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Who were you most worried about coming out to?

Started by Lucid, March 26, 2013, 04:13:57 AM

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Who were you most worried about coming out to? (Pick two)

Parents
29 (56.9%)
Significant Other
18 (35.3%)
Children
5 (9.8%)
Work
12 (23.5%)
Other (Family, strangers, no one, etc.)
9 (17.6%)

Total Members Voted: 51

Naomi

Quote from: CalmRage on June 02, 2013, 07:45:29 AM
The whole stuff about grades sums up last week where it had finally gotten impossible to ignore.

I can't really say anything about high school staff, but I've found faculty and staff at college to be very understanding.
あたしは性同一性障害を患っているよ。

aka, when I admitted to myself who I was, not when my dysphoria started :P
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CalmRage

My problem is my feelings don't stay at a constant level . They vary through the day, but i know this has to be treated. And for some reason i cannot cry at the moment.
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LWhite

My parents. Largely because of recent events already causing trouble in our life.

My parents split up this year. Dad's doing his thing, but Mum has a lot of trouble at the moment. Dad will likely ignore it, but mum... well, she has enough troubles without me causing more.
It doesn't help that they've never been too supportive of my troubles. I had once informed them that I wished to see a therapist for depression. Ended up having to pay for it myself, so... one session with a GP-appointed councilor was what I could pay for.

If I have to put up with the resistance they offered just for depression, I'm not looking forward to the response to gender issues.

Though my partner's family isn't going to be much better. They're... less accepting than mine.
Impermanently human.
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CalmRage

Quote from: LWhite on June 02, 2013, 08:25:20 AM
My parents. Largely because of recent events already causing trouble in our life.

My parents split up this year. Dad's doing his thing, but Mum has a lot of trouble at the moment. Dad will likely ignore it, but mum... well, she has enough troubles without me causing more.
It doesn't help that they've never been too supportive of my troubles. I had once informed them that I wished to see a therapist for depression. Ended up having to pay for it myself, so... one session with a GP-appointed councilor was what I could pay for.

If I have to put up with the resistance they offered just for depression, I'm not looking forward to the response to gender issues.

Though my partner's family isn't going to be much better. They're... less accepting than mine.

I no longer have contact to my dad. Last time we talked was a few months ago and the last time i saw him in person was in August or September last year. He's an alcoholic. I don't touch that stuff.
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LWhite

Quote from: CalmRage on June 02, 2013, 08:57:07 AM
I no longer have contact to my dad. Last time we talked was a few months ago and the last time i saw him in person was in August or September last year. He's an alcoholic. I don't touch that stuff.

Roles reversed on this end. I'm terrified coming out's gonna drive her to drink even worse.
Impermanently human.
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CalmRage

Quote from: LWhite on June 02, 2013, 09:06:44 AM
Roles reversed on this end. I'm terrified coming out's gonna drive her to drink even worse.

I don't care what happens to my dad. So big was our falling-out. Besides, i already know he wouldn't be accepting.
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JoW

Firstly, parents. Secondly - neighbours. Not that I was planning a formal coming-out for the latter, but at some point they're going to notice something.
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CalmRage

My mother is bugging me to know what is going on. Not going to tell her yet. I have been behaving rather weird lately, that is true.
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Tiffanie

I was scared to death of losing my wife.  I was already wearing women's clothes for the most part before I ever discussed my feelings.  She is staying with me  ;D

I need to tell my mom, but she sees me wearing entirely girly clothing, earrings and nail polish and does not say anything ... I think she knows ... we'll see.

Theo

Quote from: Tiffanie on June 02, 2013, 08:01:13 PM
I need to tell my mom, but she sees me wearing entirely girly clothing, earrings and nail polish and does not say anything ... I think she knows ... we'll see.

I have to admit thinking "she just might, yes" after reading that... ;)
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Chamillion

My dad, because when I told him I was gay a couple years before that he said some really hurtful things and we ended up not talking for almost a year. For some reason, he took the news that I'm transgender much better. Now he loves having a son. I was scared to tell my mom too just cos I knew she'd be upset about it but I also knew she would support me.
;D
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CalmRage

I'm worried about telling my mother and my brother.

Reasons for holding out a while longer:

1.terrible, confusing mood swings.

2.planning how to.
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Christine167

My wife. I hate the thought of hurting her. She's my best friend in the whole world and currently she's having a lot of trouble coping with it. We both go to see our therapists today though. So far she is in the "I want a separation and a divorce" camp but still has feelings for me.





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Jean24

It was definitely my mom. I have never met my dad and she is the only parent that I have. She has always been there for me as well as a forward looking person but I still felt ashamed of my feelings to the point where I couldn't talk to anyone about them. It worked for a few decades but I finally was forced to confront my gender issue and talk about it. I came out to her and a huge sense of relief washed over me when she was accepting. I told her and a close friend and have been fortunate enough to not have experienced rejection yet. I have some friends and family who probably will not accept me for who I am. I'm not bothered by it though because it shows you who your true friends are.
Trying to take it one day at a time :)
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ChelseaAnn

I voted wife and work.
Personally, my prediction for my wife isn't pretty. She was uncomfortable when she allowed me to wear women's clothing for two weeks when we dated, so I imagine our marriage won't last long. What's worse is her family, who are highly unaccepting of glbt overall.
I also dread work. I may just quit and start over. It's a factory which is all male on the floor. Plus, my mom works in the office, so I'd hate to cause problems for her. I think she might accept me, bit the other staff saying things might be the problem
http://chelseatransition.blogspot.com/

MTF, transitioning in 2015
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