Quote from: Arch on June 22, 2013, 03:34:27 AM
Frankly, I'm not interested in dating trans guys, especially pre- or non-ops (bottom surgery, that is) but I don't think that makes me superficial. I just like really like...the standard apparatus.

I get that. I don't think that makes you superficial. I meant that it's less likely that whomever I end up dating will be superficial, since he'll likely not be dating me just to get laid or whatever, since I don't have the "ideal" body (no offense to any transguys who are more secure about their bodies than I am about mine; I'm just talking about my idea of what would be ideal for me).  Not that there's anything wrong with that, I just happen to only be interested in dating for the sake of starting a long-term relationship; I don't think I could handle intimacy unless it was while in a serious relationship.


(By the way, if the tone of my comment sounds like I'm stuck up or judging people or whatever, it isn't intentional. I just suck at expressing what I'm trying to say, sometimes. Yay Asperger's...  )

Quote from: Arch on June 22, 2013, 03:34:27 AM
Frankly, I'm not interested in dating trans guys, especially pre- or non-ops (bottom surgery, that is) but I don't think that makes me superficial. I just like really like...the standard apparatus.

I love the standard apparatus, too, and in an ideal world I'd be in a relationship with a guy who owns one, LOL.  That said, I've met a few trans guys that are cute, hot, and intellectually stimulating and I'd date them or be in a relationship with them in a heartbeat!  But, alas, they are straight.  Dammit. 

And I was in two relationships: one the guy had erectile issues, which kind of renders the standard apparatus less enjoyable esp. when coupled with a very low sex drive, and one guy whose dick, while bigger than mine, really was tiny.   The lack of drive was more irritating than the erectile problems with the first, and total lack of confidence was problematic with the second.

Still waiting to find someone for whom size isn't an issue.  I'm a bottom, so it's not like my size really is an issue.  Not that I don't have nice-sized toys if I ever had to perform...

Quote from: Arch on June 22, 2013, 03:34:27 AM
Frankly, I'm not interested in dating trans guys, especially pre- or non-ops (bottom surgery, that is) but I don't think that makes me superficial. I just like really like...the standard apparatus.

I totally get this. I'm bisexual myself, but I don't understand the issue with wanting to date someone with certain parts or doesn't have certain parts. Why does the internet community constantly tell us we must find everyone's bodies attractive or we're jerks. I think it's ridiculous.