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Started by Catherine Sarah, March 05, 2013, 07:44:50 AM

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Catherine Sarah

Hi Sky Blue,
Quote from: Sky-Blue on March 13, 2013, 02:07:21 PM
What about people who wish to have androgynous expression? Does that mean that they will never pass? (because androgyny breaks the binary)
I personally believe this gets to the root of the misconception of "passibility."

Visual perceptions are our first form of recognition of safety, comfort, feeding etc, etc. It later developes into the standard dress of people we see in society. Red fuzzy hair, big red nose and oversized pants and white make-up and I'll pass as a clown (sometimes I don't have to dress like that and I'm perceived as a clown {very tongue in cheek}). White coat, I'm a Doctor, scrubs, I'm a surgeon, stripped apron, a butcher, blue overalls, a mechanic, blue shirt and trousers with a pistol, a policeman.

So; I'm a manager of a business, but there is no standard of dress to denote me as a "manager," my Orthopist has no standard of dress, nor does my local magistrate, or my lawyer, postman, clergyman. So why do I honour and respect their individual forte? It's the way they present themselves with their views / ideologies in their appropriate profession.

If my local magistrate can't or inappropraitely adjuicates a simple legal situation, the clergyman unable to answer a simple bibical question, the postman unable to tell me the correct postage, then my perception of their "passibility" will be drawn into question.

Converesly, if my self attitude, understanding of who I am, gender wise, is ambiguous or misleading in any way, shape or form, irrespective of how I am visually perceived, will draw my presence into suspicion.

Stella Young from ABC ramp up is a gifted woman. She commands a presence that cannot be ignored, and that is before she opens her mouth. Yes; she is gifted in her physical presentation but that does not detract from the mere presence she commands. Once she does talk, there is no other aspect of her giftedness that comes into the equation.

So what I'm saying is; it's how we perceive ourself to ourself, is what is radiated outward to our field of influence. Be that us at home, office, park, restaurant, whatever. This is our "passibility." The rest pales to insignificance.

Quote from: Sky-Blue on March 13, 2013, 02:07:21 PM
There is no cure for GID, simply because it is not a disorder but simply just the result of biological variation..

Personally, I'm inclined to respectfully disagree about the curability of GID. I feel there would be many here, alone, without taking into consideration the major proportion of post operative women would be in substantial agreement, their GID was cured. Certainly I acknowldge that surgery is not the only key to the cure. It is a implementation and acceptance of therapy, education, assimilation, surgery and support that are the driving factors in the cure.

I've always perceived myself as an XY woman. I've never subscribed to the stereotypical "wrong body" syndrome. This body of mine, simply represents minor aberrations. Certainly mild to moderate dysphoria has played its part in my life, but a solution has always been available. Enacting the solution is entirely another matter.

With respect
Catherine




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Keira

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So what I'm saying is; it's how we perceive ourself to ourself, is what is radiated outward to our field of influence. Be that us at home, office, park, restaurant, whatever. This is our "passibility." The rest pales to insignificance.

I totally agree with you, it makes so much more sense from that perspective. :)

Also, I wanted to say that I understand that sometimes it's safer to be stealth. So, sorry if I seemed rude...I just don't ascribe to the concept of "passing according to the binary".

Quote from: Catherine Sarah on March 13, 2013, 09:04:42 PM
Personally, I'm inclined to respectfully disagree about the curability of GID. I feel there would be many here, alone, without taking into consideration the major proportion of post operative women would be in substantial agreement, their GID was cured. Certainly I acknowldge that surgery is not the only key to the cure. It is a implementation and acceptance of therapy, education, assimilation, surgery and support that are the driving factors in the cure.

It all depends on the definition of GID. I probably should have clarified what I meant specifically...

My point was that a MAAB/FAAB person with GID cannot be cured in the right that they lose their internal feeling of being female (or male in the case of a FAAB person). The only thing that can be cured is the gender dysphoria associated with being Trans*.

Respectfully

-Sky
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