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Cindy

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My coming out process has been positive.  My husband has been along for the ride since before we were married, although I don't think he really expected that I would go public with it like I have.  Even that has been fine for us.  I told my mom and sister and they're both accepting.  Still working up the guts to tell my dad, but I don't expect anything bad to happen there.  Everything has been smooth with friends as well.  I'm feeling very lucky.

One thing I've noticed with coming out: it's been completely positive in terms of acceptance, but if I want any sort of emotional support from close friends, the same that I'd look for with any major life issue, I have to spell that out really explicitly.  Coming out has been a big deal for me, and just dealing with dysphoria is depressing sometimes.  So it'd be nice to be able to talk about it with friends, the same way we'd talk about any of our problems and big life changes.  But I think people are worried about making me uncomfortable if they ask questions, so if I want to talk about it, I have to come right out and say so.  That's not a negative per se, and I know I'm still extremely lucky, but that's something that struck me as interesting about the coming out process.

Well,

My parents and grand parents were all dead which left three sisters, a wife, work and friends.  Results have been mixed and NOT what I would predicted...  I just had a private conversation with everyone on my list.  We went to lunch or we took a walk.

Sister 1 – Four years older than I, lesbian, tomboyish.  She won't talk to me and thinks I've lost it.
Sister 2 – Two years older than I, divorced, single mother and a church secretary. Said – that sounds good.  Accepts my being a woman but neither supportive nor antagonistic. 
Sister 3 – One year younger, single mother, very conservative Christian.  Total support.
Work – Total support thus far – human resources, manager, director and vice president have all offered support and help and to run interference.  Co-workers – don't seen to care or are supportive.  Not out to some I work with periodically.   
Friends – lukewarm to hostile. 
Wife – Sometimes good, sometimes not so good, sometimes hostile.  This is tough, I don't think she is going to stay.

Could be worse.

I just came out to my MTF friend today, and...it obviously wasn't a bad experience...I'm just not so sure it was good? Haha.

I messaged her on fb asking her some things on the subject, and told her I wasn't trying to grow my boobs, and was looking for ways to transition FTM.

She...literally had no reaction. Bush reacted more when the Twin Towers were hit. I was hoping she would at least talk to me a bit, and I think that would've been reassuring for me. But she just casually continued on the conversation, like it wasn't news to her. I figured she woulda at least said SOMETHING, since last she knows, I was working so hard to get curves, no matter how masculine I've been in the past.

I think I'm telling my other friend Tuesday when I hang out with her. I'm...hoping she's able to give me some kind of reaction to go off of...