i need some advice. i dont even know how to say this as im realy nevous.

i want to talk ot my parents about me cross dressing as i want to tell them how i feel and i want to see if i can bemyself / dress up at home instead of just in my room.

maybe im silly but i dont want to hide what i do and i just want to be myself at home if my parents will let me.

i spend mostof the day longing for it to be bedtime so i can go in my room and dress up and its tearing me apart becuase its so hard just spending all day longing to be your fem self and when the time finaly comes where i get to dress up in my room i wish i could stay my fem self forever n not go back to my male self.

iv been looking for the right time to tell my parents n i even tried tonight but i dont know how to tell them.

i know iv got to tell them soon very soon just for my peace of mind.

Hi Tammy,

What can anyone say except can you pluck up the courage? What time is a good time? Are you ready for the potential consequences which may follow. From your previous posts you still have to deal with the issue of another home if your parents completely reject your fem self.

What are you looking for? Someone to say sure just go ahead? We can't make that choice for you. You have to do it. If you are resolved to do this than just do it. We can be here to give you support and some helpful advice on picking up the pieces if everything falls apart beyond that the rest is up to you. Proceed with caution.

Cassie

Very well said Cassie.
I am just like you Tammy.

This is what I am doing: Make it "sort of" obvious that your doing these things...
For example..if your mom lays out clothes for herself before bed, for in the morning, mess them up a bit. This way you can be "hinting" on about it. Next start singing a girly song, very lighly..softly as it were. Eventually your mom may confront you, or you may have to confront her.

This is what I am doing, but I am ever so carefull...

Good luck Tammy.

- Lexxi

Any time we cross the border between how people perceive us and who we are there are bound to be emotional earthquakes.   People have a lot of emotions along with their own sense of identity tied into how they percieve another's sexual identity.  Changing your projected identity from male to female or female to male is full of emotional land mines.

My advice is to walk through this mind field carefully being mindful that there is no way to truly judge another's reactions.

QuoteWhat are you looking for? Someone to say sure just go ahead? We can't make that choice for you. You have to do it.

I wasnt looking for someone to say just go ahead.I was just trying to figure out what to say to my parents.

Its sorted now.

I was up untill the early hours of the morning writing a letter
explaining how i feel to my mum and i left it out by my mums cigs
and she read it.

It took me 2 hours to write that letter and i was so scared incase i got kicked out for it i even had a nightmare about my parents being upset and hurt about the letter.

When i got up this morning i went in and saw my mum and she said she would never kick me out for that.

She said as long as i dont like other men then thats fine

she also said she wouldnt encourage what i do and also that she couldnt see me dressed up.

but atleast i got it out in the open and atleast i got it off of my chest.

A very big step forward Tammy,

I am very glad for you that it has turned out so welll for you so far.

Shelley

Very good Tammy! ^_^

I imagine that would be how my mom reacts as well.
Maybe worse..maybe better..
You are one lucky girl to have that great of a mom ^_^

thanks guys.Im realy happy how things have turned out.

i have one last question.

do you think anyone would notice if i wore womans clothes under my own like a camisole under my mens shirt etc.

thanks again.

Nah, ^_^ as long as it isn't remotely visible, you haven't got a problem (I'd bet you shouldn't wear white). If its longer than a normal camisole, then just wear a longer t-shirt or wear long sleeves...but I'm pretty sure you could get away with a lot.
Your lucky..I haven't even wore panties under my boxers yet..afraid I might have an unexpected gym class.

Also, since I have no clothes of my own..my sisters clothes are sooo small..shes only like 5'4" and I'm 5'10"..I hate it..
Some of my moms clothes fit better, but my sisters are wayyyyy better!
My cousin is about the same height as me, and size. She will probably msuggle some old clothes of hers or clothes she doesn't wear a lot, into my back pack next time I go there.

Edit: Lol sorry..I keep bringing stuff up about myself in everyones topics.
Sorry 

I didnt use to have any clothes n i used to have to wear others but then i got a switch and then i started buying clothes online untill i was comfy with going in to girls shops which is only recently.

Sadly i dont have many clothes but in the next few weeks i will build up my collection.

QuoteI haven't even wore panties under my boxers yet..afraid I might have an unexpected gym class.

iv managed to wear them without anyone knowing but i dont have gym.I would be worried about people seeing them if i did.

i will try on my different shirts to see which ones cover my other clothes up the best.

Quote from: tammygirluk on November 26, 2005, 10:21:39 AM
I didnt use to have any clothes n i used to have to wear others but then i got a switch and then i started buying clothes online untill i was comfy with going in to girls shops which is only recently.

Sadly i dont have many clothes but in the next few weeks i will build up my collection.

iv managed to wear them without anyone knowing but i dont have gym.I would be worried about people seeing them if i did.

i will try on my different shirts to see which ones cover my other clothes up the best.

Oh I take it you are around 18 or 19?
I don't have a credit card..
I'm never here to get packages delivered either..

You are really lucky Tammy.
Hope your collecting goes well
Agh..If I had the courage to get on these websites before..at a younger age..I would already have an amzing life..but nope..just decided to these days..

Anyways, good luck!!