Hey guys,

I'm a FTM, and I'm PRE everything. I am totally certain that I'm a guy. But there's one problem which occured to me lately It's a bit graphic and sexual so please do not read further if you are not open minded. So here's the deal: I have a girlfriend and we have oral sex and use fingers And later on: I've heard guys talking in my uni about how they have sex. and I tried it in the shower: Penetrating my girlfriend with my female genitalia and I got really depressed. Because it just doesn't work, of course I feel something but It's not a real penis. It's been my fantasy, to penetrate a girl, is that normal at all? Am I a perv? I've been having these fantasies for a long time, and now I am aware of how much my life sucks, I don't have a penis, while my biggest sexual fantasy is to be able to have a penis to have sex like a real guy, and I have a huge depression because I'm jealous at my brother, because my dad gets condoms for him and such, and I'm so jealous. Is this normal and are there more guys like me?

I am really sad that I don't have a penis and I can't accept it, it gets me mad, but I know cis guys will laugh at me, the man with a vagina. That's how I feel.





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Hi MrJoe. I don't think you are a sexual deviant at all. I am on the other side of the gender spectrum and really can' t remember a time not fantazising during the act from a female perspective, if that makes sense. So yes you are normal.

To me, intimate acts are much deeper than the equipment either one of you have. Just emmerse yourself in the intimate sharing, feelings of love and so on with your girlfriend.

As for your last sentence with the trash talking from cisguys, trash talk back if they are your friends. Friends have a tendency, especially cisguys, to trashtalk the ones they feel the closest with.

I agree with Jess. I'm pre everything MTF and I fantasize about having sex as a woman quite often. So you are not a pervert.

I'm sorry that I can't be of more help than that for you

Yes, those fantasies are normal for guys. It's no more perverted than most other guys. There are lots of guys around here with the same problem. I used to think I was a pervert too.