Hi there..

Im sorry for my english I am not an American.. I live in Europe.
I am a 34 years old woman, I am divorced and have a daughter of 7.

I met a guy.. we fell in love.. he told me he was born a girl.. He had surgeries, he overcome a lot of obstacles..
I love him for everything he is. He is the man of my life. I never met a person with so much strength...
He is wonderful. Loving, caring.. he is the father to my daughter that she never had. She loves him.
We live together for several months now.

My problem is that we fight a lot over things that I never fought about with anyone else. I know that he has strong feelings for me and I love him very much. He is showing me a lot of things about me that Im not proud of.
My problem is that I have a feeling that I will never be good enough for him. His life that he had was nothing compared to mine.
Im weak compared to him.

He also has a feeling that I do not respect him enough for who he is, he has a feeling that Im trying to be the boss about the things and decisions about my daughter..

He thinks I dont trust him enough and that I dont have the best meaning about him.
He had 2 very bad relationships in the past..

I would like to know if my situation is similar to some of yours..
How should I talk to him..
I am so sad.

Maya

You both seem to have some issues with your personal security.

He needs to learn to trust you. You need to be more confident that you are already good enough.

For him you may just need to keep telling him he is a really nice man and you love him as he is.

For yourself, you might need to simply tell your partner that you need a lot more support.

Good to meet you and hope you get as much out of Susans' as the rest of us do.