My Stepmom on a facebook post commented "I'm glad your my stepson."

Really? I know she hasn't seen me in three weeks. oh well I'll just laugh it off.

Mother "Does this mean we can talk girl stuff?"
Myself  "I guess, depends what you mean?"
Mother "Like when you get your first period?"
Myself  "I dont get periods"
Mother "If you turn into a girl you will and they arent fun."
Myself  "I give up, obviously your a little on the ignorant side of this!"

"What the hell do you need socks in your pants for? You're not some boy ashamed of their d**k size trying to make themselves feel better."

Wait...that's a perfect way to put it! Thanks for the insight, Mom!

"Well for some people that's a lifestyle choice."

Seriously, why would I choose to feel bad about myself almost everyday and go though all the other problems that go hand in hand with being trans?

Quote from: Data Lizard on April 28, 2013, 12:34:57 PM
"Well for some people that's a lifestyle choice."

Seriously, why would I choose to feel bad about myself almost everyday and go though all the other problems that go hand in hand with being trans?

Exactly! My mom told me some people "choose" to be gay, too. That's not how it works -_-

Quote from: Liminal Stranger on April 28, 2013, 09:45:21 AM
"What the hell do you need socks in your pants for? You're not some boy ashamed of their d**k size trying to make themselves feel better."

Wait...that's a perfect way to put it! Thanks for the insight, Mom!

Haha! Me too.

Yesterday, I came across this: "I'm pansexual. I'm attracted to boys, girls, and ->-bleeped-<-s." *head desk*

Quote from: Edge on April 30, 2013, 07:00:42 AM
Haha! Me too.

Yesterday, I came across this: "I'm pansexual. I'm attracted to boys, girls, and ->-bleeped-<-s." *head desk*

Don't you just love people like that?

"You're not transsexual."
"How so?"
"Because."
"Because what?"
"Because."
"Because what?"
"Because I know."
"How do you know?"
"Because I'm your mother and I know. I'm all-knowing."

...what.

(soon-to-be-ex) Wife: You're starting a whole new life!
Me: We both are.
Her: But you're doing it out of choice.

And then there's my friend who, on finding out that I'm transitioning, said "I heard you're having sex-change surgery".

After I corrected that friend's misconception, she sent me a link where I can, in her words, "meet all kinds of people exploring their sexuality (Polyamory, kink, lifestyle, sacred sexuality, and more)"

Quote from: suzifrommd on May 18, 2013, 12:05:40 PM
After I corrected that friend's misconception, she sent me a link where I can, in her words, "meet all kinds of people exploring their sexuality (Polyamory, kink, lifestyle, sacred sexuality, and more)"

Ughhh, I hate when people do that.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on April 26, 2013, 07:27:48 PM
...And a dickweed is a dickweed...

Right on!

Quote from: Liminal Stranger on April 14, 2013, 11:50:28 PM

"You're on 'the spectrum', that's autism not transgender s**t."

My urge to punch the person who said that is extremely high. 

Today, I got (from a friend);

Me: "I'll go open some more wine."
Him: "Good girl!"
Me: "I'd rather not be called a girl."
Him: "But you *are* a girl!"

Grr.

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on May 18, 2013, 07:29:49 PM
Today, I got (from a friend);

Me: "I'll go open some more wine."
Him: "Good girl!"
Me: "I'd rather not be called a girl."
Him: "But you *are* a girl!"

Grr.

Some friend

I've never really gotten any negative attention to my face. The worst I got was "Your roommate is gay isn't he? Why don't you just date him?" ... because gay men aren't attracted to people who look like girls ??

I've encountered a couple of themes in the responses I get & most of them are like water off of a ducks back but one of the conversations that frustrates me very quickly goes something like this:

"Oh you're Trans, what's you real name then?"

"My name's Jayne"

"I mean your real name"

"My real name is Jayne"

"But what's your real name?"

"I've changed my name by deed poll, my real & legal name is Jayne"

"But what name did your parents give you?"

