Unconditional love does not come with a price,or it is no longer Unconditional.I will be very honest with you about what i see and i have dealt with the same thing,the only difference is,i am not in college or any of that
sort.My mother is literally the master of manipulation.There are many forms of guilt tripping and my mother knew them all like the back of her hand.I myself refused to contact her because of these things.She was a (only making clear the situation) religious bigot who believed *follow what i do and everything will be fine,dont and i will make your life a living hell* and i was always her main target because-suprise,i didnt follow that.She would try and call me,if i answered, the chat would go something like this
*Why do you always treat me so bad?! you do so many bad things and yet i still love you! i never do anything wrong so i dont understand why you do this to me! your a whore,a drug addict and drunk-*30 minutes later* what?! i never said that! stop putting words into my mouth! you need to get your life straight because your a complete mess!* now thats just over the
phone.in person it would go something like this *you need to stop sleeping and get up to clean the house* *--but i only got maybe 6 hours sleep?* *cries* you dont love me then! fine,ill go rott somewhere so you will be happy!!* I dont need some selfish woman reminding ME of how much she has done for me along with all the trash she put me through,should a small moment in my life measure up to all of the poor actions she has shown me? this from the same woman that forced ME to clean up her puke after a night of binge drinking,and at the same told me i was worthless.We all know what is right and wrong,one can say *i love you and have DONE so much for you* as if we owe them something in return and as someone else stated,WE DO NOT owe them nothing.We must pay for your love and attention? no thanks,i would rather live a lonely,decayed life in a dark box.But actions speak louder then words,so for me,saying *i love you* means nothing when you treat me that way.She was the same way also,she would remind me how much of a bad parent i was after taking my kid,then would be so innocent *come back home -so i can run your life- your always welcome* and i told her the last time *i would rather live on the side walk with a tiger tied to my ankle*.Its very hard,its hard to feel alone during so many things in ones life and to know that those same people,use you or treat you like trash but there comes a point for us ALL that we must accept it and either 1) stick around and deal with it for the rest of our lives,even making the problem worse,letting them think they can or 2) refuse to be stepped on and walk away willingly,become our OWN
person.it hurts but it makes us 10 times stronger in the
end.YOU know what these things mean to you,what they have done to you,what is right and wrong so for YOU,do what you know is right.but no matter what you choose,remain strong and NEVER lose your pride.
