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Not 100 percent sure

Started by justchillin, May 27, 2013, 11:32:24 AM

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justchillin

In the last 3 months I have made what I feel are major strides in terms of recognizing my feeling and addressing them. I'm almost at a point to where I can start making some of the physical transitions needed. The only problem is I can honestly say I'm not a 100 percent sure. Of course this is part of my personality to doubt things but I wanted to ask is it normal to not be 100 percent sure ? I do know there's  no going back to how I was. Sorry if this is all a little jumbled up.
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Ethan

Make sure you wouldn't regret physical transition. Doubts do occur. I am a Libran well known for his indecisiveness ( :P ) and kept doubting this some time back. Doubts were solved with time and by questioning myself what would make me happy.

Good luck  :)
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Ltl89

People have doubts all the time, so it's not uncommon.  Personally, I have never had doubts, but I have questioned whether I could ever pass or if I could successfully transition.  Still, I know plenty of women who weren't 100 percent about their identity.  In this case, I would suggest going to therapy before making any decisions.  You don't want to do something if you aren't sure it is right for you.  I think it is good idea for you to learn more about yourself before taking action.
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justchillin

Due to me questioning my gender I have been able clear up any doubt about my sexuality and I'm sure I'll clear doubt about my gender with time. I just worry about how much time do I really have. I mean my entire body gets more and more masculine. I can honestly say a lot of my doubt come from the idea of completely losing myself. it's not that I don't dislike my masculine identity, It's just no longer the dominate persona in my head. Although I will take you advice and start back my therapy. It probably for the best lol.
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suzifrommd

Have you been out in public and social situations presenting female?

That's what cemented it for me.
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Elle16

Doubts are normal, I have them even today - but I keep going down this path as I know this is the right thing for me.

Going out into the world as a woman is probably one of the hardest things you'll do - but can also be rewarding too. I've found that I tend to look people right in the eye's dressed as a woman - like I'm showing them my true self. I'm going to say not passing is unimportant to me because as of right now its not on the top of my list. I don't have hormones, I still have the facial hair and well I'm 6'3 height... people know I'm a man dressed as a woman but the most important thing is : I can see myself as the woman I know I am!  :)

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justchillin

Quote from: suzifrommd on May 27, 2013, 12:53:10 PM
Have you been out in public and social situations presenting female?

That's what cemented it for me.

Sorry I've been away so long (Me Vs. Life = Getting ass kicked). No I have not been able to present in public. I'm getting very close to that moment but I want to brush up on my make up skill a little more not to mention I want to plan where I go my first time a little more strategic. Maybe I'm putting way too much though into lol. 
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