not now though I'm 55 and looking forward to going to the Rebellion punk festival again!

55! Geex still in nappies!
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kelly_aus

Growing old is mandatory.. Growing up is optional..
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foosnark

This thread is amazing.  I'm used to feeling like the old one on most forums, and here are a bunch of lovely folks with a couple of decades on me and I never would have guessed.  I almost want to accuse most of you of lying.  :laugh:

Age is one of those things that matters less the more you have of it.

Ourselves as "old people" will most likely be the same yet different from the "old people" we knew when we group up, because of how the world has changed.  When I was a kid, the old people had been born in houses without electricity, and were young when womens' suffrage came about.  My parents had the space age and the civil rights movement in their youth.  Hopefully the young this decade will see many victories for LGBT rights and ever more freedom for people to be themselves.

We maybe have this image of old people sitting around in rocking chairs listening to Benny Goodman LPs or sitting around a piano singing dull tunes.  My dad, who I suppose is "old", was thrilled to get a Red Hot Chili Peppers t-shirt for Christmas.  I imagine I'll be listening to the same weird eclectic blend of stuff the internet has made easily available:  industrial music, powernoise, dubstep, glitch, chiptunes, Finnish folk, Celtic rock, Swedish metal, Japanese taiko, and the occasional Vivaldi concerto.  And I'll probably be doing it while playing an MMO, wearing a geeky t-shirt and pagan jewelry.

It's funny; I thought of my grandpa as just old, stoic Navy veteran; I think of my dad as an aging almost-hippie, and I plan to be an old geek.
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Shantel

Quote from: Kelly the Trans-Rebel on February 07, 2013, 05:28:37 AM
Growing old is mandatory.. Growing up is optional..

Ah Kelly, a person of few words and great insight, most appreciated girlfriend!
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Nero

Quote from: Malachite on February 06, 2013, 03:07:44 AM
I don't really think about it too much anymore because i honestly don't see myself living past 50 years old.

I used to feel similar. I never expected or wanted to live past 30. Expected I'd die of an overdose or some other related cause before then. Didn't happen. Now I'm there.
And now I can't imagine myself living much past 50 either. But I'm sure this will change once I'm close to that age.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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crazy at the coast

Quote from: Pleasingly Plump Jamie D on February 06, 2013, 04:15:20 PM
I'm like a good red wine.  I have mellowed with age.  ;)
Doesn't wine sometimes turn to vinegar?  ;)



Me, I don't worry that much about age, although being close to the proverbial over the hill is bumming me out a little, I'll get over it and I'll be happy that I still don't look as old as many people that are 10 years younger than I am, lol.
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Shantel

Quote from: Fat Admin on February 07, 2013, 08:58:56 AM
I used to feel similar. I never expected or wanted to live past 30. Expected I'd die of an overdose or some other related cause before then. Didn't happen. Now I'm there.
And now I can't imagine myself living much past 50 either. But I'm sure this will change once I'm close to that age.

You're not alone, I've been moving up the bar every few years myself.
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Sarah Louise

Life has a strange way of "just happening" you best make plans to live long past 50.

I know when I was young I never planned on living past 21, I'm not 68+ things never seem to go the way you expect.
Nameless here for evermore!;  Merely this, and nothing more;
Tis the wind and nothing more!;  Quoth the Raven, "Nevermore!!"
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kimdp999

It seems nowadays old isn't what it used to be either.  Especially for the boomers, just look at the celebs in their late 50s plus (i.e. Madonna) who still look great.  All about diet, exercise and taking care of yourself.
Kimberly
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Huggyrei

It helps that my husband is 10 years older than me. I can always tease him for being old, which makes me feel younger :)
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formerMTF

I don't grow old. Sooner or later I end up in the front of execution company.
The constitutional republic was not intended to mean a formal democracy where behindt he curtain the military and the  espionage agencies have all the power.
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Devlyn

Quote from: formerMTF on February 17, 2013, 11:25:09 AM
I don't grow old. Sooner or later I end up in the front of execution company.

Now that's what I call going out with a bang! Hugs, Devlyn
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Shawn Sunshine

I have a curious problem with growing old, i can't see myself as an old woman, and yet i can see myself as a young woman, I wonder why that is?

I mean when I imagine dying it would be with a male form at the moment. It confuddles me.
Shawn Sunshine Strickland The Strickalator

#SupergirlsForJustice
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Trixie

I feel old and I'm 21. I'm going to have a heck of a crisis when I'm older.

Quote from: Shawn Sunshine on February 17, 2013, 04:35:04 PM
I have a curious problem with growing old, i can't see myself as an old woman, and yet i can see myself as a young woman, I wonder why that is?

I mean when I imagine dying it would be with a male form at the moment. It confuddles me.

I used to feel similarly. I tihnk it's because I haven't really had a ton of older woman as role models in my life time, but it sort of changed when I remembered all my teachers from HS and the like who were usually female and up in age. The good ones, of course.
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