Ok so I wanted to know if anyone is willing to share any dysphoria triggers which one might consider almost comical in nature or goofy.

I myself since I started my current job have been told I have a striking resemblance to a certain Showtime serial killer. In fact a good chunk of the staff have taken to referring to me as "Dexter" on numerous occasions based on me being some kind of Michael C Hall look alike. It's always bothered me and I know they are just joking but being told you look like a popular  male actor for some reason causes me serious dysphoria.

Silly I know. 

The worst thing is, after almost 6 months on hormones, no facial hair and longer hair, i'm still getting called Dexter! Which makes me think that I haven't really changed and people still see that Michael C Hall lookalike! They get confused when I get upset because apparently and I quote "Michael C Hall is sexy and cool" but what I can't tell them is it hurts because I don't want to look like a guy! Even a sexy cool one! 

Anyways...I just though I would share that silliness. 

Idk, my feet look pretty goofy, lulz.

Tinkerbell!  I immediately go nuts over Tinkerbell, and I really can't control it.  Like I turn into a child and sulk.   And the only tattoo I will ever want is a small Tink on my left breast or near the top of my left shoulder.   Wow. 

By the way, I had a scruffy beard and long hair in 1995 when all the cops were looking for Ted Kaczynski (the Unabomber).  They had a crude sketch of a shaggy bearded guy, and everyone at work wondered about me, and jokingly called me Unabomber.  After Ted was caught the same people started calling me Kaczynski, and that continued until I left.   At least they were relieved they weren't working with a mad man. 

K

I have two goofy triggers:

1.  When a woman calls me "handsome".  I don't want to be handsome, I want to be beautiful.  BIG difference.

2.  When a woman comes on to me with the "I want you NOW" look.  I like women and am attracted to women.  However, that hungry look in their expression makes me think "would they want me if they knew everything that was hiding under these clothes?  What is hiding inside this body?".   

I should probably quit hiding but I'm just not ready....yet.

I just pulled up two additional windows, one with MaidofOrleans' picture and a current one of Michael Hall.  I don't see much resemblance.  Now, I am not attracted to men but I did find a 15 year old picture of Michael Hall with a clean shaven look, longer and larger more wind blown hair, plucked and shaped eyebrows, smooth complexion, no real hint of an adams apple and the shape of his lips, he was pretty good looking....it that adrogynous sort of way that some women like.  He was cute but not handsome, male but not masculine.

Quote from: JLT1 on March 21, 2013, 12:26:26 AM
I just pulled up two additional windows, one with MaidofOrleans' picture and a current one of Michael Hall.  I don't see much resemblance.

Did the same thing, I couldn't see any resemblance too. Sorry MaidofOrleans you Not a hottie guy like him. You are just an amazingly cute and a very very pretty girl.

The thing with nick names is once people get used to one it will going to stick with you for a long time. after a while it will not depend on the way you look or things you do. I have a  friend who is pretty smart and good looking too. but for what ever reason some one called him "Dumb A**" when we are in Junior school and it got stuck with him for ever. Even today almost after 15 years he is still the "Dumb A**" eventhough he is running an entire IT department of one of the leading software developers here. I know it sounds awful but no one used it as offensive term to insult him and he never asked to stopped calling him by that too.

So till you come out in the work place and asked them not to call you that explaining things I'm sure some people will call you by that name.

IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE WAY YOU LOOK.

You are one pretty girl and  Don't you ever forget that young lady lol. I wish I was half as good looking as you.

Quote from: anya on March 21, 2013, 01:17:44 AM
Did the same thing, I couldn't see any resemblance too. Sorry MaidofOrleans you Not a hottie guy like him. You are just an amazingly cute and a very very pretty girl.

The thing with nick names is once people get used to one it will going to stick with you for a long time. after a while it will not depend on the way you look or things you do. I have a  friend who is pretty smart and good looking too. but for what ever reason some one called him "Dumb A**" when we are in Junior school and it got stuck with him for ever. Even today almost after 15 years he is still the "Dumb A**" eventhough he is running an entire IT department of one of the leading software developers here. I know it sounds awful but no one used it as offensive term to insult him and he never asked to stopped calling him by that too.

So till you come out in the work place and asked them not to call you that explaining things I'm sure some people will call you by that name.

IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE WAY YOU LOOK.

You are one pretty girl and  Don't you ever forget that young lady lol. I wish I was half as good looking as you.

