So I'm FTM, can't take Testosterone (not because of my folks mind you, don't ask) and I'm just wondering... should I even come out at all? I'm going to be moving out in a few years anyway, and I won't see them nearly as much. Should I even bother telling them? I've only told a few close friends and my SO.

It's just that they're not exactly "pro-gay". I guess that they're accepting, but they don't really seem that tolerant to me. They have a few gay friends, but they don't talk to them and when they talk about them they seem put off. They haven't even met a transgender! I don't know how I would ever talk to them again in that situation.

They've already noticed me bying extra sports bras and button up shirts. They questioned me a few times with sly and nearly terrifying looks, so I pushed it aside.

Should I just skip on coming out to them? Keep my female name and just live that lie around them? I wouldn't personally mind too much, but I'm not sure. Any advice?

Who you tell, and when, is totally up to you.  Unless your going to live fulltime as a male, you might never need to tell most people.

Unless you plan on transitioning, you say you cant take T but what about surgery?, then you probably wouldnt need to but of course its still up to you. If you wont be changing anything really anyway it might actually be best not to if you think they might not take it well. If however they would be fully accepting of it then there is no reason not to tell them even if you werent going to be drastically changing anything. I know the problem is though not knowing how someone will react to it. Depends on how far you want to go with this as to whether you would need to or not. I am going all the way so obviously I had to tell mine, cant really hide surgery, hormone effects etc from people. I am lucky in that mine are accepting and support everything I need to do but I've read some bad reactions on here too. If you're not sure all I would do is give it more time and you might just feel 'ready' to tell them one day if you feel it is necessary to. You shouldnt need to hide who you are from anyone just to suit them, do what is right for you