In the grand scheme of hating things about my body, the dangly bits rate no where near the top. We've had a lot of great times together. Sure, I'd rather not have them if I had a choice, but not hate them. There are far far more important things that I do not like that keep me from being the woman I dreamed of being. Panty checks aren't even a blip on that radar.

Yet, at the end of the day, even with all the low self esteem deficiencies I see when I look in the mirror, I still achieved my dream and experienced the joy of being seen as and accepted as a woman.

Quote from: JoanneB on April 10, 2013, 09:43:55 PM
In the grand scheme of hating things about my body, the dangly bits rate no where near the top. We've had a lot of great times together. Sure, I'd rather not have them if I had a choice, but not hate them. There are far far more important things that I do not like that keep me from being the woman I dreamed of being. Panty checks aren't even a blip on that radar.

Yet, at the end of the day, even with all the low self esteem deficiencies I see when I look in the mirror, I still achieved my dream and experienced the joy of being seen as and accepted as a woman.

True. And there are far more things to being trans than genitals.
Sure I guess in a basic way, being transsexual literally implies changing genitals. But I count myself lucky I'm fine with mine as is and don't have to go through painful and expensive surgery.
If you don't have lower dysphoria, it just means you have one less thing to worry about!

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on April 11, 2013, 02:24:52 AM
True. And there are far more things to being trans than genitals.
Sure I guess in a basic way, being transsexual literally implies changing genitals. But I count myself lucky I'm fine with mine as is and don't have to go through painful and expensive surgery.
If you don't have lower dysphoria, it just means you have one less thing to worry about!

I need one less thing to be stressed about, since everything else just generally sucks...so that's a positive I guess.

Quote from: Sky-Blue on April 09, 2013, 09:27:27 AM
Simple question...do you have to hate/dislike your "lower" parts in order to be trans?

*waves* Hi. Zero bottom dysphoria over here. None at all. I don't think I'd change my bits if you paid me. And I'm definitely trans.

While I would agree the level of dysphoria varies from person to person, the lower body definitely makes me dysphoric. I even feel the missing organ, making this all so very weird at times. I wonder whether this is normal and anybody else too experiences the same.

I don't love my genitalia, but I can't say I hate them either. They're ugly, but useful. The way I see it, "wrong parts is better than no parts." While if given a choice I'd prefer to have a vagina, I can live with what I've got. At least for the time being, anyway.

I don't think lower body dysphoria is not of being trans.

I think you gotta do what is best for you. If that means feeling that you may or may not be trans is perfectly ok. There are people out there who do not label themselves as any gender yet like having breasts, and well dangly bits lol. Or even vica versa. As long as it's what makes you happy, I think that is what's important.

Quote from: Jerred1985 on April 13, 2013, 10:40:14 PM
I think you gotta do what is best for you. If that means feeling that you may or may not be trans is perfectly ok. There are people out there who do not label themselves as any gender yet like having breasts, and well dangly bits lol. Or even vica versa. As long as it's what makes you happy, I think that is what's important.

It's like I'm almost completely sure I'm trans...it's just that because I don't have a lot of the same experiences as other trans people, I doubt myself...

I've kind of been thinking about what you said...like I had figured it out awhile ago. But I still have trouble accepting that I'm trans.

Quote from: Sky-Blue on April 14, 2013, 10:36:25 AM

Quote from: Jerred1985 on April 13, 2013, 10:40:14 PM
I think you gotta do what is best for you. If that means feeling that you may or may not be trans is perfectly ok. There are people out there who do not label themselves as any gender yet like having breasts, and well dangly bits lol. Or even vica versa. As long as it's what makes you happy, I think that is what's important.

It's like I'm almost completely sure I'm trans...it's just that because I don't have a lot of the same experiences as other trans people, I doubt myself...

I've kind of been thinking about what you said...like I had figured it out awhile ago. But I still have trouble accepting that I'm trans.

People deal with things differently. No two people ever handle the same situation in the exact same way. Something that bothers one person may not bother someone else. Why is it we accept this except when it comes to trans stuff?

And two people could be born the exact same way, with the same 'trans degree of severity' if you believe in such things - and because of different experiences and environments deal with it in different ways. Remember, everything doesn't come down to nature. Nurture counts for something.

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on April 14, 2013, 10:52:16 AM
People deal with things differently. No two people ever handle the same situation in the exact same way. Something that bothers one person may not bother someone else. Why is it we accept this except when it comes to trans stuff?

And two people could be born the exact same way, with the same 'trans degree of severity' if you believe in such things - and because of different experiences and environments deal with it in different ways. Remember, everything doesn't come down to nature. Nurture counts for something.

And it seems like to me...I dealt with it by pretending to be someone else and denying who I really was until she was pushed into my unconscious mind...at which point she was released because she fell in love and I had a few drinks...

That's pretty much what I THINK happened, but I could just be making it up (the "unconscious part")...I don't know it just sounds to fantastical for me to fully believe. But it's the only explanation that would make sense for her to randomly appear in my life much later than most people know.