Recently since Mothers Day Ive been thinking about how sad I feel that I cant give birth or create life within me. One of the main things about being a woman is the abiltity to create and sustain life. Due to being Transsexual I cant see this happening. My mother and my two sisters got together on Mothers Day and I felt so left out and strange within my identity.

I was wondering which of you allready have children from a relationship before transitioning? And do you feel like mums now that you have transitioned?

Male, Female, Mother, Father... I am a parent foremost, regardless of Gender and always will be.

I was present at the birth of my children and yes I was sad (and jealous) of my ex wife, but will never forget the feeling of holding a new born baby in my hands.

I will never experience the joy (and pain) that goes with birth, I dont ever want to take the place of my sons Mother, I am just proud to be a parent.

Buffy

There is no doubt that the majority of women feel that being able to bare and give birth is both wondrous and beautiful.  I have a daughter from a relationship before I transitioned and for me my daughter has only one mother and I would never dream of trying to fill her mothers shoes or to deny her mother that right or diminish the fact that her mother brought J into this world.  I am not her mother and can never be.

It is not my place to be her mother, mothers and their children have a special bond just as fathers and their children.  I fathered my daughter, it's something I can't change and something I wouldn't want to change.

Steph