What foods are high in oestrogen? Are there like specific vegetables / meats I should eat to increase my feminity? List thw foods you think are high in oestrogen below.

Soy is known for this.  However, I doubt any foods or supplements would be really helpful in this regard to be honest.  I'm a vegetarian and have had lots of soy foods and soy milk over the years; it didn't do much for me.   You're young so I really wouldn't worry too much.  Once you are able to start hrt you will be fine. 

Coconut juice (coconut water) has some estrogen.

traditional (english) ale

  The vegetable foods that have the estrogens have the phyto-estrogens.  These are weaker estrogen molecules known as estriols.  There are many varients of both the estrogens and the androgens.  Most of which is non-receptive in most persons.  Some of the phyto-estrogens will attach more easily to your estrogen receptors, but be less effective in performance.  It is a good idea to keep from using the herbal suppliments while on HRT.  I tried the suppliments plus breast massage for a year, but all it did to me is make matters worse.

  Joelene

I remember hearing about grapefruit and some kind of cabbage, but that might be about something else.

I do agree with Joelene, though. it's probably not as effective as you might think it be.

I DO know that some milk is laced with estrogen, or similar hormones, but I really don't think that's safe.

  Grapefruit taken with the HRT may cause it to lose its effectiveness for a more chemical reason.  Hormones given to livestock in meat and dairy products is forbidden here in the US.  However, the meat I get these days says on the back that it is the product of the US, Canada, Mexico or Central America for the cheaper cuts.  The ground beef has all 4 listed at times.  The expensive "primo" cuts the stores sells as their top of the line do usually say it is a US meat item only.  As for coming from Mexico or Central America, those places do not have the regulation enforcement the US and Canada have.  That kind of hormone is a powerful synthetic type of the kind as the DES pregnant women in the 40's, 50's, and 60's were given to prevent miscarriages. 

  Joelene