Quote from: Just Shelly on June 15, 2013, 10:30:18 PM
I would hope that if someone were to utilize this new law they would at least respect others. I have gone into plenty of changing rooms at pools and water parks...I am pre-op. There is no such law allowing me or preventing me from access but I would never expose my genitals in the woman's changing room....nor would I attempt to use the men's changing room.
I just really hope someone doesn't push this issue if confronted with it. That is not what the trans community needs....someone enforcing their right to expose their male genitalia in the woman's changing room because all other characteristics are female or that they are even legally female.
So someone who measures say 34D-26-36 should use the men's room because of one inch? And so trans rights are great as long as we don't actually take advantage of those rights? Sorry I have to disagree with this line of thought especially the "expose their male genitalia" portion. Why do you assume that a trans person wants to go around exposing themselves? This is actually really upsetting. I'm not mad I'm just saying what is the sense of having rights if you're not allowed to use those rights?
Quote from: skin on June 18, 2013, 12:12:10 AM
I also think it will cause a lot more harm than good if there are trans girls playing high school sports on the girls teams without a requirement for being on HRT.
I can kinda agree with this. But there is a big difference between a petite, demure trans girl (like I was as many people just assumed I was trans because of how I look and act) just using the bathroom and locker room and say playing football. But I don't see how anyone would get hurt? I don't place a high value on sports and think they are way over-valued and one of the USA's big downfalls but is it really a big deal of a trans girl plays field hockey or a trans guy plays football? As long as the trans guy can play is all that should matter. Plus we very well know how hard it is to get on HRT under 18 so this logic basically renders the law moot.
I really hate being so argumentative and it doesn't suit me at all but I have to say something as these reasons are the very things quoted by the opponents of trans rights. When I was 8 I used to use the girl's bathroom with my friend and we got caught one day (I didn't think I was doing anything so wrong) and the older girl (a safety) tried to scare by saying I should be forced to wear a dress and I was like that would be awesome. I got in a lot of trouble. I so wish things were like this when I was growing up.
And even in high school when there was co-ed gym I was still picked next to last. My two other friend were picked last (they were girls) so no one would be afraid of me on a sports team. And my one friend during a class trip to VA let me wear her extra clothes when I got all wet at an amusement park and I changed with her and no one cared. People assumed I was a girl probably. Plus I had small boobs. I have no idea how I eve got a date lol but I did. I am kinda cute though hehehe It's starting to occur to me that I have had a lot of female friends and wonder if this has been most trans girls' experience? Or vice versa for the guys?
My point is my life would have been so much easier and better if just being myself wasn't criminalized. Women have mainly had no problem allowing me into womyn's spaces and even want me there so I don't see what the big deal is.
I'm sorry for being so argumentative but I think this law is great and I hope my experiences have showed you why it is necessary and how no one is going to expose themselves or wipe poop (the other scary trans myth) all over the walls.
The thing is this won't even apply to me within the year as I am only 15 weeks HRT and I get systematically ma'amed. I actually got ma'emed today and it annoyed me because I want to be miss'd as it makes me feel younger lol I just can't be pleased. I kid sorta lol but really even three years if I am post-op (God willing) I feel like what about my trans sisters who aren't as lucky or privileged as I am. I am still their sister and shouldn't I stick up for them?
I won't lie the other day I was hanging out with a not so passable and kinda loud trans girl with this guy that I am sweet on (he has a big penis!!! yummy!!!) and I did get uncomfortable and so I am not so noble. My passing ability also dropped because of it but I didn't run for cover and plus she gave me all this makeup and gave me a makeover but if we don't stick up for each other who will? IDK I hate arguing and I hope you two don't hate me for it but I had to point it out.
Sorry for the long reply.