So, I hope everyone can follow along but I'll try to keep it short.

My name is Tobias. That's not my birth name but I'd like to think it is. For a long time, I've always fought within myself issues stemming with my gender and how I actually look. I would go through fits of wanting to scream in frustration and just accepting things as they were. I eventually decided to pursue only lesbian relationships since I could dress as a guy and be the "butch" while still being stealth about my feelings and issues. (I also lean more toward girls anyway.) Then I met my now spouse, a man by birth but a woman inside. Though neither of us were open about this and so we went on with our lives. We had a son together and have struggled to make ends meet since.

After some time, marital issue became more pronounced and we started getting more frustrated with ourselves. (Though neither of us knew why.) While we were living in different towns (for job reasons), we came out to one another in the same conversation. We spilled our guts out and we became closer again as we now understood why we were not able to be closer to one another. Since then, my now-wife plans to change her name to Cassandra and has been dressing/acting as a woman now. I have pretty much continued with my androgynous dressing style and have my wife now call me by my new name when no one else we know is around. (She's more open about her status than I am.)

So that brings us to this, I'm a FTM transsexual and my wife is a MTF transsexual and we have one child together. I'm here to learn more about things and become more educated in trans* matters. I hope that my stay here is long and welcome. Thank you everyone.

Hello, and welcome!

I've been here for awhile and I've learnt a lot about myself and other types of trans* people in the spectrum. Your situation is very interesting as it must be one in a million, perhaps your wife will also want to join you here.

I'm sure you'll learn a lot as I have, and you'll grow a lot.

A mod should be around soon to welcome you and give you the basic links about forum rules and such.

-Skye

Hi Tobias,

Welcome to our little family. Over 11328. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother and SO.

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

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Janet  )O(

Ah! Thank you very much! I was actually trying to figure out some of the things with this forum like how to post avis and what not. (I figured there was a post amount needed to get the ability to do so.)

I'm glad for the warm welcome and I will do my best to follow the rules and stay in the good graces of everyone when I can.

Hiya Tobias! Yours is a very interesting story. I think it's wonderful that you and your wife have strengthened your relationship through this.

I too am new here and am excited to learn more and build friendships.

I'll look forward to seeing more from you and perhaps your wife too

~Alaia~

Welcome to Susan's, Tobias. I'm happy that you and your spouse have grown closer since the revelations. Congratulations to ou on the birth of your child.

Greetings Tobias!  And a warm hello to Cassandra too.

Get to know the site.  We have very active FtM and MtF communities, and you may be able to use your experience as the spouse of a transperson in the Significant Others forum.

You will be able to use the personal messaging utility on the site after 15 posts - and you will then be able to modify your forum profile to include an avatar.  I urge Cassandra to join too, if she has not already done so.

Glad you found us.