Emotional detachment is something that is brought up often around here.
In the sense of presenting yourself as you want to.
It's a scary prospect to face a world that might reject you or worse.
But it's something that in the end, is going to do more for you than most everything else.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_detachmentIn this article, they write about it in two different senses. It's the second sense that you are looking for.
It is a learned response. It just takes practice.
Or you can learn it the hard way by going through a traumatic event.
I don't recommend that for obvious reasons. It can go very wrong.
An extreme example of training to be able to detach, is what military and law enforcement practice.
By simulating the conditions when you need to use a weapon, it allows you to do it without thinking about it first.
In other words, without hesitation. It also helps with the immediate response mechanisms afterwards.
Firefighters use it to be able to go into a burning building. Totally against their brains screaming not to.
But they all practice it first. Over and over.
Of course you don't have to do anything that drastic. But think about how that's accomplished.
It's just repetitively going over it or doing it in a practice mode.
Just figure out what it is that you find the need to detach from, and practice it in 'baby steps'.
If you have ever overcome any kind of fear, you already know on some level how it works.
You do it when you learn to drive. When you pulled yourself together and asked someone out on a date.
I learned it by doing the 'I dare you' kind of stuff when I was in High School.
It allowed me to do, without much hesitation, 'dangerous' things later in life.
(*well thought out and with practice)
But regardless, it takes practice and time.
You have already done it.
Think about those times growing up that you just had to pull it together and do whatever.
It's like that. Except with practice.
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