Are you sure you're not just really, really gay?

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Quote from: DianaP on February 21, 2013, 10:31:03 PM
Are you sure you're not just really, really gay?

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Oh god help I think I'm dying
Death by laughter, how cruel!

"Oh stop it, you're a girl. Just get over it."

No, you get over it. 

"Just get a boyfriend already if it means that much to you."

I will, eventually, and he'll call me Diana. 

"You've been walking your boyfriend home."
"Yeah."
"Are you a lesbian?"

I almost cracked up. Or maybe, I did; I don't remember since it was a couple of years ago. Still XD

"So you're gay then?"

Me: No, I just know in my heart that I'm a female trapped in a males physical body.

"All gay guys feel that way I'm sure, you're just gay"

This hasn't been said to me, but I've heard it said to others:

"You know, changing your gender is a really big step.  Why don't you try being gay first?"

"Beauty is only skin deep, but stupid is to the bone!"

-Sandy

Oh yes, because getting more practice at being what you're not is the ideal preparation for being what you are .

Quote from: sophieoftn on February 21, 2013, 10:21:50 PM
"This is just another obsessive phase"

I've had similar to this, even from my shrink!

"How can you be sure this isn't a temporary fixation, like the past ones you've had due to your Aspergers?"

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on February 25, 2013, 07:57:12 PM
I've had similar to this, even from my shrink!

"How can you be sure this isn't a temporary fixation, like the past ones you've had due to your Aspergers?"

This wasn't from a shrink but from a bishop who thought he understood the issue because he had supposedly seen a documentary.

A conversation today reminded me of this line when someone found out I was trans "you must like burlesque then"
Of course I like watching attractive, fit women wearing sexy clothes, like that won't make my dysphoria worse or anything 

Quote from: Jayne on February 26, 2013, 01:25:23 PM
A conversation today reminded me of this line when someone found out I was trans "you must like burlesque then"
Of course I like watching attractive, fit women wearing sexy clothes, like that won't make my dysphoria worse or anything 

I can't fathom how trans* and burlesque would even be related.

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on February 26, 2013, 04:50:24 PM
I can't fathom how trans* and burlesque would even be related.

Sort of along these lines, my brother (who is gay) recently asked me for advice on doing drag. I was like, "dude I have no idea do you see me ever wear dresses or makeup? I'm a dyke, not a queen."

But bless his heart, he's been really easy to talk to since I opened up to him about my transition.

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on February 26, 2013, 04:50:24 PM
I can't fathom how trans* and burlesque would even be related.

In the minds of the general public, transsexuals and drag queens are the same thing. DQ's are known to do the occasional burlesque show (or similar), and thus and so any and all trans people also do drag and burlesque.

Also in the mind of the general public, any male-bodied person who dresses even remotely feminine is likely a DQ.



Oh well, c'est la vitamins.

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on February 26, 2013, 04:50:24 PM
I can't fathom how trans* and burlesque would even be related.

My reply was to just stand there with my mouth opening & closing like a goldfish, it's not often i'm lost for words.

Beths answer is pretty much what I concluded but it took a while to reach that conclusion.
To be fair to the man he was polite & accepting but just a little off course with this question, his other questions were all reasonable & he had no issues over my transition, I think this is why the question stumped me, it was so out of the blue

Quote from: encircle me on February 26, 2013, 04:58:47 PM
Sort of along these lines, my brother (who is gay) recently asked me for advice on doing drag. I was like, "dude I have no idea do you see me ever wear dresses or makeup? I'm a dyke, not a queen."

Right there with you .

My mother told me : This is only a problem because you think about it too much. Why dont you try to think about something else instead?


Dad : You have never liked yourself, if you learn to do that you will be happy but this is not something that will make you feel better.

A so called friend on Xbox has gotten really touchy since I came out, he'll get stroppy at the slightest hint of innuendo nowdays.

If I mention anything trans related he interrupts with "I'm not interested in that gay s***", he goes off the deep end if he thinks anyone has hinted he's not 110% straight as in his words "he finds it offensive to be called gay", I tell him over & over that I find it offensive to be called gay as i'm a heterosexual pre-op MTF transsexual not a gay man.

After mentioning that I was suicidal last week he cut me off with his "i'm not interested" rant the other day so i've sent messages to other friends to warn them that next time we're all in the Xbox party i'm going to deliberately provoke this reaction & then give him both barrels, including the line "you're so far in the closet you're about to trip over next years xmas presents & break your arm landing in Narnia"
I'm waiting till our normal social group are all together to give him maximum humiliation & then he'll be removed from my friends list, several friends have said that when I remove him they will do the same in support.

Quote from: Jayne on February 27, 2013, 12:25:15 PM
"you're so far in the closet you're about to trip over next years xmas presents & break your arm landing in Narnia"

KABOOM!

I'm sure that there's room for some disagreement as to your approach here, but I for one am a fan of seeing a sh*t head get (figuratively) punched in the face.  Good on ya.

Quote from: encircle me on February 27, 2013, 12:29:13 PM
KABOOM!

I'm sure that there's room for some disagreement as to your approach here, but I for one am a fan of seeing a sh*t head get (figuratively) punched in the face.  Good on ya.

I've been patient with him for over 2yrs now but he refuses to change his ways, I told hm a few weeks ago that I find his attitude offensive mainly due to the fact that he goes mental if someone calls his sexuality into question even jokingly, his response was "I say what I want, if people don't like it they can (naughty words deleted)", he constantly makes jokes about other peoples sexual orientation & the hypocrisy winds us all up.

Even people who have known him personally for many years get angry about his attitude & many people have told him to take a hike, every person on my friends list who knows him is sure he's in the closet, it's gotten to the point that many friends set their Xbox to show they're offline & then send me & others a message that they will only join us in the party once he's gone offline.

Quote from: Jayne on February 27, 2013, 03:08:43 PM
I've been patient with him for over 2yrs now but he refuses to change his ways, I told hm a few weeks ago that I find his attitude offensive mainly due to the fact that he goes mental if someone calls his sexuality into question even jokingly, his response was "I say what I want, if people don't like it they can (naughty words deleted)", he constantly makes jokes about other peoples sexual orientation & the hypocrisy winds us all up.

Even people who have known him personally for many years get angry about his attitude & many people have told him to take a hike, every person on my friends list who knows him is sure he's in the closet, it's gotten to the point that many friends set their Xbox to show they're offline & then send me & others a message that they will only join us in the party once he's gone offline.

That guy sounds like a tool.

"You know, I always liked that you were a girl that doesn't fit the mold when it comes to gender. I was always proud of that."

So....now you're not proud because I'm a boy? Flawless logic you have there, Mom.