It says it in the title, did you let your parents choose your name when you transitioned? I chose Joey on my own, but I'm wondering wether I should allow my parents to have an input. Joey feels like me, but then again it feels closer to my female name so I'm starting to dislike it and I'm thinking about changing it. Did your parents have a say?

Joey

They sucked so bad at it the first time, no second chances.

I chose mine based on a name I got used to because of games, it sounded similar to  my old name, and has the same initial.  However, when I was talking to my mum about what I would have been called if she had the choice, I found out it would have been Rebecca. Shame I like that name, and half wished I had known before; as it would also have given some involvement to my mum with my transition.  Ah well I'm still happy with my name!

No, I named myself. I did like the name they picked out if I had been a cis boy, but ultimately that ship had sailed for me. I already had a name that chose me.

Well yes and no I chose my name when I was 6 then I found out later that's what I would have been named had I been born a girl. But I chose my name or maybe it chose me. Anyway I love it!

Nah, named myself. Course, my mom's been dead since I was a teen, and I rarely talk to my dad, plus he lives nearly 1000 miles away. If I had a closer relationship I might have considered asking him for input.

Though I'm pre-transition, I will tell you with ease that my parents will NOT have a say in my name.  I won't allow it.  For the money and time I'm going to invest in changing it, no one will have the final say but me.  Plus, knowing that they won't be supportive, they wouldn't help me pick anyway.

i let my parents pick mine since its their right and i was not in a position to complain as i was not mentally in the best shape

My parents had both a boys and a girls name picked out when I was born.
I got the boys name    and my sister that came 1 1/2 years later got the girls name.
Took me awhile to decided but I named myself and am very happy with it.
I see no reason for our parents to rename us.
In my case the family has basically ostracised me for transitioning.
So they didn't have any say in my new name.
That's there problem not mine.
Hugs,
Jillieann

I haven't come out to my parents yet, though I do know what my mother would have named me if I was born a girl: Brittany. Eugh.  I'm pretty sure that once I come out by and large people (well, those who will still have something to do with me) will expect me to just use the feminized form of my given name, which IMO is just as bad. I've already gone through one name change, where I forced people to use my first name instead of my middle when I was around 14 because while I didn't mind the full version (Joshua) I absolutely hated the fact that everybody just called me Josh. I hate Josh. If my parents want to give me suggestions, I'll listen to them, but at the end of the day, it's my name and it's something that I am going to have to live with for the rest of my life, so I might as well change it to something I like.

I've always been partial to Catherine...

Hmm.....

I chose my own name but it is based off my male name. So in a way we both renamed me.

I haven't come out to anyone yet other than my sister and a very open minded friend (Who very much helped my calm myself when i needed it.) but when i do come out I feel my name is my own to pick Being called Kitten makes me so much more comfortable with myself so i couldn't imagine having to take a name other than that^^

Hmm... I guess I would have been known by my sister's name. I don't like Anna, though, and my sister already has it.
I'll stick with Zoe.

I have read on laura's playground, which has a forum for parents that some parents who are very supportive, feel slighted by not being able to chose a name. Of course these are VERY involved parents who are so involved they have checked out a forum for people who are trans. I didn't get the idea your's were at this point and that at least your mom was not supportive.
Otoh, some kids on there did chose their own names and their parents were happy with the names. I think with a parent like that you could involve them to some extent if you really had a good idea.

I know what my name might have been if I had been born male, as I asked once. I would love to have remembered the full context of that one!!! But I don't like the name that much. I am thinking of it being my first name, which I would not really use, but it could be on my name change papers.

There are advantages and disadvantages to a name that sounds like your given name. I sometimes hear my chosen name when people make mistakes. So that's kind of nice. It also doesn't sound real foriegn where I would have to get used to it.

FWIW I love the name Joey. I think it would fit an energetic person.

--Jay

The first name I picked was feminine version of my old name. Only one letter difference and after some times I started to hate it because of its resemblance to my old name and it reminded me everything I wanted leave behind. Then there was two names I really liked and my sister helped me to pick one and I had no clue about a middle name but wanted to have one because everyone in my family have three names and two of my close friends picked my middle name.

Yes and no.

I've been telling them since I was 5 years old that I'm male. When I was about 7-8 years old, my mum got so exasperated with me constantly telling her to call me by a boy's name that she blurted out that she'd originally thought I was going to be born a boy; it was a 'gut feeling' she'd had during her pregnancy. So my parents had planned to name me after my grandfathers.

When I was born apparently female they changed it round so I was named after one of my grandmothers instead but the memory of what my mother said stayed with me.

So when I decided to transition, I considered a lot of names that I really liked... but I decided that the most 'healing' thing for me to do would be to go back to the original birth name my parents had chosen for me had I been born physically male. I changed the spelling of my first name slightly to one I prefer, but it's essentially the name I was supposed to have in the first place.

I didn't even think about that to be honest. I just picked a name and I didn't ask for permission

I remember my parents telling me when I was younger what they would have called me if I had been born a girl and I've always liked it as a name.  I got lucky because when I was born, Rebecca was one of the most popular girl's names so when my sister was born my parents decided to give her a different name.

I've never been really fond of my male name so I think they picked a better girl's name for me  .

Bex

I gave my mom the option to help me choose my name. She said that I am a smart woman and she was sure I would choose a good name. I never gave my dad a choice.

Prior to my transition I got it out of my parents that my name would have been Emma.
unfortunately for me this is my little sisters name so no luck there. When I was a kid I was going to be "Amy" which was like my "Secret name" but ultimately once I grew up I felt like I needed more letters.

After I'd begun my transition my mum wasn't friendly or accepting at all at first defiantly declaring that my name had and would always be my male name.

I didn't get along at all with my dad he was estranged and I only begun speaking to him again BECAUSE he wasn't a massive dick about it. (Well he was at first but I tore a strip of him about it because he was a fail dad) My dad gave me my original boy name which was crap and he gave me a series of other names which were also mostly crap... never the less I was going to pick one of them anyway, but all my friends said his choices were awful. Asking them they produced several names, a couple of names came up.
Alice was one of them which is what I picked.