How did you finally get your parents to accept that you are trans? My parents don't believe me and I don't know what to do. They make me feel like a fake and a pretender. They tell me that it's because I'm filling my mind "with all sorts of crap from the Internet".

I don't have anyone that genuinely cares about my wellbeing...so I can't bring myself to start transitioning, I feel so vulnerable when I express who I really am...I'm so depressed and I don't know what to do anymore...

It took my dad some time. From age 10-21. But now he's my biggest cheerleader. Sometimes you have to just keep trying with them

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. How long have you been out to them? From my experience, after you refuse to budge on the subject for a couple of months and show them you plan on doing whatever is necessary to make yourself happy with or without them, they usually come around. Even if they don't you'll be stronger and you'll be the bigger person for giving them the chance. After all, do you really need people who won't do anything but pull you down?

I'm in the same boat you are.  At the moment I'm halfway through a two week break from them to let things cool down since they keep saying that they could never accept me.  Hang in there, people keep assuring me that it'll take time but that they'll eventually come around.

Standing up to parents is incredibly difficult (at least for me), but if you know who you are and what you want you can't give in.

I told them last November, but they refuse to learn anything about being transgender. I feel like I have to be the encyclopedia, and I feel like I have to prove that I'm trans to them.

I just don't know why to say to them...Im so depressed because I don't have any friends and I don't want any friends because I'll have to pretend to be male. I don't get any satisfaction from friendships, how can I when they are only reacting to a fake persona? My parents keep urging me to "go out with friends" more often, but they don't understand why I don't want to.

Because of all this crap I'm questioning my gender again...because of the crap they say to me it makes me doubt that I'm trans...I've hit rock bottom and I have no one to pull me up.

I just came out to my family about 2 days ago and one of my brothers was extremely combative, inappropriate and confrontational about it all. He was pretty much demanding that I get multiple second opinions from health professionals and that telling me that I didnt know "->-bleeped-<-" and had no idea what I was getting into. And worse.
Worst thing of all is that I really look up to him, so getting all this thrown in my face was pretty damn harsh you can imagine.
Of course, I was upset, but I also started second guessing myself which was worse. The only thing that I had comfort in at this stage was that I had finally figured out where I was at and this was destroying my sense of self. I had finally found myself and wanted to share it with my family and not exclude them from this huge part of me, were I not to I would be lying to them (Besides, they'll find out something is up when one day I have boobs, speak funny and dress nicely). I got away from it all and basically told him to come back to me when he was able to talk to me like a real person. He did. His views didn't change much but at least the screaming and shouting stopped.
We have all been through a hell of a lot and the last thing we need is to be second guessing ourselves or feel the need to justify our "choice" to the rest of the world who quite frankly will pretty much never understand why.
Stay strong, remember how you got where you are, how you felt when it first clicked, how you feel when you are you and not the person that others say you are, it brings it all back.
I really hope they come around Sky-Blue.

Quote from: cynths on March 28, 2013, 12:12:29 AM
I just came out to my family about 2 days ago and one of my brothers was extremely combative, inappropriate and confrontational about it all. He was pretty much demanding that I get multiple second opinions from health professionals and that telling me that I didnt know "->-bleeped-<-" and had no idea what I was getting into. And worse.
Worst thing of all is that I really look up to him, so getting all this thrown in my face was pretty damn harsh you can imagine.
Of course, I was upset, but I also started second guessing myself which was worse. The only thing that I had comfort in at this stage was that I had finally figured out where I was at and this was destroying my sense of self. I had finally found myself and wanted to share it with my family and not exclude them from this huge part of me, were I not to I would be lying to them (Besides, they'll find out something is up when one day I have boobs, speak funny and dress nicely). I got away from it all and basically told him to come back to me when he was able to talk to me like a real person. He did. His views didn't change much but at least the screaming and shouting stopped.
We have all been through a hell of a lot and the last thing we need is to be second guessing ourselves or feel the need to justify our "choice" to the rest of the world who quite frankly will pretty much never understand why.
Stay strong, remember how you got where you are, how you felt when it first clicked, how you feel when you are you and not the person that others say you are, it brings it all back.
I really hope they come around Sky-Blue.

Thanks for understanding, I hope they come around too...

Hugs,

-Sky

I am going to suggest two books for you and your parents:

Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents [Paperback]

and

True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism--For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals [Paperback]