Ask Matt: Trans Man Troubles

http://tranifesto.com/2013/04/15/ask-matt-trans-man-troubles/
4/15/13
Matt Kailey

Today we have two letters from trans guys, one seeking social advice and another seeking medical advice. As always, reader thoughts, experiences, and advice are welcome and encouraged. Here we go:

A reader writes: "I'm a 32-year-old transguy who began transition two years ago. Prior to that, I lived as a lesbian for 15 years. Transition was a painful decision for me. There was no joy in it – it was a step I had to take because there was no other option. I feel more comfortable in my own skin than I ever thought possible – but, oh, what a price I have paid.

"I lost all of my lesbian friends in transition. In one fleeting moment, I lost my entire community. Once it became apparent that these fences would not/could not be mended, I began to seek new community. From my years of lesbian activism I thought getting involved with Trans activism would be a good way to meet like-minded Trans folks. But I'm have found (at least in my area) Trans* equals transwomen – transmen need not apply.