So I moved in friday and I didn't write a letter or tell them or anything. I think they see me as a dude, I did what the last poster said. Calm confident and sure of myself. They call me dude, they are pretty chill. I feel a little uncomfortable changing and bathroom use but I would anywhere anyway.

If they do ask, I will tell them. They asked how old I was and kinda just chatted about random things, I barely remember what we talked about.

I will post here if anything happens. I also have a friend who has opened their house to me if I find I can't handle it so I believe it will be good.

I'm happy to hear you have a backup plan and that things are going well so far. I really hope that you keep this thread updated as I will be facing the same dilemma soon.

I'm moving off to college and I'll be rooming with 3 other cis guys, one is openly homosexual who I'll be in a dorm with, but it's still a tad nerve-racking. I plan on being completely stealth since passing isn't an issue, I've got my name done and I'm just ready to start over. It's scary though. Everything that I wanted to happen is finally happening, but it's just scary, really lol. I don't mean to thread jack, I just wanted to share that you're not the only one going through it.

Please keep us update, and best of wishes!

I will try keep it updated. I'm working and such so I may be busy. The trick is to be confident and sure of yourself. They may suspect something but I think if I am honest about me as a person then they won't need to ask what I have between my legs. Then again I haven't had beers with them yet so who knows if liquid courage will bring the ugly side out. Like honestly, I am my own worst enemy at this point.

I texted my 'friend' being like I'm uncomfortable and I need somewhere to crash, they didnt respond for 8 hrs and then when I was like hey what do you say, they were like I'm busy text me later, which I did and they were still busy. So I said whatever, I'm going to my place and going to deal. My reasoning was this, if you have no one to turn to you have to get through it as best you can.

I am home now making supper in the kitchen had Brief convos with one of the guys while the others are watching tv. The door is literally a revolving door, so there is a new face here pretty much everytime I'm home, they are super social guys and I am kinda getting that side of me back since I been started hrt.

I will get more anxiety about this, I am sure but I keep reminding myself. Fake it til, you make it. But also, put your safety first. So I will stay vigilant but also try my best to engage at the level at which I am most comfortable.

I wish you luck next year when you go to college. If you are absolutely new to that area you will be ok. My other worry is I am not out at work and I live in a small city. So it's a matter of time I feel. The best I can do is cross that bridge when I get there.

I lived with.. 4 or 5 other guys, don't even remember anymore haha, in a university apartment.
We each had single bedrooms and shared 2 bathrooms. At the time I think housing only had contact info for 2 of them when I asked about disclosing. Most of them were international students so it was a little awkward trying to explain the situation to one of the two I emailed.. lol. The other one was fine with it but we never really addressed it face-to-face after the email, as far as I can remember. The other guys I don't think were ever really aware of it.

I was already on T at this point and we were all kind of more involved in our academics than with socializing with each other.. (the one guy I emailed who I spoke to from time to time was graduating.) I think that's preferable for me, though.

Honestly if the bathroom doors didn't have locks on them I'd probably still get paranoid living with cis guys.. haha.

The shower curtain is gross. It looks like someone puked on it and let it crust, I suggested they throw it away. I will do it when I get paid.

I hung out with two of the guys on Wednesday night we just talked and joked around. One of the other guys likes supports Chelsea and I support Manchester United in the Barclays Premier league (soccer for those who are unaware) so we talk about it and banter, its respectful cause we are not fanatical. So it's good that we have something in common.

I also joined a dj team it's all dudes and they read me as male at get. That was pretty fantastic, I'd say. I feel good but always scared it won't last. I think I am my own enemy so I will stick with the good and keep being the confident guy I know I am.

It's only been 10days, there is 3months and 20days to go.
 
Cautiously optimistic.

shower curtains are pretty cheap. If it seems weird to get one you could say you have a mildew allergy.


--Jay

Good luck man, I'm rooming with 1-2 cis guys I don't know in a hotel for 4 nights. So at least you have bedroom privacy!

So it turns out they know I'm female bodied. I only know this cause I'm making supper with them now and one of them used she. I am not particularly fussed about she. At least I can relax a bit more and just let this summer be. I'm on hrt and I'm going to start changing so will see. They call me dude, I'm sure one of the people they hang out with outed me since I'm not out at work. I was in my room the other day and I heard is that shay? I didn't go to check it out cause I didn't want to address stuff then.

Anyway I thought I was being stealthy, failed like crazy. Feel kinda dumb.

Good luck with the hotel room.