I was sitting at my roommates work and the manager knows I'm trans because my roommate told her in passing conversation. She came up and asked if I was his roommate and she said "I have to tell you that your plastic surgeon did a FANTASTIC job on you.. you can't even tell"... I haven't had FFS and when I told her she was stunned.

Some scamming tech support guy called me up to tell me my windoze 8 laptop was infected with a virus and that he was from Microsoft. Im half asleep but quickly caught on. I sent this guy packing. Thoughout it I was ma'amed.and I wasn't even trying.

Ive also been called a dyke by some kid who lived next door.

Quote from: peky on March 23, 2012, 08:56:49 AM
So I was going late to my endo appointment so I was going a little bit to fast down the highway, and, yes you guess, the police stop me.

Policeman: Do you know why I am stopping you ma'am
Me: I was going to fast
Policeman: Licence and registration ma'am
Me: "hands the documents"
Policeman: you gave me the wrong license!
Me: No, that is me
Policeman: Do you have another form of ID with a picture ?
Me: "gives him my employee ID"
Policeman: Well, I am going to give you a ticket for speeding! Wait in the car!
Policeman: Please sign, and go slow ma'am

So, it is like I am so happy I pass and he called "ma'am." So, I get to the endo, and in the parking lot I look at the ticket, well what you know: he marked me "F" under sex, and to topple the cake marked my eye color as hazel!

The bad news is that after all the speeding not to be late, the endo was not there! They have cancelled my appointment and never notified me; add to that about $ 100 fine. But well I am still happy I am finally not misgender by my appearance

So, almost a year has passed and much changes in my life...all my papers including my "birth certificate" bear F instead of M. My name has legally changed. I have not been misgendered in a long time...so life is good.

Now, let me share a funny story that happened to me last week. So, I am going to a meeting in another building, and the entrance there is huge (tall and wide) corridor that leads to a glass double door. So, I am walking towards the doors when I see this gorgeous girls coming the other way, so I am like "turning my radar on," when...LOL....I realize that gorgeous girls is my own reflection...


So, I guess the moral of the story is "you know you pass when you pass to yourself"  LOL

Quote from: peky on February 28, 2013, 02:55:48 PM
So, almost a year has passed and much changes in my life...all my papers including my "birth certificate" bear F instead of M. My name has legally changed. I have not been misgendered in a long time...so life is good.

Now, let me share a funny story that happened to me last week. So, I am going to a meeting in another building, and the entrance there is huge (tall and wide) corridor that leads to a glass double door. So, I am walking towards the doors when I see this gorgeous girls coming the other way, so I am like "turning my radar on," when...LOL....I realize that gorgeous girls is my own reflection...


So, I guess the moral of the story is "you know you pass when you pass to yourself"  LOL

That was great!!! It made me smile. 

OMG, ROFL!

I was just telling this story to one of my friends today, forgot all about it, so I thought I'd share it here. When I was about 16 I used to take a cab back and forth to the school program I was in because it was specialized and far away. I shared it with one of my guy friends who was also in the program because he lived pretty close to me. The school payed for it all. This was around the time I wasn't out as trans, but I passed everywhere pretty much at all times. So we get a cab driver who just starts going on and on about women drivers and all other kinds of misogyny. On and on for about a half hour, the whole time I'm just sitting right next to him in the passenger seat and I'm just pretty much saying nothing trying to not psychorage on this guy, and my friends in the back just laughing, not because he bought into any of the BS just because of the hilarity of this driver bashing women relentlessly with a "girl" sitting right next to him. I was just trying not to strangle him in anger 

Also, same friend. Meeting his mom for the first time. We talked for about 10 minutes before I left with him and my other friend to go hang out at like a park or something and he tells me later, "So, my mom and I were talking after I got back, and she was like "Umm, I don't mean to be rude, but your friend, does it hurt him to wear pants that tight?" (I was wearing skinny jeans with a way oversized sweater and jacket overtop) I'm still amazed I passed in skinny jeans. Ahh the advantages of youth, no way that would happen now 

Ever since I started growing my hair out...about 7? years ago?? people have mam'd me. I'm not sure why. Just started the pills last month, still dress in guy clothes (except for my pants), and my voice is very deep. The kind of deep that women find it soothing, so I've been told. At the time it was embarrassing (especially in the accompaniment of my mom or dad, though of course then "mam" wouldn't be used, some other pronoun).  Now I'm used to it. I'll turn my head and look if someone calls out a feminine caller and I think they want to talk to me or something.

I've stopped going to public bathrooms as much as possible. Getting weird looks is something I haven't quite gotten over yet. In university, I've had many a boy leave the bathroom as I was washing my hands and come back in. So I started using the few family bathrooms in the schol at the time. Still happens now when there's not another guy in there with me. Unfortunately Korea has no such thing as family bathrooms, so I've been holding it when I can.

2 years ago when I was attending language school, another foreigner (someone from south asia, I think) asked me bluntly "are you a girl? I can't tell." ..Now, my thinking is, why wouldn't you just ask something like, "Where are you from? How are you? or something simple to figure it out for yourself by using ears? 1 classmate at the time (first day of class) from Cambodia saw me, thought I was girl, said hi, and when I replied....very surprised. Said it was because long haired guys don't exist where she's from.

