AnarchoChloe, I'm so sorry that things are going badly for you. This is something else I'm concidering at the moment. I won't be taking a single HRT pill or any therapy outside of counciling until I talk to my wife. And at least at the moment, I'm thinking that means I need to be prepared to be ready to accept the worst possible outcome before I even think of telling her.

I sincearly pray that everything works out for you in the end.

Thanks, Amy. I don't regret telling her, it needed to happen, but I would give nearly anything to have been able to avoid the pain that she's grappling with now. Two weeks since she went walkabout and we've still not talked. I know she's safe and with some friends because they contacted me, but I have to say that I'm fearing the worst is going to come to pass.

Keep us posted hugs Shannon

I hope all works out for you, I personal know how you feel.

I lost my first wife due to not telling her about me being TG. Broke my heart and took me 5 years to find someone else, and that was a ->-bleeped-<- relationship, could not tell her anything so I finished that. Then meet my now wife through work.

Now for me that was a real good thing in one way, to got through 2 breakups, seeing I am married again.
The best thing for this relationship was to not hide who I truely am, and my wife knew before we even went out for the first time, and she still married me!
When we got married I had not truely admitted to myself I was TG, but I have now! My wife in now helpping me with my transition, and at no point do I leave her out of the loop. I see it as detremental to do so, this affects her life, so she needs to be included in every aspect of my transition. This create's a stronger bond between us!

From the wife" It allows me to process the transition in smaller amounts, making it less of a shock, and being able to workout what my issue's are with the transition, so we can work around thou's. For example when my husband said he wanted a sex change, I got upset, but having knowlege of who my husband is, I was able to deal with just one issue and relise that the only problem I had with my husband having a sex change, was I really wanted another child! So we made a deal, that way both our dreams come true!"

Honesty is the best policy! Do that from the start of any relationship, don't hide thing's from your partner, that only make's thing worse, I KNOW, I have been down that pathway and it is heart breaking!

My wife and I hope that everything works out for you and your wife, as it is for us.
Our heart goes out to you at this rough time in your life!

Hugs

Angela