"AAARGGHHH!!!!"

I've had many things said to me over these eight months:

My auntie said to my mum: "He is doing it because he is lonely" "I don't think he knows what he wants" "while he's wearing ladies clothes, he can't go in our car". After my mum told her on Christmas Eva that I will change completely into a female, and look nothing like Simon, my auntie said "but in the end he is still going to be wearing ladies clothes".

"Why does he have to have the operation just because he's gay" That was from another auntie.

My dad said "can't you wait a year before being Bethany so we can get use to it" How can he and my step mum get use to it if I stay as Simon for another year?

The week before I started treatment, a lady at a place I use to work said "so when I see you next week you will look different then?"

Telling someone I was changing my gender. Their reply was "so when did decide to do that?"

My dad not happy that I am going to change my gender: "why don't we just not see him for three years?" My step mum's reply "we can't go that, as we want know who he is in three years time"

"No one needs to know, on my side, that you are changing your gender" My reply to my dad was "but when I come to yours at Christmas, I'll be wearing ladies clothes" My dad said "no one will even notice, and if they do I'll just say, your having a sex change"

A guy who comes into our shop I work at said "drop your pants then if your female"

And "I am never going to call you Bethany as you look no different". That was when I had started my RLE as well!!

Quote from: bethanyjadefowell on May 21, 2013, 03:15:14 PM
I've had many things said to me over these eight months:

My auntie said to my mum: "He is doing it because he is lonely" "I don't think he knows what he wants" "while he's wearing ladies clothes, he can't go in our car". After my mum told her on Christmas Eva that I will change completely into a female, and look nothing like Simon, my auntie said "but in the end he is still going to be wearing ladies clothes".

"Why does he have to have the operation just because he's gay" That was from another auntie.

My dad said "can't you wait a year before being Bethany so we can get use to it" How can he and my step mum get use to it if I stay as Simon for another year?

The week before I started treatment, a lady at a place I use to work said "so when I see you next week you will look different then?"

Telling someone I was changing my gender. Their reply was "so when did decide to do that?"

My dad not happy that I am going to change my gender: "why don't we just not see him for three years?" My step mum's reply "we can't go that, as we want know who he is in three years time"

"No one needs to know, on my side, that you are changing your gender" My reply to my dad was "but when I come to yours at Christmas, I'll be wearing ladies clothes" My dad said "no one will even notice, and if they do I'll just say, your having a sex change"

A guy who comes into our shop I work at said "drop your pants then if your female"

And "I am never going to call you Bethany as you look no different". That was when I had started my RLE as well!!

How awful! I'm sorry that these people are not being supportive.

All I can say to family who think I will still look like Simon in three years time, that they will be be sorry if they ever decide to see me.

Knowing what some of my family are like, I'll get something like this said (once I've changed): "but you look nothing like Simon", "what have you done, I thought you were only wearing ladies clothes"

So I'll say something like I've changed my gender, inside and out. Many things about me as a person and totally in my looks have changed. Surely, you didn't really think it was like you thought, I'd changed my name and was just wearing ladies clothes!!

My depression/trauma therapist: I told him: "I think i am transsexual (getting more sure everyday)" And he said to me: "Are you sure you know what that word (transsexual) means?"

I just thought: "Come on, we've been good friends for many years now, you know i don't say things just like that. I've always been a person to think about things a lot"

And replied: "Come on, you know me, i know what that means. I've been dealing with it for some time actually-NOW LET US PLEASE CHANGE THE SUBJECT!"

"awkward silence"

"You'll always be a girl"

"You're going to be a very short guy"

"Your shoulders aren't broad enough"

"So you're going to have people think you're a gay guy"

"If you're going to be a guy you have to stop being afraid of bugs and chainsaws"

"I don't understand why you're bothering with hormones if you'll never be able to afford to have a penis"

"Just because you like girls doesn't mean you have to be a guy"

"If you're going to be a guy you really need to change your name back to Shannon"

~hope