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Physical violence

Started by Tristan, April 03, 2013, 08:47:22 PM

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TerriT

You have come so far, please be safe. You have an entire life filled with opportunity ahead of you.
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NotThereYet

Quote from: TiffanyT on April 04, 2013, 09:59:52 PM

In the Qatif girl rape case, an 18-year old victim of kidnapping and gang rape was sentenced by a Saudi court to six months in prison and 200 lashes.

Wiki has a long entry on womens rights in Saudi Arabia if anyone is actually interested.

And you may have a "right" to go and live wherever you want, but it can also get you killed. In many restraining order cases, the order is nullified if the accuser knowingly goes into places or situations where the defendant has a reasonable chance of being there. If I get beat up in a bar, get an order somehow against the person who did it, then return to the bar with my fancy paperwork and get beat up again, the cops are not going to do a thing about it.

Statistics wise, are there more rape in Saudi Arabia or the US? I stand by my Statement: one has a right to live the way they choose and running away sends the wrong message.
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calico

I really wish I had a room I would let you move here and in with me :laugh:
"To be one's self, and unafraid whether right or wrong, is more admirable than the easy cowardice of surrender to conformity."― Irving Wallace  "Before you can be anything, you have to be yourself. That's the hardest thing to find." -  E.L. Konigsburg
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couch tater

Just remember that its better to avoid the situations than to risk being thrown in jail for using deadly force against an attacker. Its something that can easily happen to a trans woman these days.
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suzifrommd

Tristan, can I make one more appeal to continue involving the police:

1. You pay them to protect you. Get your money's worth.

2. It creates a record of their violence. This will be useful when you go to get your restraining order. (You ARE going to get a restraining order, right?!? It is intended EXACTLY for people in your situation).

3. Lets your attackers know there are consequences to attacking you.

And please think twice before you use your gun. Shooting someone will have emotional and legal consequences that will follow you for your lifetime.

Though if you need to do damage to them, having a police record of their harassment could save you serious jail time.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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GendrKweer

I think a single nice looking female going alone swimming in any country in the world (and I've been to 65+ of them) is inviting trouble...NOT "asking for it", mind, but inviting it all the same. As a male in my before life I wouldn't do that alone in a lot of places; transgender or single lady, nuh uh. It is sadly the way it is. Once again, not the way things should be.... you should be able to walk alone down any street at any time of day and feel and be safe, but unfortunately this is rarely the case. Another way to put it, when you went swimming alone at night, did you see any other females having a dip at that time? Alone? If you didn't, I'd be questioning why I was doing it, what they knew that I did not...

In terms of safety, again from traveling the world, it is vastly easier to avoid trouble than it is to defuse it. At 6 ft and trained in tae kwon do, safety didn't use to be a big deal to me--nobody would have wanted a piece of what I could dish out--but that was the old days before every sucker had a gun, random pack stompings for Youtube fame became a thing to do, and of course, years of HRT shrinking my muscles and making me a bit obviously different. If you are the only single girl in any given setting, ask yourself why.

Oh, protip, aka what I tell my shorty cisfemale partner (one of them, anyway:) is if you need to strike, nothing and I mean NOTHING beats a quick jumping headbutt under your attacker's chin. Basically, bend your knees, tuck your chin down (look at your feet) and spring up under his face. They never expect you to come toward them instead of tugging away, and that tap on the top of your head won't hurt anywhere near as bad as the feeling dude will have with a busted chin as he tries to spit out pieces of his own tongue.  >:-)
Blessings,

D

Born: Aug 2, 2012, one of Dr Suporn's grrls.
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peky

Quote from: Tristan on April 03, 2013, 08:47:22 PM
Ok so I'm dealing with physical violence from strangers lately by people who know me from before outing me for fun. How do you deal with this? I really don't want to become a statistic and sadly I'm not strong anymore so... Yeah I'm just trying to brainstorm some ideas

So, where you beaten, punch, kiked, push, thrown..what kind of physical violence was perpetrated on you? If you can comment
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