Quote from: Steph21 on May 22, 2013, 08:04:52 AM
Maybe a cold honest - don't come in here unless you want the cold hard truth - critique me, thread would be useful? Dunno. I would post. I would quite like to know what people honestly, honestly think of me.

No, hon. There are no "Don't come in here" areas on the site, and there aren't going to be any. The site mission is support. It's very easy to be honest AND supportive. Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: peky on May 21, 2013, 10:05:39 PM
  "Honestly" ?

That ^^ this means some times you are dishonest?   LOL

Lol, I deserved that

Quote from: Steph21 on May 22, 2013, 08:04:52 AM
Maybe a cold honest - don't come in here unless you want the cold hard truth - critique me, thread would be useful? Dunno. I would post. I would quite like to know what people honestly, honestly think of me.

With all do respect, I think that sounds like a bad idea.  Giving positive feedback and helpful tips is fine, but that kind of a thread is likely going to lead people to being overly harsh or taking things too far.  People already can be overly critical at times and this is something I have seem a lot in the transgender community.  We tend to see masculine traits in everything because we are always looking for it.  If anything, lack of honesty isn't that issue, it's the extent of how critical we can be about our appearances.  That's one of the reasons I doubt I'd ever post a picture of myself up on here.   

Quote from: spacial on May 22, 2013, 09:17:26 AM
There's a load on Facebook, me included, who have truthfully said you look and are gorgeous.

Is that cold, honest and truthfull enough for you?

I know it's cliche, but really, the only ugliness is in the soul. Those who seek to do harm.

Thanks Jill.  My first reaction us that ur just being nice,  but I would have believed you if you had said I was a man faced pug. then I realise that probably means that I am only willing to believe negative things about me.  I suppose I need to work on my self image as well as my image.  Par for the course I suspect.  Thanks Jill.  X

You know something Steph. If you spend any time trying to deal with people who don't like you, eventually you just get worn down, exhausted and you begin to believe it must be you.

The reality is, some people don't like you, and me and everyone. Just as you might not like some people. No-one has any obligation. Parents, family, people who have similar interests. None has any obligation.

Only children can expect to be loved and we are not children.

Walk away. For them. For you.

Quote from: girl you look fierce on May 23, 2013, 02:38:08 PM
I prefer to be very truthful. I do feel that a lot of trans people are too optimistic in terms of passing threads.

Optimistic about their own appearance and chances of passing? Or optimistic about the appearances of others and their passability?

     I think and this is just my opinion,we all spend to much time on LOOKS .They are very abstract
we are not made on a cookie cutter press we are all different just look around you.One persons beauty is another persons ugly what we are really missing is the beauty within that person and that's what really counts in the long run.We are all going to change with time but the beauty within
will grow and that's what helps keep soul mates together as they wrinkle and turn grey.
God bless you all on your journey.

Heather you are lovely inside and out.

Beth I can clear a room in 2 seconds!

Quote from: buddy on May 23, 2013, 11:27:53 PM
     I think and this is just my opinion,we all spend to much time on LOOKS .They are very abstract
we are not made on a cookie cutter press we are all different just look around you.One persons beauty is another persons ugly what we are really missing is the beauty within that person and that's what really counts in the long run.We are all going to change with time but the beauty within
will grow and that's what helps keep soul mates together as they wrinkle and turn grey.
God bless you all on your journey.

Heather you are lovely inside and out.

Beth I can clear a room in 2 seconds!

This is a good attitude to have I'll try to carry this sentiment with me wherever I go, at least a little bit!