Quote from: ZoeM on May 27, 2013, 07:10:24 PM
Jamie D, Threadcutter!

It is a manifestation of my bi-gendered nature.       

Back on topic please.   

1. wearing make-up
2. cute jeans
3. womens clothing stores are way more fun and have better deals.
4. Wearing pink and not being called a ->-bleeped-<- for it
5. Being my self.
6. Painting my nails
7. showing my clevage as much as I can because Iv got it and they cost a lot.

I've been thinking about this thread and the reason I don't think I can really answer is that I really don't consider myself a girl. It would be really hard to ask people to call me that and I don't have to ask with strangers but when they say she I get happy but feel like I am being misgendered or tricking people. I guess for lack of a better term I feel like I am a trap. And maybe I am just confusing wanting to be something with actually feeling some way. I mean everybody puts down these things they like like bras and panties and nails and skirts and whatnot. I don't know what this makes me.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on May 27, 2013, 08:45:03 PM
And maybe I am just confusing wanting to be something with actually feeling some way.

Joanna, we experience our transgender in different ways. The dominant narrative ("I always knew I was a woman") just doesn't ring true for some of us. Certainly not for me.

For me I just feel like I really, really, really want to be a woman, not that I am one. For decades I thought that it meant I wasn't trans. Now that I've met a lot of transgender women who feel exactly as I do, many of them happily post-transition, I'm realizing that I fit right in.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on May 27, 2013, 08:45:03 PM
I've been thinking about this thread and the reason I don't think I can really answer is that I really don't consider myself a girl. It would be really hard to ask people to call me that and I don't have to ask with strangers but when they say she I get happy but feel like I am being misgendered or tricking people. I guess for lack of a better term I feel like I am a trap. And maybe I am just confusing wanting to be something with actually feeling some way. I mean everybody puts down these things they like like bras and panties and nails and skirts and whatnot. I don't know what this makes me.

This doesn't make you any less female. Well, you know, clothes do not maketh the woman. Bras and panties are utilitarian things. I wear a bra because I have to as I have a heavy bosom. I wear knickers because of hygiene and tucking. I don't wear nail varnish. I may have had more of an attachment to these things in the days of my early discoveries. But those were days of experimentation, like teenage girls going through puberty, trying to find a footing, working out who we are. In fact, certain things actually now make me feel less womanly, even dysphoric, because of the associations they had back in my clubbing days. I feel clothes for me were used as a substitute when I felt nothing tangible about me was feminine. Today, my favourite things have sort of become distilled into just being, feeling, seeing a woman in the mirror. Clothes and stuff take second or third place.

The things I love about being a girl;

-     Shoes, really love the shoes, flats, heels, boots, all of them.
-     Dressing up, I don't get a chance to wear skirts or dresses all that often, but it is nice when I do.
-     Seeing myself in the mirror and increasingly see Jennifer smiling back.
-     Having boobs, they make me feel more me.

I never had a thing for underwear or bras. As I say I wear under wear never thought any different about it same thing for bras though I was happy when I got my boobs done because I did not have to wear padded bras anymore from hormone boobs being so small. I just enjoy being a woman all around.

Quote from: Lanalicious34 on May 28, 2013, 09:14:27 AM
I never had a thing for underwear or bras. As I say I wear under wear never thought any different about it same thing for bras though I was happy when I got my boobs done because I did not have to wear padded bras anymore from hormone boobs being so small. I just enjoy being a woman all around.

Ditto. But, I'll also add jeans too. I cannot wait to put on a pair of my Levi jeans when I'm post-op without having to tuck. Which is the bane of my existence at the moment. Tucking destroys the aesthetics.

Oh, one more thing, and the best of all - being with a man!    

Yeah I guess y'all are right. I am def much more happy transitioning.

Quote from: girl you look fierce on May 28, 2013, 10:03:13 AM
Joanna I think what you are feeling is a self-esteem issue. Doubting the things you already decided were right for you. Fearing that people will reject you if they know who you really are.

This is def true. And it isn't like I am not sure that this is def what I want. I know I would be better off living this way. Much better off. It's just that I feel like some people will look at me like I am completely insane and be like yeah sure whatever you say. It makes me want to run away and go someplace no one knows me so I never even have to deal with that.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on May 28, 2013, 02:12:07 PM
Yeah I guess y'all are right. I am def much more happy transitioning.

This is def true. And it isn't like I am not sure that this is def what I want. I know I would be better off living this way. Much better off. It's just that I feel like some people will look at me like I am completely insane and be like yeah sure whatever you say. It makes me want to run away and go someplace no one knows me so I never even have to deal with that.

Don't worry so much about others.  Just be you and have with life.  As you know, I have really bad rejection issues and it hurts me to when I think about the possibility that others won't accept me as female.  But, I am female and need to live as one.  From what you say, I'm sure you feel the same.  So, live for you.  Also, clothes, hair, under wear, etc... doesn't make anyone a girl.  It's just something lots of girls share in common, so don't sweat it.  But I understand how you feel reading this thread.  Being in the beginning of my transition it upsets me that I can't go out in a cute dress or wear makeup in public without stares.  I too want to hide and run away from the judgement of others.  However, I have some fear and self confidence to build.  It's better to overcome it than letting it defeat us. After all, it's our life and we deserve to be happy and live for ourselves.  I hope you can find the same conclusion. 

As for this thread, I don't have an answer as I'm still pre everything and only out to a few people.  But the greatest thing is I can be myself and feel happy.  Everything else has little to do with my g

Quote from: Northern Jane on May 28, 2013, 11:37:58 AM
Oh, one more thing, and the best of all - being with a man!    

LOL, good point.  But you don't have to be a girl to do that! 

Quote from: Northern Jane on May 28, 2013, 11:37:58 AM
Oh, one more thing, and the best of all - being with a man!    

Oh how I so agree with you. I like guys

Quote from: Tristan on May 29, 2013, 05:28:49 AM
Oh how I so agree with you. I like guys

I don't like that part things don't usually work out with them in my experience.

Quote from: kyh on May 29, 2013, 10:42:49 AM
I don't like that part things don't usually work out with them in my experience.

What does not work out with them

Quote from: Tristan on May 29, 2013, 10:53:21 AM
What does not work out with them

Everything hahaha >_< I'm just not what they're looking for at the end of the day. But that'll change in time, I think. ^_^

Quote from: kyh on May 29, 2013, 11:07:37 AM
Everything hahaha >_< I'm just not what they're looking for at the end of the day. But that'll change in time, I think. ^_^

That is funny I am, I get chased all the time, not a day goes by I don't get some guy some place some offer.

My problem? I like women!  and with my current physical configuration there is no way a lesbian will ever date me and I don't see a way out of this predicament any time in my future.

Quote from: vegie271 on May 29, 2013, 11:16:56 AM


That is funny I am, I get chased all the time, not a day goes by I don't get some guy some place some offer.

My problem? I like women!  and with my current physical configuration there is no way a lesbian will ever date me and I don't see a way out of this predicament any time in my future.

xD

The sad sad life of a trans girl 

My favorite thing about being a girl is all the attention I get from guys

Quote from: ZoeM on May 27, 2013, 01:57:04 PM
I love posing in front of mirrors.

This would be a close second

Quote from: Kayla on May 29, 2013, 11:31:39 AM
My favorite thing about being a girl is all the attention I get from guys

This would be a close second

i must admit two of my favs as well. i like them boys haha