Speaking of baths...a friend of mine kept me out late at night 1 time so we were forced to sleep in a sort of bath house, which if you don't know are segregated (hated it, not my cup of tea). When we checked in, the staff there double checked to make sure I was really a guy (I had to say something as evidence) and all the guys at some point stared for more than 3 seconds at me. If not 3, I could feel it/saw it for a long time. Some looked more than 5 times. 1 of the male staffers finally said something to me when I checked out saying something like "you look like a girl, I was so confused."    --I totally disagree with his comment, but thank you anyway.   

Said friend also has me meet his friends. Many of his female friends say "oh, I thought you were a girl" upon meeting me (what a nice greeting...). Too bad my voice and bone structure disagrees.

Moments when I realized I passed

1. When at graduation the usher looked at me and said "You can't be 'guy name' you must be Mallory." Graduation being an important detail; as I was wearing an agendered black gown. Therefore, he could only guess at my gender from my face and determined that "I couldn't" be male.
2. At a friend's baby shower later that same day her aunt said something about "she-males. My friend looks at her and says "please do not to talk like that." She replies "I don't see any she-males here." A bitter sweet moment.
3. When a guy followed me around one day like a lost puppy.
4. When my former best friend made a move on me. 

Whenever the guy sitting next starts to flirt. 

Got really lucky myself had an awesome experience first time i went out. I think i said in a post before but the first time i went out i was accosted by a man trying to chat me up in the street. Ok the guy was a total creep but none the less it felt awsome to think that he saw me as an attractive female. Its also a massive confidence boost. If i had been seen as male, and someone had said something it could have had the opposite effect. Strangely though now even though it was confidence boosting i dont care if i do get a look now and again if someone recognises that im trans, as long as nobody say anything.

Quote from: anya on March 05, 2013, 04:19:20 AM
Whenever the guy sitting next starts to flirt. 

LOL... This is something that took some getting use to 

Quote from: V M on March 05, 2013, 06:44:15 AM
LOL... This is something that took some getting use to 

But once you get used to, it will be one of the best things coz you can flirt back LoL

Yesterday I had a Deportment session with someone I had been told about and she homes schools her 11 year old daughter. -Tallelulah. She said the nicest thing to me, by saying when we first met, that she would never have known had her Mum not told her about me as she commented that I had no Adams apple. very small hands and feet and well manicured nails with little makeup on.

I was wearing a nice summer dress too.

Its nice when even an 11 year old reckons one passes.

Hugs
JudithLynn

I had to go to the hospital for some test a few months ago...

Nurse: Ms. Clements, when was your last period?
Me: ummm in high school I think. It was social studies if I remember right.
Nurse: you haven't had a period since high school?
Me: Nope.
Nurse looking confused: you've not had a period since high school?
Me: I don't have periods.
Nurse: did have a tubal ligation?
Me: I'm a transsexual.
Nurse: ....OH! Ummm... I had no idea!

It made my day.

Closest I've gotten was in Detroit. Full male mode, 3 days out from a shave (albeit shortly after laser), got called "ma'am" and "she" by two different hotel workers. Once in my car in near-darkness; the other on foot in full daylight.
I did not bother correcting them.

Still got a ways to go, though.

Me and my roommate were meeting his friend who lives on Bourbon street. We hung out at a couple of bars for a few minutes and then went back to his place to hang out.  Then me and my roommate came back home. When we got home, my roommate said on the way back to our car his friend said "I thought you said your roommate was trans." "She is trans" said my roommate. The friend said "Oh wow... I mean I was looking for things and I found a couple that made me say "well maybe. But if you never would have told me I wouldn't have known." Then my roommate quoted him to say "She could've fooled me."


I could have fooled him huh? Lol I'll take it as a compliment

I had to go to the store last Saturday night and a car full of students were driving a large SUV rather wildly in the store's parking lot and nearly hit me so I flipped them the bird

So as I'm locking up my bike an older woman walks by and quips "That wasn't very lady like, but they deserved it... Good for you hon" 

I bumped into a former Valeo Sylvania HR manager whom I had had a lot of contact with pre transition. We chatted for a bit but he did not recognize me at all. It was really amusing.

Then when my Wife and I went to Home Depot to buy an appliance dolly, the guy who helped us find them said to his buddy when I approached them, "See if you can move that pallet while I help these two lovely ladies."

On the phone several times now people have asked to speak to Mr. J. F***** and they have been people I haven't notified yet about my transition or I'm still working with them. But when I have said, "Speaking", there is always this pause like they don't quite believe me. Some of them have continued to call me ma'am.

The real kicker is that I haven't changed my voice. lol

One of my friend's son turned one so my son and I went to his birthday party. While the kids (this includes the men ) were playing the women were talking. The other mothers were talking about their pregnancies, and I was just listening in. One of the mothers turned towards me and asked if I had an easy pregnancy with my son. That was great!

Quote from: Brooke777 on March 31, 2013, 09:46:48 AM
One of my friend's son turned one so my son and I went to his birthday party. While the kids (this includes the men ) were playing the women were talking. The other mothers were talking about their pregnancies, and I was just listening in. One of the mothers turned towards me and asked if I had an easy pregnancy with my son. That was great!

OMG, that is wonderful!  So...how was your "pregnancy"?  (Seriously, how did you respond?)