I've never thought about it in terms of reincarnation, but I did think that maybe it's because some people need to suffer more to make the world a better place. If there is any kind of higher power power in the universe, maybe they decided I needed to be born as a woman to be a better man. I know I'm a proud feminist because I've experienced first hand the discrimination and awful social politics women go through, and I have a deep respect for them that most of my bio guy friends just don't, because they haven't lived it. As painful as it might have been for me, it's made me the person I am today.

These sorts of questions always strike me as rather odd, admittedly.

I don't 'think' I'm transgender for any reason at all - I simply am. The reasons why are unimportant, as far as I'm concerned.

Quote from: Tristan on March 22, 2013, 01:49:47 PM
i know this sounds silly but i use to think it was magic 

Kia Ora Tristan...

Got my mojo working...



I just love Muddy Waters songs...

Metta Zenda

I'm confused by the question. Are you asking us to speculate about HOW we got this way or about WHY we were "made" this way? Both? Neither? You seem to be mixing them up, so maybe anything goes in this thread.

Stella B: Funny, I had one clear incident around that age that stood out as trans to me, but the full-blown issue didn't hit me until later.

Still waiting on some test results, but it's a real possibility that I had that post-natal organization of the brain that went in the male direction, leaving  boy brain in a girl body. I also think that the very core of who we are has no gender, but that it does have aspects seated fairly close to our core. If only that would have shown up when I was 3 or something, so that I wouldn't have been through hell. Gender was a nonissue back then; I could have claimed to be a purple stegosaurus named Bob and everyone would have laughed and gone along with it. Too bad my parents won't even try going along with it whether they agree or not. Sheesh, every time I look back on my childhood, more clues pop up.

Quote from: Arch on March 23, 2013, 02:10:07 PM
I'm confused by the question. Are you asking us to speculate about HOW we got this way or about WHY we were "made" this way? Both? Neither? You seem to be mixing them up, so maybe anything goes in this thread.

Kia Ora Arch,

Good point,...I guess it's a "Anything goes 'theory' thread" of both...

Metta Zenda

Quote from: Kuan Yin on March 23, 2013, 04:30:45 PM
Kia Ora Arch,

Good point,...I guess it's a "Anything goes 'theory' thread" of both...

Metta Zenda

Well, I did respond earlier, but I wasn't quite sure what you were aiming for. I don't care about the "how"--the biological reasons--and I don't believe in any kind of "why" the way that most people do.

Quote from: Arch on March 23, 2013, 04:59:52 PM
Well, I did respond earlier, but I wasn't quite sure what you were aiming for. I don't care about the "how"--the biological reasons--and I don't believe in any kind of "why" the way that most people do.

Kia Ora Arch,

That's a fair enough answer...

Metta Zenda

For me it started as early teen, I noticed I was built a tad different than my friends. I had smaller hands, feet etc. As I got older I noticed that I thought girl's clothes were much cooler than boys. I actually thought girls jeans fit better and felt better. I also always wanted my hair on the longer side. I just never felt right in boys clothes. I would wear a lot of girls jeans and it felt right to me.  Even when I went shoe shopping, I would be more interested in a pair of girls boots than boys tennis. I grew up in the 80's during the hair bands so people didnt think much of someone with longer hair, fitted jeans and boots. I mostly looked like girl people said , but it felt so right. I guess as I got older I have more of a gil figure, thin legs,small hands, small waist etc. Now it seems like my weight is more in my lower section. Boy if that doesn't say feminine..plus i'm the only person in my family that suffers from migraines inwhich only my mom and her sisters have all had sufferd from. None of my brothers have this problem. So I guess I've always thought I was a girl on the indside. Plus I get teary eyed during romantic and heart felt movies. That's very girly.  So I personally think i'm a girl on the inside, and I'm good with that.....Kayla

QuoteI think whatever mapped out my brain and whatever mapped out my body had a bit of a dispute and developed in opposite directions, only to drift even further apart at puberty.

