One of the last things I did last summer to "scare away" my trans thoughts was to switch things up in my head from me-as-a-girl-with-a-girl to me-as-a-girl-with-a-guy.  It backfired, and now me-with-a-guy is dominant.  I'm actually really excited to get farther along so I can try dating a few

Wow that's crazy how your sexuality can change like that :-)

Hi Lillymon,
The way you write I suspect  you are probably quite young. A lot older, my reaction to your question would be to experiment a bit and with time you will find out what works for you.
I have always been far more attracted to women than to men and even after more than 4 years HRT, that is still very much the case. However, I have experimented enough to know two things:

- I can enjoy sex with guys.
- I don't think I could ever fall in love with a guy.

Actually, day to day, I feel far more safe and comfortable being a woman with other women, than with guys. I can relax completely and snuggle up against my wife in a way I could simple not imagine with a guy. Maybe it's because I lived too long as a guy before starting my transition but that's the way it is.

One way or another, don't worry, this is really an area where the only way to KNOW what works is through direct discovery. So allow yourself some scope to do that.
Take care.
Donna

PS. No matter what, there is a bit of a thrill in being physically desired by a man. How you react to it is then just a question of choice..

I'll always be straight. There's nothing hotter than the hard abs of a sweaty, sexy man... 

After HRT I find when I think of being with a man....
Od talking caressing whispering...holding me...
And pleasant slow love until I explode...

Bit the reality is...he will probably rip panties off..
Throw me down and ride me like sea biscuit....

Girls are girls...different needs and wants than boys...

Quote from: XchristineX on April 14, 2013, 10:16:37 AM
After HRT I find when I think of being with a man....
Od talking caressing whispering...holding me...
And pleasant slow love until I explode...

Bit the reality is...he will probably rip panties off..
Throw me down and ride me like sea biscuit....

Girls are girls...different needs and wants than boys...

Hi Christine,
I burst out laughing when I read your rather pessimistic post. I don't have a great opinion of guys either but some are actually quite civilized.  Then again, maybe you were just fantasizing...
Hugs
Donna

Quote from: Donna Elvira on April 14, 2013, 02:23:30 AM
Hi Lillymon,
The way you write I suspect  you are probably quite young. A lot older, my reaction to your question would be to experiment a bit and with time you will find out what works for you.
I have always been far more attracted to women than to men and even after more than 4 years HRT, that is still very much the case. However, I have experimented enough to know two things:

- I can enjoy sex with guys.
- I don't think I could ever fall in love with a guy.

Actually, day to day, I feel far more safe and comfortable being a woman with other women, than with guys. I can relax completely and snuggle up against my wife in a way I could simple not imagine with a guy. Maybe it's because I lived too long as a guy before starting my transition but that's the way it is.

One way or another, don't worry, this is really an area where the only way to KNOW what works is through direct discovery. So allow yourself some scope to do that.
Take care.
Donna

PS. No matter what, there is a bit of a thrill in being physically desired by a man. How you react to it is then just a question of choice..

Hello Donna,

Thanks for your input. I assume the age of 23 would be considered "quite young". And as far as adventures and experiences with girls go, i wouldn't say i know about everything there either. Because i was attracted to girls when i was in my teenage years i was able to get those few moments and i enjoyed them. I dont doubt i will still enjoy the same things with girls but since i am transitioning and have gotten looks from boys it started me thinking. And what you describe as snuggling up and relax with your wife. well... i think i could do that with the right person/boy ( since i am not really attracted to boys like i am to girls, i still have a limited selection that i define as attractive boys) but its just the other branch that i am worried about. the part that you need do discover and while i think i can enjoy it. it just scares me that it might be fooling myself and that it would turn out to be something i will regret; besides that i am not alone, you have the other person and since i am always serious with relationships and i cannot simply do something with just anyone like that. It makes me stressed because when i would be mistaken i might hurt the other person and thats something i also fear the most. Or even when i enjoy one or two things and not the rest... the other person might want more then that and be dissapointed, thats not what i want. So i agree on finding out trough experimenting. But its these things that i mentioned that would hold me back when i would have the oppurtunity to discover it. Also I usually like tender and romantic moments and i have no idea boys are huge fans of that. I hate my " i need to be 200% sure of everything" attitude...  well maybe i'll loosen up over time. With my current lover i dont need to worry about it actually. But curiousity is something strong

beside Donna, also thanks to the rest who contributed to my post so far. i dont always know what to say or answer to all of you. but it doesnt mean i dont appreciate your help and opinions.

greetings from Melissa,