Did you ever have low self confidence because you felt "out of place" in your body?

Every single day...
I felt ugly...unwanted....undesirable...

I only feel good when men interested in me tell me
How feminine I am..how they love my hips legs hair.  .

Quote from: Gene24 on June 23, 2013, 09:45:56 PM
Did you ever have low self confidence because you felt "out of place" in your body?

I think that is par for the course for most transpersons.

Sure did....and depress too...and sadly have the scars and medical records to prove it  :-(

Kia Ora,

Did you ever have low self confidence because you felt "out of place" in your body?


"Like a fish out of water!"

Metta Zenda

All day, erryday.

I'm sorry that some of you felt so bad. I know I do a good deal of the time, but other times it seems manageable. Leads to some confusion, you know what I mean?

I don't feel right. I feel this body is not my own. I have been receiving treatment for depression including meds and seeing a psychologist. I've had 4 sessions with a psychologist, but haven't yet managed to raise my gender issues. I worry about how I would be perceived. Would I be accepted as female by family, friends and work colleagues. I feel these struggles are slowly killing me. I haven't got a clue how I would start transitioning. I've been living overseas for the past 4 years and have no idea whether The health system or my insurance would cover things. I am feeling very much alone. I've never knowingly met anyone who has transitioned, who I can get peer support from.

Delyth Ann, please do raise the topic.  A lot of you depression could spring from your gender dysporia.  I will tell you what I said to my first therapist ...  "I have gender issues."  Factual, brief, and to the point.

In an earlier post, you said you felt comfortable with the therapist.  Put it to the test.

Some days are worse than others, but I do feel blessed for the things I do have going for me. It could be worse. But every day, I wish things were different about my body.

Never had any self confidence issues - and now that I'm on HRT - that has not changed. I now have new wonder and revelations to look forward to. Be positive, life is beautiful and we all unique.

I certainly have anxiety and depression issues but my confidence is still pretty high. It's a bit lower when I dress more femme but the only place where I have no confidence is the pool sadly.

Believe it or not I was shy and very self conscious. I was anti-depressants for years and tried to self harm and had attempted suicides.

Since I became me there is nothing in ten universes that will stop me from being me, I am very confident, I am very public and I am very relaxed about the whole deal.

You can be yourself and you can be a success.

Be proud of yourself because you are very strong women. We have to be to do what we do, so never hesitate to be proud and look the world in the eye.

Just remember to shout it out: "I am a trans*person and I am proud to be me'

Hugs
Cindy

Most days I'm very self conscious and depressed n feel so ugly. Then somedays I feel way to confident n I turn into a mean girl n very stuck up.

Definitely,I  drank to much (to give me confidence and take the edge off my dysphoria).I couldn't stand to be photographed or see my reflection.I wouldn't even eat out in a restaurant and spent years in crap jobs.

Quote from: Gene24 on June 23, 2013, 09:45:56 PM
Did you ever have low self confidence because you felt "out of place" in your body?

Yes. Issues with self confidence are very much a strong undertone to my entire life, and has limited the way I've expressed myself up until recent.

Although in my 20s ( mid 30s now ) I learned to be a dominant and assertive ( and horrid ) person, due to a life of being bullied ( school, life & work ). That served to hide my self confidence issues from people who didn't know me. Anyone I let close could still see how deep the self confidence issues run.

I've been known to drink to excess on occasion to hide my insecurities and give the appearance of being more confident than I am. There is always the big downer the next day feeling even more miserable. I am great at putting on a good act. Trying to fit in as one of the boys. But that's what I am expected to be. It doesn't feel right though. I feel as though it's all grinding me down and taking a toll. I've already had one breakdown. What scared me is the impact that me transitioning would have on those close to me.

Yes I do, and I have days when I suddenly lose all my self-esteem and confidence for no apparent reason or because there's something I don't fully understand.

But then I remember that there have been similar times and realize that I have character and that there are people out there who care about me.

Then it just doesn't matter.

24 / 7 / 364 when it comes to me personally. With work stuff I am pretty good, except I will quickly back down if challenged. Partly from self confidence and partly from avoiding confrontations

Quote from: Gene24 on June 23, 2013, 09:45:56 PM
Did you ever have low self confidence because you felt "out of place" in your body?

Yes. Every moment that I am awake.