How many people know you are an androgyne?

Kendall · June 18, 2007, 10:23:06 AM

I was wondering how frequent and far people know you are androgyne. Not just a might guess, or transgender, but know the word androgyne and have been told that you are one by yourself or someone else that you have heard told them.

You can answer more than one answer (ex. yes best friend, my family, and partner knows).

Quote
My best friend 7 (22.6%)
Three people or more 6 (19.4%)
My partner 5 (16.1%)
I will tell more soon as I can 3 (9.7%)
Two people 3 (9.7%)
Therapist / Psychologist / Psychiatrist / Councilor 2 (6.5%)
No one at the moment. 1 (3.2%)
Some strangers 1 (3.2%)
One person 1 (3.2%)
My family 1 (3.2%)
No one will ever know 1 (3.2%)
No one, I just realized I am an androgyne, and havent told anyone yet. 0 (0%)
My coworkers / classmates 0 (0%)
I tell everyone 0 (0%)
I dont want to answer this poll 0 (0%)
The whole community 0 (0%)

no_id · June 18, 2007, 10:35:16 AM

Hmm, tricky one to answer here since I'm still at the start of my self-discovery journey in this matter. However, at the same time I keep track, and explain everything in a public blog with a large amount of readers I do know (varying from online contacts to real life contacts), but also strangers (that may have picked up the link from one of my profiles) in order to vent, but also to give them some insight.

Therefore, the only person who truly matters to me in being aware of what I'm going through would be my mother, and until I tell her I don't feel less closeted than someone who keeps every single aspect of themselves secret.

Pica Pica · June 18, 2007, 12:06:00 PM

hardly no one. but not cos i'm hiding it. i just don't think it would be very interesting or important. If it came up in conversation i would say, but really most people don't care.

Mia and Marq · June 18, 2007, 12:15:24 PM

We try and judge how each person we know might react and by laying out hints to test the water. We've managed to get on the topic with a number of people. I can think of 5 just off the top of my head. I tried to tell my parents and the conversation was going well when we got sidetracked and never returned to the subject.

Marq and Mia

Intertween · June 18, 2007, 12:38:20 PM

My partner.

I like Pica Pica's answer.

-- Sue

Nando · June 18, 2007, 01:18:42 PM

My best friend and ex-boyfriend know that I am an androgyne.

Shana A · June 18, 2007, 02:06:30 PM

My immediate family, partner and many close friends know I'm transgender. Depending on the length of conversations we've had, I've likely also told them that I'm neither gender, none of the above or androgyne. Either everyone accepts me for who I am, or their eyes glazed over and they retained nothing I said

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Lacey/James · June 20, 2007, 04:23:26 PM

Um, no one.
Before I told two people I was trasngender, that was when I couldn't figure out exactly what I was, and they were all jokes.
And didn't think I was serious, even though I started crying at one point because of it.
So, yeah, I don't plan on telling anyone, unless there is somehow a surgery that makes me genderless.
Which I doubt, but yeah you never know.

-
RodgLace

Tay · June 20, 2007, 04:38:00 PM

I don't know how many. My fiancée and my Owner both know. My friends on the Rainbow Connection guild on Gaiaonline.com all know. My ex was told, but never ever really seemed to acknowledge it--kept calling me hir little girlfriend or hir little fangirl, among other things. My friend Steve knows. He saw me posting about it once, so I told him. My friend Joey knows, but I hated telling him and I don't think he took me seriously. He's pressuring me to tell other people before I'm ready. Most of gaiaonline.com knows, now that I think about it, but I'm not sure they count.

I'm trying to think of ways to tell my high school best friend and my university best friend. My parents will never know.

no_id · June 22, 2007, 11:00:01 AM

Minor update: I had a little chit-chat with my mother that was mostly countered with "Of course I know... You're my.. I'm your mother." (read: understanding), but also a messed up line: "I don't want you to socialise with Transsexuals"... Understandable, since I have to admit that Transsexuals do very much appear like aliens ready to abduct innocent, naive human beings and brainwash them (no really, I am being understanding

)... And, the eventual moral is that upcoming monday we're heading to the libary to rent a book on ->-bleeped-<-. I was actually quite surprised that my library had one (two in total spread over my whole region consisting of five towns).

Right now I feel as if she can swing either way, but we'll see what adventures the future will bring.

Kendall · June 22, 2007, 08:15:42 PM

I am surprised at a few low answers.

