Please stay with me while I try to explain, might be long winded, may not even make sense.

For my entire life, it's been trivially easy to become aroused, more so when happy and otherwise feeling well. During times of depression or sadness, it rarely happens. And when I say aroused, I mean physically aroused more than anything. The physical reaction vastly outweighs any emotional feeling ( which may not even be there ). Triggers could be something visual, or a smell, or even just a thought. This even happened as a child before being even sexually aware.

At the same time, I've hated this my entire life, on account of being uncomfortable with the thing between my legs. I do try to avoid masturbating, keeping it to the minimum to avoid waking with with a messy dream. Now that I'm transitioning and starting to feel happy and positive, it's happening again. And I'm getting even more annoyed and frustrated by the physical reaction more than anything. HRT has helped to dull it, and it's not long lasting at all, but it's still present. Also, I used to have the usual morning wood, but that has stopped now with HRT.

With all this said, I want to feel this arousal after transition ( minus the appendage ), as I definitely see myself as a sexual woman. But until then I need to find a way to deal with it.

I've been trying to control this by diverting mental attention etc, but am having limited success. Triggers aside from the usual might be a brand new good looking blouse, or a nice perfume. Note, I'm sexually attracted to women and like all things feminine...

Are there any tricks you know of? Or how do you deal with this? I'd hate to be walking around in a department store just to have a nasty surprise!

From what I have heard HRT will eventually help you more there. But there is the chance at it won't finish the deal as it were for sometime or even at all.

Having been through the same thing since middle school I can recommend one trick. Learn to focus. Set your mind to a task that isn't related to your trigger. After I practiced this growing up I could avoid arousal by thinking about a math problem or to do list. It is like a passive distraction for that keeps things in check. It's not fool proof but without chemically killing the urge or releasing the tension its the best that I can think of.

Well the HRT will kill it eventually. Some people can still get erect when on HRT but spontaneous erections virtually disappear. I thought I would have this same problem because I am dressing pretty femme and flirting with men all the time  but luckily the HRT has been 100 percent effective and I don't get erect when I'm with this guy I have been being with though I wouldn't call him my BF. Yet lol

I'm not easily aroused but you can always try to mentally picture the most disgusting turn off that you can conjur in your mind. It may take practice though.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on June 18, 2013, 12:53:53 AM
Well the HRT will kill it eventually. Yet lol

Well if one doesn't do the sensible thingy and chop it off entirely . . .

. . . eventually 'erect' will be 'lil more than a over swollen clitoris anyway !!!

QuoteNote, I'm sexually attracted to women and like all things feminine...

Sounds like you "hate yer cake (lol see penis thread!) but wanna (use) to eat it too" ? ?

If you physically move (cleaning, dishes, etc.) it'll tend to go away a lot easier.

And it doesn't prevent arousal, but it greatly decreases the possible size of the erection and also the duration: tucking. It's a lifesaver.

(In case you don't know what tucking is, it essentially consists in pulling the penis behind, between the buttocks.)

But whatever you do, I don't think it can be entirely avoided. If it still happens pretty often, you could have your testosterone levels checked. If they're not down to almost nothing, it's normal to still have testosterone-drawn arousal.

Depends on how appropriate your HRT is. It's unlikely (although possible) that HRT that appropriately kills testosterone would increase that.

I know you are trying to keep things to a minimal as far as masturbation goes, but I find that it helps relieve some stress. That and it is the fastest way I can think of to get rid of it. On the other hand I know what it is like to hate what is down there.

I will use the term "male" here only in the sense of the birth physiology.

Male arousal is a rather complex psycho-physiological event.  In the case of nocturnal emissions, it can obviously happen without any sort of conscious or physical stimulation.

Arousal often involves cognitive as well as physiological processes - and may reflect instinctual "programming" within our species.  Certainly, one can learn to control one's thoughts, with practice.

Because arousal is almost always accompanied by an increase in blood pressure and heart rate, those who use medications to treat hypertension often suffer from some degree of impotence.

Male arousal is an indicator of health, especially for blood circulatory system.
Aged or sick men tend to have problems in arousal.

Barbie~~

For me, though, it's an alarming sign of a worsening mental health. :p

I don't think there is any way to avoid it completely.  Humans have a sex drive, as such, you will find yourself aroused at times.  This is the case for everyone.  Don't be ashamed or embarrassed about it.  You're normal for having those feelings.  HRT will likely diminish the physical arousal you want to be rid of, but it probably won't fully go away.  I've been on hrt for a very short time, but I'm already noticing that I feel more comfortable with my sexuality to some degree.  It's sort of weird, but my emotional arousal has been increasing with hrt.  Though I have noticed nothing changing in terms of the physical.  But it's been a short time, so it's unlikely for anything to change yet in that area.  In any event, you shouldn't feel bad about your feelings.  People like sex and desire it.  It's normal.  And this is coming from a major prude who still is pure as snow,lol.

I've never had the problem of becoming aroused in public or by objects, but I imagine taking your mind to another place may help you avoid.  If you want to avoid it while you are in public, try to take your mind off of sexy things. 

I have a similar issue. I have been on hrt long enough to make everything shrink. So much so that it is really painful when I get aroused. So its almost like shock therapy for getting aroused. Although, I still force a climax every 3 or 4 weeks in hopesthat I will keep the ability to orgasm when I do finally have grs. The pleasure from pain thing is not at all what i like but it is still worth it if it will help me have female orgasms after the surgery. Sorry if thatwas tmi.

<3 Liv

Eh, why would regularly having an orgasm make later orgasms better? And most importantly, why would you have trouble orgasming after SRS?

Also, actually, thanks for mentioning that. About a month ago I got aroused and decided to try masturbating, only to discover that it's now really painful towards the base to have an erection. I wonder if it's because the erectile tissue hasn't been used in a long time or because of tucking almost 24/7.

the big reason is atrophy if I remember correctly. There are nerves and everything down there, but I could be wrong.

Well, if you think about it, the tissues in natal males and females are homologous.  They differentiate in the womb under the influence of hormones.

The corpus spongiosum of the penis is homologous to the vestibular bulbs beneath the labia minora.  So it makes sense you want to make sure they respond.

In any case, I'm not gonna do it because it just hurts too much. So I just endure arousal and try hard to distract myself.

Thank you all for the responses and help. I've taken up solving math problems in my head when I notice any amount of arousal. Works pretty well. Can't believe I didn't think of that before.

On a somewhat related note, I understood that it can be helpful to occasionally let the dangler get erect so as to avoid unnecessary material shortages with SRS. Is that the case? I'm not the largest in that department to begin with, so I'd rather not have any shortage of material for surgeons.  Is my understanding correct?

I did notice a certain amount of temporary shrinkage for a while while it was out of action due to a bout of depression. As a side note, that also made tucking more difficult as there was little to tuck if that makes any sense.

As for the shortage I am not sure. I have heard the same. There are some hands off things you can do if you do go that route. Math is a brilliant way to distract your mind btw

I am impressed with that one. I would not have thought of that one if I tried.

The most simple way to put it is;

your penis loses its mind of its own.

You can get it hard(ish), but even if you are turned on something only really happens if you make it.

Bit like having a vagina, yes I get turned on now, a hot guy, sexy movie, but I only self lube if I want to.


and remember that cis-females get turned on too and are sexual beings, it seems a lot of these pages there seems to be a huge theme of repressing sexuallty