Awwwww thanks anya

My roommate still has a nasty habit of saying "Thank you, sir!" every single time I do something nice for her. And it's stupid, because it's supposed to be a cute little compliment, and it used to be, but now it just really sets my mind off, making me grumble. And she even still says it while I'm in "girl mode," in full wig and bust-padding and female clothes. Sigh... what can I say? Old habits die hard.

And honestly, even using my name at work is starting to bug me. The name "Charlie" is ripe for the picking when it comes to making obnoxious references... Charlie the Tuna, Charlie the Unicorn, Charlie Bit My Finger, I always seem to get at least one or two of those per day from various guests while I'm working at the poker tables. And that REALLY sets my mind off, because it's so frustrating to have people joking around with me like any other guy, assuming that I'll just do the dumb "bro" laugh and enjoy it, because that's what guys do, they rip on each-other, while they have absolutely no freaking clue that there's a girl down inside of that masculine shell. So it's gotten extremely obnoxious over the last couple of weeks, and actually makes me feel like crying a bit because it always reminds me quite bluntly of what my external reality still is.

Certain songs are goofy triggers for me

Quote from: Jamie D on March 21, 2013, 04:28:49 AM
Certain songs are goofy triggers for me

Don't make me post more broken links....

Quote from: kathy b on March 20, 2013, 10:23:13 PM
Tinkerbell!  I immediately go nuts over Tinkerbell, and I really can't control it.  Like I turn into a child and sulk.   

I get something like this. I work in a school and a lot of the girls carry backpacks, pencil holders and other stuff with really girly motifs - little mermaid, tinkerbell, hello kitty, etc, and it sends me into a funk when I see one.

 Well, I don't know if I have a "goofy" trigger, but I'm usually pretty deeply affected when I see someone crying. It's not really a trans dysphoria trigger, but it's one of the few ways I can actually empathize with someone. I see it as a very special moment in time, when it happens, because it brings me closer to a human being than I typically ever get.

I have a hard time considering a human a "fellow" human being until I see them cry.

It usually makes me cry too, or at least makes me want to. I'm not sure if it counts as a trigger, though, since I rather enjoy crying and being sad. Perhaps that's the goofy part.


Other than that, my triggers are pretty typical. Attractive women make me depressed, especially when they're happy and have friends. Mirrors are painful to look at, too. That sort of thing. 

OK, here's one that gets my day started wrong every time - waking up and feeling all feminine and stretchy, and then realizing that I've just been dreaming I'm a guy. Yecch.

-Hearing my voice on the phone. Kills me instantly. THE WORST

-Being called my old boy name.

-Male pronouns. His, he, and sir.

A number of my roomies/neighbors that hang out with us are sorta stoner types, and like to add "man" at the end of a lot of statements. I'm sure its totally not meant as a gendering phrase for them, but I cringe every time I hear it spoken to me. I suppose its just one of those male-based general terms to get used to...like "you guys" for a mixed gender group.

Girls use "you guys" all the time even when speaking to a room for all of all girls. I didn't really have dysphoria before just an intense yearning to be female ever since i was 10 or so but now when I'm called sir I hate it. I mean I've been on HRT for like at least 19 days, like WTF lol jk hahaha but seriously I long for the day I'm no longer called sir and I don't even wear male clothes anymore but the women's jeans and shirts I wear are quite andro but I'm trying to ease into it. Ironically, my one friend always says I look like KD Lang, which kinda causes dysphoria which is weird since she is a she so you'd think it would make me happier and in a way it does. But it still was the only cause I had of dysphoria pre-HRT.

Quote from: Serena Lynn on March 23, 2013, 01:15:23 PM
-Being called my old boy name.

-Male pronouns. His, he, and sir.

This. Exactly

Also the 4 or 5 days after laser when I cannot get a close shave to save my life! Today I'm on the home stretch ...until the next laser session, that is!

Quote from: Jennygirl on March 23, 2013, 05:50:05 PM
This. Exactly

Also the 4 or 5 days after laser when I cannot get a close shave to save my life! Today I'm on the home stretch ...until the next laser session, that is!

My last laser is Tuesday.

Not that theirs much left to laser...

Quote from: kkut on March 23, 2013, 05:42:35 PM
You don't look like KD Lang, but you do look a lot like my ex-wife... aaaaawkward.

Aww thanks lol maybe I am her and I'm susan stalking you lol jk is she pretty? sorry couldn't help but ask? I'm really vain.

Quote from: JLT1 on March 21, 2013, 12:03:51 AM
1.  When a woman calls me "handsome".  I don't want to be handsome, I want to be beautiful.  BIG difference.

Yep! And being told I'm a "good man" really eats my lunch.