My coworkers / classmates 0 (0%)

and

My family 1 (3.2%)

For some reason I thought these two would be higher.

The top 3 answers are good which almost half answered. If one has a partner and/or best friend, It must be the logical first person to want to tell.
My best friend 7 (22.6%)
Three people or more 6 (19.4%)
My partner 5 (16.1%)

storm · October 16, 2007, 04:26:52 PM

old topic, but I still wanna answer it. At the moment
3 people
1 best friend; my roommate/ ex bf
2 strangers; my 2 kind of penpalls

And in the past, whenn I was living n another place, and was hanging out like a tramp in the night >

( LOL) just some more.

RebeccaFog · October 16, 2007, 08:21:52 PM

Hi,

My partner knows, but does not grasp.
The members of my LBT support group know.
My therapists know.
Some people at work know, most don't get it.

Most people who kind of get it understand it as a TG related thing. They can understand TG because they have a visual of what a TS is, so I'm sure they think I'm a TS who hasn't even learned to crossdress or something.

I bring it up when appropriate now. I've gotten over the thrill of explaining myself. I feel I'd get more satisfaction from walking down to the ocean and explaining to the stones on the beach. From people, I'd get more of a reaction if I say I'm 1/1,000,000th native american which is what everybody in the northeast (U.S.) already believes about themselves. Yet, they can talk about it all day.

Jaiden · October 16, 2007, 10:21:42 PM

Probably 2 people know. As in know the full meaning and know that I am.

1- stranger
1-Friend

Kaimialana · October 17, 2007, 02:17:43 PM

At least three friends of mine know, many more I've known for a long time online. My boyfriend and my bestfriend definatly know.

I actually told a close friend last night, and she was very supportive and actually very interested and intrigued too...I hope I'm not some kind of novelty to her...

Incubi · October 17, 2007, 03:19:04 PM

At the moment nobody knows except the people here at Susan's who have read my postings.

I just thought about the whole issue maybe one and a half week (as opposed to having a rather vague feeling about being not really womanly).
I'm not a person who can discuss their problems easily (especially when it's just my own business) absolutely prefere having made up my mind befor I tell anybody. When I'm sure I'm an androgynous I'm gonna tell my best friend about it and if I get a boy/girlfriend anytime soon I'll tell them right from the beginning that I don't want to be treaded like a girl (especially in case it's a guy) just because I know I couldn't have a relationship otherwise.

Jaimey · October 17, 2007, 07:14:10 PM

Quote from: Pica Pica on June 18, 2007, 12:06:00 PM
hardly no one. but not cos i'm hiding it. i just don't think it would be very interesting or important. If it came up in conversation i would say, but really most people don't care.

me too. i've always been the way i am. as long as people know who i am, i could care less if they have a label for it.

NickSister · October 17, 2007, 08:17:35 PM

I find it really interesting that only one of us so far has said their family knows. I guess family are the hardest people to deal with. My friends know and so do some people at work. Whether they get it or not is another thing entirely. But I have not told my family (apart from my wife).

I do find it frustrating that my family does not know - the little comments, the innuendo. Can't stand it! But in some ways I don't think it is any of their business, at least not my mums business. She can't keep something to herself, tell her and everyone knows from my aunties to the guy next door and she will put her own spin on it too, full of her own assumptions. I simply don't trust her. Knowledge is power. Though if I ever needed a way to announce it she would be it. But I think it would give me a lot of pleasure if she was the last to know after everyone else has digested and accepted it.

I don't feel the need to tell my dad. He has never had any guy expectations for me except in terms of our shared interests so telling him would gain nothing really.

Kaimialana · October 18, 2007, 12:22:55 AM

Update: all the people at my Uni's GLBT group now know as well.

I don't think it will be long before its common knowlege accross campus.

RebeccaFog · October 20, 2007, 09:44:45 PM

I just discovered that my idiot family thinks I'm a crossdresser who may have already castrated themself.
I don't care what they think, but I don't like the idea of telling them I'm an androgyne now because it will probably relieve them in some way.

All they have to do is ask.

News:

How many people know you are an androgyne?

How many people know you are an androgyne?

Kendall

no_id

Pica Pica

Mia and Marq

Intertween

Nando

Shana A

Lacey/James

Tay

no_id

Kendall

storm

RebeccaFog

Jaiden

Kaimialana

Incubi

Jaimey

NickSister

Kaimialana

RebeccaFog