So, I've been waiting to come out to my mom for a couple reasons. One, I had college finals to tackle, two it was my niece's birthday party last Sunday, and now Mother's Day is this weekend. I don't want to ruin it for her but I feel if I don't tell her soon then I may not get the guts to for a while.

Where as I love my mother, and don't wish to ruin her weekend... I just feel I need to do something soon.

So the question is... should I wait for the holiday to pass... or should I say something this week? I can't decide myself. Well I can but... I want to know if now is the best time or if I should wait another week. I was never very tactful in the first place lol

Hey Jerred,

Tell her when you feel comfortable.  No one here can can say you should do it now or later.  This is a decision that only you can make. 

However, I can totally relate with where you are coming from.  I live with my mom as well and feel the need to come out because otherwise I can't move forward.  Yet, I am terrified to do so because I am somewhat dependent on her and would have no where else to go. Nonetheless, I know what has to be done and have been working on becoming courageous and plan on saying something soon.  Personally, I have decided to let mothers day pass before I consider coming out.  I love my mom and want her to have a great day.  Coming out beforehand will make some difficulties and I don't want to spoil her special day.  My mom always looks forward to this day, and I want her to fully enjoy it.  You situation may be very different, but this is something that only you can decide. If you could wait though, I think that might be easier for her.     

Why would it ruin her weekend.

Knowing one of her precious children has made a significant self discovery which will make their life happier?

Anyway, I get the impression your mom already knows. So, what you'll be doing is being honest with her.

That's a great gift.



Addition.

Yoy have two differing points of view. Sorry, didn't mean to create another decision.

Quote from: spacial on May 07, 2013, 01:31:36 PM
Why would it ruin her weekend.

I dunno if she does have a suspicion or not. If she doesn't, and takes it badly I don't want to ruin Mothers Day as it's her day, you know? I don't know if she plans on doing anything nice for herself or not, and if she does, I don't want my coming out to.. I dunno make it all fall apart on her.

But if she does have a suspicion.. Or does realize something's up, because I have been acting more myself than I ever have (more.. lol "manly") Well then it won't ruin a thing, but I never like to assume... Assuming usually ends up with me neck deep in trouble because I assumed incorrectly and managed to anger someone in the process (never my intention but like I said in the opening post, I'm not very tactful).

So ya that's my dilemma. I'm starting to think I should just wait till next week... Even though I just printed out my letter and a pamphlet with information about transgender stuff. -sighs- Why must this be harder than it is lol

Its Mother's Day weekend, why take the chance.

You've waited this long, what's another week?