The term "->-bleeped-<-", "Trannie", or "transvestite" really gets under my skin. I blew up on a guy on a dating site this morning for referring to me as a trannie. Just seeing if its just me.

Depends. If it's said in ignorance, I see it as an opportunity to educate someone.

If it's said with derision, oh yeah, it bothers me!

It can be degrading depending on who's saying it. I have a friend that transitioned totally in 1968 and she refers to us all as ->-bleeped-<-s. So I guess you'd have to consider the source to know if it's intended as an insult. Personally I don't care for it, she also refers to herself and me as "old broads" which I loathe, but then she cracks a big smile knowing she is getting under my skin.

i dont like that word myself. and if a guy calls me that i will be nice and finish the date but no kiss and no more dates with them

I hate the term ->-bleeped-<-! I find it very derogatory, and think of the girls who appear on shows like Jerry Springer when I hear it.

Transvestite doesn't fit me, nor does it bother me.

Quote from: Serena Lynn on April 14, 2013, 01:16:49 PM
The term "->-bleeped-<-", "Trannie", or "transvestite" really gets under my skin. I blew up on a guy on a dating site this morning for referring to me as a trannie. Just seeing if its just me.

Nope, not just you.  I don't find it as offensive as some other vulgarities, like the N-word or the C-word, but it can be used to hurt, so it is one of the words I don't use.

Depends on the context but generally yes. It seems to mostly be used in a derogatory way. I've been called a ->-bleeped-<- or a "->-bleeped-<- freak" a number of times and it really hurts.

If it was directed towards me... yes. The person saying it better duck... fast. If it was something I read in print, online, or say in a newspaper... I tend to be more forgiving. But in your case, a blunt jabbing blow to the offender's trachea is in order.

Quote from: Jamie the Disco Snark on April 14, 2013, 01:58:41 PM
Nope, not just you.  I don't find it as offensive as some other vulgarities, like the N-word or the C-word, but it can be used to hurt, so it is one of the words I don't use.

Not to digress too much, but my wife uses the C-word on other women who are being obnoxious,  I think it's a riot because she's normally such a lady.

As with any word, it's the context in which it was used.

Context is everything.

So what are we working on cars, gotta pull a ->-bleeped-<- and replace a clutch? 

Quote from: lydia_s on April 14, 2013, 02:23:29 PM
Depends on the context but generally yes. It seems to mostly be used in a derogatory way. .

I agree, people who use the word ->-bleeped-<-/trannie are either using it in a derogetory way or just dont care (pigs), for the ignorant of those using those terms they usually are willing to learn and are apologetic. so.... not a biggy there,  also other people who use the term is drag-queens and they sometimes border on the edge using the word(I have had a bad experience)

as fare as the word transvestite go's maybe I am ignorant but to my understanding a transvestite is a person who get's off or some sort of sexual gratification by wearing womens clothing ...  So again someone is using the word ignorantly or they dont care, and when they dont care its offensive.

Quote from: Tristan on April 14, 2013, 01:53:16 PM
i dont like that word myself. and if a guy calls me that i will be nice and finish the date but no kiss and no more dates with them

You are braver than I dear, I wouldn't even let them know that I am transgendered. That info is for way down the road IMO

I wish I could say "no it doesn't bother me I don't care what some dick thinks" but the truth is I do care...too much. And yes if someone called me a ->-bleeped-<- it would bother me. A LOT. I prepared myself for a slew of insults and slings and arrows of just this kind of thing but the strange thing is it hasn't happened and people seem to be a lot nicer and kinder to me all in all.

Quote from: suzifrommd on April 14, 2013, 01:27:20 PM
Depends. If it's said in ignorance, I see it as an opportunity to educate someone.

I agree. Most people, even in this PC world we live in today, haven't a clue. Nor do they have any concept that there actually is a difference between a drag queen and a transsexual. When we are such a fractional part of the general population I cannot expect the world to change just for me. However, I can do my best to educate and hopefully get one other small tiny sub-fractional part of it to change, which may just blossom someday into forrest.

Quote from: suzifrommd on April 14, 2013, 01:27:20 PM
If it's said with derision, oh yeah, it bothers me!

There isn't much you can do with a hater besides getting a bloody nose or worse 

It bothers me.  I want to be a woman, not a t****y, and I don't want anybody to say otherwise.

Quote from: Anna Michele on April 14, 2013, 03:20:38 PM
It bothers me.  I want to be a woman, not a t****y, and I don't want anybody to say otherwise.

^^ This

Hardly. It didn't bother me at all until I heard people on here saying that it was bad.

If it's a cis person saying it, yes, it bothers me a lot.

A trans person saying it, however, usually doesn't.

->-bleeped-<-? Usually not. Like many others, it depends on context. If I know you're okay with me (or transsexuality) and are just using it as a general slang word, I won't take offense. Otherwise it's either time to be like "You know that's offensive to some right?" It's kinda hard to explain. I'm a female in personality and everything else under the sun and I know I project that without effort so I'm confident enough to not let stuff like that bother me if people are just being playful or joking with me about being trans.

I don't like the term transvestite being used to describe us. I've come across a couple people that used the word like that and had NO idea I was trans... it made me pretty frustrated but I think that it's usually just ignorance and not blatant hate.

Me and my roommates toss around the word all the time... I don't mind it at all. We all know we're cool with each others gender identity and at least we aren't all walking on eggshells around each other.

To be honest it doesn't bother me all that much. Most of the population has little knowledge about the transgender world and I believe many are using the word ->-bleeped-<- out of ignorance so I don't tend to let it get under my skin.