Simple question...do you have to hate/dislike your "lower" parts in order to be trans?

Thanks,

-Skye

I don't think that's a requirement, its just a common side effect of gender dysphoria.


...I really don't like to take my pants off >.<

I have body dysphoria, but I'm pretty much fine with my "lower" parts...well at least as long as a guy isn't touching them...unless he saw me as female it might be okay...

Although I would probably prefer to have female lower parts...srs is not a major priority on my list...although I do admit that this could change when I start transitioning...assuming I can fully get over my doubts about me possibly not being trans...

I don't hate my male parts, just wish they were female parts.

But given what I have, I enjoy them best I can.

I think the important thing to remember is that everyone experiences dysphoria differently, and even if you don't have the textbook definition of dysphoria in your life, you can still be trans. Everyone has a different narrative, and the nature of the beast is that you and only you can make that decision.

Personally, I have no feelings whatsoever towards my bits. They just are. I can see that changing once I start HRT, and things start to become more of a nuisance, but at this point there's really only one person in my life who ever goes where the sun doesn't shine and she's rather fond of the darn things.

I be rid of mine is a flash.

But you seem perfectly OK to me and I'm pretty sure many others are the same as you.

At the end of the day, the objective is to feel happy, not to satisfy any criteria.

Quote from: spacial on April 09, 2013, 11:35:37 AM
I be rid of mine is a flash.

But you seem perfectly OK to me and I'm pretty sure many others are the same as you.

At the end of the day, the objective is to feel happy, not to satisfy any criteria.

Yeah...I'm still in doubt about me being trans...It's really difficult for me to accept. Even though almost everything points to the fact that I must be trans...

I just can't seem to separate trans stereotypes from reality...well maybe some of them.

I don't dislike my lower parts and I'm not even sure I would trade them in if a fairy godfather came along and waved me an insta-penis.

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on April 09, 2013, 11:47:55 AM
I don't dislike my lower parts and I'm not even sure I would trade them in if a fairy godfather came along and waved me an insta-penis.

Rofl...I can picture it now...

(In the realm of bioshock)
The insta penis/vagina get yours now!!! As advertised on tv, Andrew Ryan approved!!!

Sorry lol...fantasy world with bio-engineering and all that jazz aside...

Yeah...I'm sort of in the middle because I'm Pansexual so I have a fully functional strap-on, but it would be really weird (< the best way I can describe it) to have my lower parts while being with a guy...If I had the choice I would probably have both...

I'd hate to see how many big daddy's you'd have to kill to get that plasmid ._.

Quote from: NicholeD on April 09, 2013, 12:04:01 PM
I'd hate to see how many big daddy's you'd have to kill to get that plasmid ._.

I'd rather be a big sister

Then I could just harvest adam from splicers.

I don't think you need to have dysphoria about your junk to be trans. I have zero problems with mine, though I still want to get SRS. It's just never bothered me that much. A lot of people here don't have problems with their's either when looking at the number of people with children. Well, maybe they have problems with it but not enough not to use it.

Nah I don't think so. I've seen trans people who downright love their junk, so I hardly think of it as a condition for being trans.

Ive always hated my "equipment". But on a normal day I dont even realize they are there.

You know the only time I appreciate mine.

You feel the need to go, very strong. You take a look inside the only public toilets for miles around and they are so disgusting as to be artwork.

Then I think, well, it's had its uses.

(Happened once in an African Market, which was in the centre of the town. I later discovered that most went round the corner to where a small waste canal ran, males and females. But at the time, I was too fearful to be arrested).

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on April 09, 2013, 11:47:55 AM
I'm not even sure I would trade them in if a fairy godfather came along and waved me an insta-penis.

Now, why don't I believe that? 

Quote from: Maegan on April 10, 2013, 02:09:46 PM

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on April 09, 2013, 11:47:55 AM
I would trade them in if a fairy godfather came along and waved me an insta-penis.

Now, why don't I believe that? 

No, really.  I've had this thing too long to let go of it. Kinda partial to it. 

I've personally always hated mine, and wanted them gone ever since the damned things started growing beyond childhood proportions in the first place. I still hate them, but at least I don't have to worry about spontaneous erections anymore thanks to HRT. I HATE, HATE, HATE those.

Even if I wasn't transitioning, I'd still want them gone. Which is actually why I was a member of the Eunuch Archive in the first place... because there was indeed a very long time where I wasn't allowing myself to embrace my trans thoughts, but because my physical dysphoria with my "lower" body was still so strong, I fantasized about being nullified instead.

With that said, though, no. There is absolutely no requirement that you dislike your lower parts in order to be transsexual. Many don't mind them whatsoever, many don't want to go through the hassle of surgery, many don't feel like it's important enough, many are afraid of regrets, and all of those are perfectly fine. Having a vagina or a penis is not what makes you a woman or a man. And hell, there are even some men who are not transsexual in the least, but still do feel this lower dysphoria and want to be castrated/penectomized. Even some who want a vagina but to remain presenting as male, because they are not transsexual. (The "mangina" man. Yes, he does exist.) One's physical body and one's gender identity are two completely independent variables, and all are spread across a very wide spectrum.

Hmm... 'hate' is a very strong adjective. I wouldn't say I 'hate' my penis - it does make me rather uncomfortable, and I'd much rather have different parts, but I couldn't say I outright 'hate' it. I just think of a penis as being a larger version of a clitoris tbh...

I hate every single part of my body actually, and occasionally its not even for all the pain related reasons.

Heck my gender based reasons need to accept that the line for hate is a long one.

I hate a lot of me for a lot of reasons. Usually it is my feet I hate. Often it is my neck at the back I hate. I spend a lot of time hating my knees too. And I have 3 differing reasons for those three parts too.

The only reason I hate my sex organs, is they are spoiled brat acting most of the time. It doesn't cause me pain per se, it's just annoying. Like a problem teenager eh

Oh sure I'd like to be in a real female body, right up till menstruation I suppose