As I was leaving school today, some younger girls stopped me. They said 'excuse me, that boy over there likes you.' They was doing this to everyone so I just said 'cool' and started to walk away. She then said 'he said that if you were younger and didn't look like a boy then he'd go on a date with you' and both burst out laughing.  I laughed and said  'funnily enough, he's not quite my type' and carried on on my way. Their sad attempt to bully me ended up actually making me feel better about myself, knowing I look like a guy.

Awesome way of dealing with it!  I kids used to say I looked like a boy/man all the time when I was younger and back then I would feel embarrased and sad about ti.  Looking back, I actually smile at it, because that lets me know that I may have some passing abilities in the future.

@malachite same here iv always looked like a boy even when i didnt know anything abouts trans back then. And i was bulled and picked over it and didnt know how to deal with it.

@joey way to go man you stuod up onto them.

When I was a kid girls would try to bully me by mocking how I dressed and acted like a guy. That didn't work out for them because it was such a whatever thing thing for me, I'd laugh right at them saying it and tell them that they'd need to actually insult me if they were trying to be mean so that only happened a couple of times, nobody bullies someone in a way that gets zero or the opposite reaction they're after. It is pretty sweet to watch somebody get their own bs turned back on them, delicious irony   

I remember going to watch my sibling's school talent show years ago when I was about 16 or 17 and I was dressed as a girl so one of the single dads there was seriously perving on me. He kept checking me out from across the room, trying to talk to me then tried sitting really close to me. I just ignored him but eventually I started to get angry so my own dad called him out on it and the guy exclaimed "I'm not trying to flirt with your son!"

I guess he was trying to turn the embarrassment onto me by implying that I looked like a boy but the smile it brought to my face probably seemed by far creepier than anything he had been doing.

Quote from: Joey. on April 18, 2013, 10:03:46 AM
As I was leaving school today, some younger girls stopped me. They said 'excuse me, that boy over there likes you.' They was doing this to everyone so I just said 'cool' and started to walk away. She then said 'he said that if you were younger and didn't look like a boy then he'd go on a date with you' and both burst out laughing.  I laughed and said  'funnily enough, he's not quite my type' and carried on on my way. Their sad attempt to bully me ended up actually making me feel better about myself, knowing I look like a guy.

Thats good but as the person i am and one who has dealt with alot of bullying in school,i feel i need to express the future.Because of how you handled it (which is good so dont misunderstand) the bullying will get worse.they seek a certain type of fear and live on it.I had the same issue from one school bully.She seen herself as the (bad butt**) and loved to keep people with her most of the time.her actions were never for good reason but just to see what she could do to someone,ruin their life.Until she met me.As a friendless person who sat alone and minded their business (aka i was a loner in school) and never talked,let alone-messed with anyone.i was her perfect target because she seen me as weak.She had followed me outside from a gym assembly and confronted me.she said to me *i heard you calling my friend here a *****.she and i heard it* now mind you,during this assembly,i was sitting alone as always so i have no idea who i would have been telling this to (rolls eyes) so she had every intention of attacking me for it.not tripping or any such,because all the bullying gave her a big head.of course i have always hated fighting and not because of what it does to people but how i become mentally-im a very bad threat to a persons health so i try to avoid it at all costs.i told her i did NOT want to fight and i said no such thing.but the damage had already been done for me mentally and as she raised her fist,i just flipped out.I painted the entire gym wall with her and i swear from that point on,she was a completely different person.of course she had *friends* that wanted to avenge her so it became an endless fight with multible people but she changed and stopped bullying people.i will even say she became a better person after that.she realized that the power trip had consumed her and she wouldnt come near me after that and i remained my loner self.never let the power trip of someone else,think you can be one of its next victims.i always encourge people to avoid conflict but sometimes you cant but if it happens,know what your fighting for and who.never become a victim!

I wasn't scared though. I get bullied all the time, I'm used to it. I think I handle it very well and I joke back to them and they never know what to do. One girl started calling me names and I went along with her and laughed at myself and all my flaws. She had no idea how to react so she said she was going to spit on me so I told her if she did, I wouldn't hesitate to hit her. I get bullied all the time, have done since I can remember and I'm 18 now.

Quote from: Joey. on April 18, 2013, 02:15:26 PM
I wasn't scared though. I get bullied all the time, I'm used to it. I think I handle it very well and I joke back to them and they never know what to do. One girl started calling me names and I went along with her and laughed at myself and all my flaws. She had no idea how to react so she said she was going to spit on me so I told her if she did, I wouldn't hesitate to hit her. I get bullied all the time, have done since I can remember and I'm 18 now.

thats good to hear.some are just trolls and im glad to hear thats what your mainly dealing with.they are easy to make walk away.

Most of them aren't trolls though. I get death threats and abuse when I walk home from school. You just learn to deal with it when you're faced with them and get upset about it when nobody is looking.

Nice....they have no idea how badly that attempt to stab at your feelings backfired 
I had a similar thing with a kid in my orchestra class almost two years ago, he teasingly bonked me on the head and his friend said "You can't hit a woman!", to which he replied, "That's not a woman!". It wasn't meant to be mean, and though I was in denial on and off back then. But it made this spark feeling in my gut, and I knew I liked that just a bit too much.

Of course now we're friends and discuss Whovian things when we see each other, he left the school and is homeschooled (lucky!) so I don't see him often. But we had a teasing bit going on there for a while, even though I denied it the whole thing was pretty awesome for me.

In 7th grade, my bully, who happened to also be my biggest crush (o_O), started telling people how I "had a penis implant", and that I have an adam's apple (which I did not). All the time she and her friends would say how I look like a man, how I don't belong in the school, and that the teachers are going to force me to dress like a girl (lie). When I was younger, I would try to make friends with other boys at the park and they would call me "he-she". Did these kids have parents? Negligent parents? I mean...you're either born with a sense of respect or taught about it. Thing is, I also admitted to it and was like "yeah, I am a he-she, and I'm cool like that!" (10 year olds, I was pure-hearted and wouldn't say anything mean back).

I guess the only thing you can do is say something witty back. Ignoring it won't help for long. Just laugh along with them and make them stupid. Or turn the joke on them

Laugh back,I did when some chavs were laughing and pointing so I did the same.The leader of them asked WTF you laughing at?I said you're laughing at me because I'm different I'm laughing at you because you're wankers!

I was lucky, in that I was much taller than everyone else at school.  I was 5'10" by age 12 and 6'1" by age 14.  For someone FAAB that's pretty freaking tall.  One girl tried to bully me once, but I looked down at her and laughed at her because she wasn't even as tall as my shoulder.  Everyone watching laughed, too, and she stalked off and never bothered me again.  I had a cis guy punch me in the face once, but that had nothing to do with gender expression.  (He and I became friends six months later, weirdly enough.)