Tonight I told my best friend that I'm a transsexual and it wasn't pre-planned and I just kinda did it. I mean a lot of people have been asking her if I am getting a sex change or why I look like a woman, since I look radically different since I started HRT 3.5 months ago. I could have just danced around the question and blamed it on weight loss or the flu or something but I really need support so I decided to take a chance because it would be great to have a friend who accepts me and I don't have to hide from or ignore. I didn't know what to expect but as it turns out she said she fully supports  me and thinks it's great and that we could go shopping together and go to bars and get free drinks lol and do all types of fun things. I want to pinch myself because I didn't expect her to respond so fantastically well. I will be able to present female and experience female friendship on a real level and it's one of the main things I have always wanted: to be accepted and included with females. I'm so excited. I just got off the phone with her after talking for like four hours lol and really I know she wanted more female friends so yeah. Our friendship is going to be so so much better from here on out. She even said she'd accompany me to my SRS when the time comes. And she really thinks I should get it if I have felt this way for so long as I deserve to be happy.

I just wanted to share because I know rejection can sometimes be the norm and I wanted to let people know that you can be accepted and that things can actually get better. That you don't have to start from scratch. I have been really lonely and isolated lately and even asked God to help me. And God did.

Well that's all folks lol

Hugs Honey,

I'm so glad she was supportive.

We all deserve to be ourselves and to be happy

Cindy

Fantastic Joanna! I'm so happy they're so accepting!
I'm currently umming and ahhing about when to tell my best friend, he's pretty much the last person that I really care about knowing and it is driving me nuts that I still havent done it! So great to hear a happy story, I hope my friend reacts well too!

P.S. I dont know if I'd want him to come with me for SRS though! hahahah, I might need a lady friend for that.

Awesome. I think we could all use a friend like that. You're very lucky in deed 

That's really awesome Joanna .

From experience, all of my friends have been great with me too. Not even my brothers and sisters dealt with it as well as my friends did.

Really happy for you 

Congratulations Joanna! Heck yeah that is awesome! Add one to you inner circle. Such a great feeling, thank you for sharing

Yay! Congratulations Joanna. Female friends are definently needed. I'm so glad she was so supportive about you being transsexual , but then again why wouldn't she? You seem to be a pretty cool person and a good friend to her. Did she say if she suspected that you might be or was she totally surprised? Any who congratulations coming out is part if the fun

Aww, this made me really happy to hear

Being out to close friends is really important.  I'm incredibly grateful to have the support of my friends and they have been very helpful with my transition.  They even accompany me to support groups.  I still haven't gone out shopping in person, but I'll have someone there when I'm ready. I hope you have a similar experience.  Having female friendships is a pretty big deal for most of us, so I'm glad you received her support.

wow that is great.

My BFF was the same, she fully supports me. Our friendship has growth and we are so much closer now.

I think in the beginning she treated a little like a doll, we would get me all sorts of clothes to try on. Female friendship is amazing.

Enjoy it.

Because of my shy nature i have only one friend. And he supports me.

Good for you!!! We all need at least one person that can help hold us up!!!  Definitely helps if you can go shopping with that person

Quote from: Just Shelly on June 04, 2013, 10:55:32 AM
Good for you!!! We all need at least one person that can help hold us up!!!  Definitely helps if you can go shopping with that person

Oh that'll be a long time off. I'm really hairy and i have quite the beard stubble. But i'm too paranoid to buy myself a razor now. I'll wait until after coming out, i think.

Quote from: Tristan on June 04, 2013, 07:25:46 AM
Did she say if she suspected that you might be or was she totally surprised?

She didn't say but she didn't sound surprised. I still can't believe I told her. But I am glad I did even if I am having second thoughts but I think that is normal especially since my 14 year old self would be like you told someone, you crazy? I told you to keep your mouth shut lol

That's good. Sounds like she kinda already knew. Telling people secrets sounds hard but once you do the weight is almost always lifted off our shoulders

I was surpised at how calm I sounded when I told her and like it was the most normal thing in the world. But you taught me that Tristan. In one post you said when telling a guy that you are trans just kinda approach it lightheartedly and like it is just a thing and don't make it out as a big deal because if you are okay with it they will pick up on that and be okay with it too. Or something along those lines. So your advice worked Tristan! Thanks.

When I first woke up I was like OMG I shouldn't have done that but now that I am awake I am gain excited that I finally have someone on my side and this fact has totally killed the lonliness I was feeling recently.

Yes telling her was so the right thing to do for you. Now you have someone to talk to and share things with. Yes when I do tell people I make sure to make it sound like no big deal because at the end of the day it really isn't.

Quote from: Tristan on June 04, 2013, 02:34:43 PM
Now you have someone to talk to and share things with.

I know right? The difference between today and yesterday is like night and day lol for the past week I've just been really worried about my future in felt like should I continue this I don't want to be alone forever. And I don't mean like a sexual relationship but just social relationships in general. Because going thru transition alone is hard (it has been for me). I'm so grateful I told her. The one thing I don't want to do (and def shouldn't) is talk too much about transition or all the snags that go along with it.

That's actually a easy one. Just make sure you have other things going on in your life as well aside from transition like work, sports school friends hobbies. And do ask for her advice and help. Most girls love to help play dress up picking out cloths and make up and stuff. It's fun. But make sure you keep taking an interest in her life and feelings as well and everything will be ok