Quote from: Prof HB on April 14, 2013, 10:01:43 PM

But one thing I unequivocally WON'T do is act like a jerk to pass as male. I've had countless people tell me to act aggressively or be rude, and I won't go there. I don't act like a polite Southern belle, lol, but I won't act like an ape to pass. Ever. I'd rather have people think of me as less of a man, because I know how it feels to be hurt by men who want to "establish" their manhood. Won't do it.

Yeah, I was surprised when I saw people suggesting stuff like that (not to me personally). To be honest, that advice seems to be coming from a place of misandry.

Things I won't do?

Hmm let's see, some of the things I HAVE done, for different reasons, but just to point out how outrageous I can be.

One hot summer very early morning, I was walking home from my then shop, on parents property, to my place further in towards down town. It had a spot that followed the river and was along a long since gone rail line that is now a bike path. We are talking maybe a 3 block duration walk, tree covered more or less in shadow. But essentially it is a residential area. So being the bold lunatic, I took off my clothes and walked along the path butt naked, just for the amusement.

Would I do outrageous things for the sake of passing? Can't see why I wouldn't I suppose.

I mean, I am capable of doing basically anything.

The thing is, how important is it to me to be seen as a female? I consider one of my all time favourite things, is to pretend I am in a night club wearing something downright awesome, and I am up dancing and giving it my all. I want to enjoy doing what all the cis females want to be doing. I want to be making the guys horny for me Funny thing for me of course, is I don't want a man, I just want to be that convincing.

But daydreams are just what they are eh. I'd feel kinda sorry for any guy so desperate, he'd make a pass at me

I'm not planning to put myself through physical pain and torment, trying to recreate a female walk and the ass sway of a woman. Nope, just not going to happen. Not with my health issues. I have trouble walking at all. I am not expecting to have a lot of success sitting all lady like in a skirt, I probably will just make sure my skirts are of a practical length, that I can sit with it position in such a way, that my panties won't be on display. Sitting with legs crossed. Tried it, hurt myself doing it, not planning to fuss over it in the future.

I also dream some day of wearing cute female swim suits. I don't think a bikini is impossible, but, the bottoms? I expect a skirt will be required. Hey I have seen my fav singer Celine Dion, that gal has almost no bust eh. It's not like all women have much to put in their tops.

I have noticed my capacity to curse has lessened. I like that actually.
I have been finding as I embrace my real self, a lot of my behaviour has started to annoy me more.
I don't seem to like some things I used to like.
How much of it is my female self taking over though, I can't be sure.

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on April 15, 2013, 10:59:34 PM

I have noticed my capacity to curse has lessened. I like that actually.
I have been finding as I embrace my real self, a lot of my behaviour has started to annoy me more.
I don't seem to like some things I used to like.
How much of it is my female self taking over though, I can't be sure.

Yes thank God I can totally relate, me formerly being Mr. F word personified.

I regularly use the men's restroom with no problems, use a stall and sit.  I have a STP but haven't learned how to pee with it through the fly in my jeans.  I do fine in the shower but have leaked everytime with my jeans on.  I don't think anyone ever listerns or pays attention to how someone pees, guys go in  and do there business and leave may not even wash there hands.  I still use tampons and have to open them but I have never had anyone look when I came out of the stall.

Quote from: aleon515 on April 15, 2013, 07:42:04 PMI've seen guys who worry about being basically tough enough or male enough.

Heheh. I've got a different problem. People tend to keep telling me I don't need to change my behaviour, but completely ignore that the behaviour I want to change makes me feel very uncomfortable. They also get my behaviour confused with my personality which I can't blame them for and I'm trying to find a balance between showing my personality more (which is tough and male) and still being socially acceptable and that doesn't make me come across as a complete jerk.

If anyone bugs me about how my peeing sounds different, I'll be pointing out how creepy it is that they were listening.
Oh yeah I also won't wear a binder if my ribs hurt a lot or if wearing one would make me much more likely to get heat stroke. That last one is fixed and the first only happened once. Hurrah!

Edge, binders can be a real problem in the summer for me.  I don't want it so tight it hurts or I can't breathe and pass out.  Also with short sleeves you don't want it showing either.  I am fine with a binder in the winter when I wear long sleeves and hoodies.   I have a couple of tight sports bras which don't have any real cups to shape your chest and have real wide strapes around and over the shoulders.  They don't look like a bra at all.  I wear them most in the summer.

Listening to the comments, I suppose any of you gals would love accompanying me into the men's room.

I enter, sit my purse on counter, take out my comb and adjust my hair if it was windy. I might fresher my perfume and find it funny I am making the men's room smell of female. I make a fuss of adjusting my clothing.

I don't give a damn if I am freaking out any guys.

Yeah I know, I am not going to be mistaken as a female visually at this time, I am just doing all the things their wives or girlfriends might do while making the wait for them to come out of the restroom

Worried about guys being nasty to me? Well I just hope they notice the cane beside me, the one made from a hickory sledge hammer handle. Behave yourself buster, I carry this for a reason. I can see to it you wear orthopedic shirts for the rest of your life.

I don't want to change the way I talk and act. I've been told I sound too much like a "bogan" (Australian term, like a redneck), and I'm too brash and bold with things that I say. But that's part of who I am, when presenting as a woman I don't want to force myself to act girly just because people expect that from a woman.

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on April 15, 2013, 08:19:38 PM
Yeah, I was surprised when I saw people suggesting stuff like that (not to me personally). To be honest, that advice seems to be coming from a place of misandry.

I was on a FB list about an hour. Then I actually looked at the conversation it was all either misangynonstic or just about body functions. It was ridiculous stuff that some guys feel they need to assert themselves in this particular way to be male. Wouldn't want to go there and don't need to anyway. The list owner felt that interest in protecting the rights of women or using politically correct language for gays, for instance, was ____. Well I won't even use the first letter.

--Jay

Quote from: Ms. OBrien CVT on April 14, 2013, 05:17:55 PM
I won't do two things: 1. Sex work.  2. Detransition.  I may be unemployed but I will not do ether of these.

If you are ever in a busy bathroom, that a minute to just listen.  Can you tell anything unusual?  Probably not and most people don't listen to hear someone else peeing.

yep, i that covers my thinking.
besides someone listening to someone else pee?? omg can you be weirder?
then again we are a pretty rare bunch, so I'll guess we'll get away with the benefit of the doubt transperk