Basically that. A developmental glitch left my brain waiting for a female puberty that never came. But perhaps now I can put right what once went wrong...

a couple of head injuries on two different occasions when I was 1 and 3 years old. or maybe I was born that way or maybe some other reason that can't be proven to someone else, especially if they already have some sort of idea in their head about it. What I tell people if they are silly enough to ask pretty much depends on what mood I am in.

I've got a gg lesbian friend who has this theory that being LGBTI is a natural form of population control! hahahah, Maybe some truth to it!
Me? The human mind is an amazingly complex thing and we really have so little knowledge on how it actually works but I believe that I am who I am from a combination of biological and environmental factors and experiences throughout my life. The old nature vs nurture question really.

I think about many things... most of them inane - but have never spent any time thinking about "Why think [I am] transgender"...

But would have to answer in much the same way that I would if asked why I think there is a moon in our sky: I don't "think" there is... it's there.

Kia Ora,

If you 'think' about it, there must be a 'common' cause and it must have something to do with our biological make-up...But what ?

Metta Zenda

As far as Im concerned I am a mistake of nature. Something went wrong and I got the wrong chromosome and had to live a life of hell thanks to it. It really is a suffering life but at the same time it probably makes us appreciate things that others dont. I see things and understand them from both perspectives while the majority dont get anything beyond themselves. Most men dont care about objectifying women and do it on a daily basis, they dont understand how hard things are for women while I do though I am 100% male inside. Who knows what I would have been like had I been born in the right body, this might have made me a better person

My only other option was I was being punished for something I did in a past life. Not completely sure I believe in reincarnation but maybe part of me does. What better way to punish me than this. Not that its fair to punish me now for what essentially I didnt do but when is life ever fair

Quote from: Kuan Yin on March 28, 2013, 12:35:39 AM
If you 'think' about it, there must be a 'common' cause and it must have something to do with our biological make-up...But what ?

I agree with this. As a scientist it interests me even more to know if there is some biological difference that makes us this way or not. Whether we can ever find that out or not though who knows but it would certainly be interesting. We all feel the same way so clearly all share the same basis. Maybe for different reasons (phychological or biological) but there may be something in all of us thats just not in others. Maybe a genetic thing, maybe a neural basis. The brain is so complex we may never fully uncover or understand all of what it can do

see this post is kind of misleading to me, your transgender, pretty much if anything you do blurs the gender lines, now what part on the name game you think you are is different, I think im transgender because society keeps saying I am, I know I am a transsexual woman because I believe I am and no other term feels correct to me....Now the way id translate your question is "What do you believe caused you to not fit the standard mode of identity?"   (What follows is personal opinion)
I put it this way, quoting CBS for this "A colorado man goes into a hospital for a kidney stone and leaves a woman" It was determined she had female anatomy therefore intersex would be most acceptable term. So if it is viable for a deviation to be hidden inside her and go undetected she would most likely continued as a guy, so if it can be many different cells, why then cant a deviation be in one cell so small and so out of place science hasnt found it, that throws the whole identity out of whack, kind of how christians respond to "Have you seen god?" "Just because you dont see him doesnt mean he isnt there" So just because we havent found this deviation doesnt mean it doesnt exist. The deviation could be caused by dumb luck, enviromental, our genes, or aliens but I believe that this is why it happens.

Why am I transgender? I have no idea. I don't think anyone really knows why. All I know is that it wasn't a conscious decision on my part.

Were I a religious girl, I would say that God doesn't give us any more than we can handle, and that he needed me to be male for someone in my life, or that I needed to have male experiences to be a better woman. This is what I plan on telling my religious right-wing family.

If believed in fate I would say that everything that's happened to me has been to prepare me to handle the problems of transition.

Personally, I don't believe in anything but the cold, hard, facts of science. And I'm okay with that. While I've struggled and had a pretty hard go of it, I wouldn't change anything.

As far as the "how" - I suspect it was because of a drug called diethylstilbestrol, or DES for short. My mom most likely took it when she was pregnant with me.

As far as the "why"? Who knows? But my thinking is that I have been given a unique condition that very few people have and I simply must make the best of it. It has made me much more humble and aware of many things that I never would have noticed as a regular guy. It's definitely a mixed blessing for me.

For me, it's not about thinking, It's just how you feel about yourself. I feel female, that's all I know.