The thing is you here how the surgary is done and ive seen it many times but how well does it work after. Self lubracating, can u come / ive read about orgasum. Im intererted in both F2M & M2F. If this question is out of order or in the wrong place please deleat it.

KY... you have to use it.  If you don't keep up with dilation, inercourse can be painful and not fun.  It is possible to orgasm.  It is significantly different but can still be intense. 

Cindi

i'll have my grs with dr. bowers in august.  during my consultation, she explained that orgasm is often possible; yet, there are instances when severe damage is done to the nerves resulting in permanent loss of sensation.  does it really matter?    is orgasm such a big deal?  i guess that for some people it is, yet, for me it isn't.

To be honest I find I orgasm very much like I did before ... same feeling ... and without ejaculation the "climax" often lasts way longer .... just harder work getting there ... and I find gentle manual stimulation better than any hi-tec vibrator.

Even though my libio is less urgent than it use to be I still get "excited" and "hard", and pleasure myself sexually most days.

I never had any post op numbness or lack of sensitivity .... my clitoris is perfectly hooded an permanently lubricated - no loss of sensation there ....

Intercourse will always need KY - no big deal ....

My surgeon .... Brassard.

Laura x

Quote from: Tink on May 24, 2007, 11:39:19 PM
As far as orgasm, well, yes it is possible    , but the entire experience is different, definitely more intense than before.  It takes a while to recognize the signals of how your body responds to these sensations and to get accustomed to them... 

I would be very interested to read firsthand accounts of how this comes about. How you learn to recognize and get accustomed as you said. If post-op ladies can describe just what it's like and how it works, the information would be invaluable to your pre-op sisters. Please, this is no time for embarrassment or coyness, we need to be able to talk about it clearly, openly, and honestly, this is so important when thinking ahead to SRS.

Quote from: Hypatia on June 30, 2007, 12:59:24 AM

Quote from: Tink on May 24, 2007, 11:39:19 PM
As far as orgasm, well, yes it is possible    , but the entire experience is different, definitely more intense than before.  It takes a while to recognize the signals of how your body responds to these sensations and to get accustomed to them... 

I would be very interested to read firsthand accounts of how this comes about. How you learn to recognize and get accustomed as you said. If post-op ladies can describe just what it's like and how it works, the information would be invaluable to your pre-op sisters. Please, this is no time for embarrassment or coyness, we need to be able to talk about it clearly, openly, and honestly, this is so important when thinking ahead to SRS.

Yeah, well, some of us would never give details about our private lives on a public forum.  That's just how it is.  However, I could share some experiences via PM.

tink

Quote from: Cindi Jones on May 24, 2007, 12:38:20 PM
KY... you have to use it.  If you don't keep up with dilation, inercourse can be painful and not fun.  It is possible to orgasm.  It is significantly different but can still be intense. 

Cindi

"Surgilube" is a good product.

Quote from: Tink on June 30, 2007, 01:14:22 PMI could share some experiences via PM.

OK. I'd like to take you up on that offer.

Quote from: Hypatia on June 30, 2007, 08:03:20 PM

Quote from: Tink on June 30, 2007, 01:14:22 PMI could share some experiences via PM.

OK. I'd like to take you up on that offer.

Sure!  anytime!

tink

Quote from: Hypatia on June 30, 2007, 12:59:24 AM
I would be very interested to read firsthand accounts of how this comes about. How you learn to recognize and get accustomed as you said. If post-op ladies can describe just what it's like and how it works, the information would be invaluable to your pre-op sisters. Please, this is no time for embarrassment or coyness, we need to be able to talk about it clearly, openly, and honestly, this is so important when thinking ahead to SRS.

No embarrassment ... honestly its no big change ....

You get excited by whatever turns you on ... the mound under your clitoris gets hard ... you rub it and your clitoris under its hood (mine is too sensitive to stimulate directly) ... and hey presto - orgasm !

How long you maintain it and its intensity seems to be a mental thing, it can beat any male orgasm or can be a really damp squib.  But whatever its the same spasmic "body enveloping" thing that it always was.

I get "hard" several times most days with sexual thoughts, but my libido doesn't require me to progress it to climax, there is just no urgency for "release" as there use to be.

Not sure if I will ever orgasm through penetrative sex ... but I'm waiting to see !

Laura x

Quote from: Laura Eva B on June 30, 2007, 09:06:15 PM

Quote from: Hypatia on June 30, 2007, 12:59:24 AM
I would be very interested to read firsthand accounts of how this comes about. How you learn to recognize and get accustomed as you said. If post-op ladies can describe just what it's like and how it works, the information would be invaluable to your pre-op sisters. Please, this is no time for embarrassment or coyness, we need to be able to talk about it clearly, openly, and honestly, this is so important when thinking ahead to SRS.

No embarrassment ... honestly its no big change ....

You get excited by whatever turns you on ... the mound under your clitoris gets hard ... you rub it and your clitoris under its hood (mine is too sensitive to stimulate directly) ... and hey presto - orgasm !

How long you maintain it and its intensity seems to be a mental thing, it can beat any male orgasm or can be a really damp squib.  But whatever its the same spasmic "body enveloping" thing that it always was.

I get "hard" several times most days with sexual thoughts, but my libido doesn't require me to progress it to climax, there is just no urgency for "release" as there use to be.

Not sure if I will ever orgasm through penetrative sex ... but I'm waiting to see !

Laura x

ha ha ha I never really believed that a post-op woman could experience an orgasm like mine, until this post. The way you described it, I know you know. I guess there's really no difference between a genetic female body and that of a post-op female.

Quotei'll have my grs with dr. bowers in august.  during my consultation, she explained that orgasm is often possible; yet, there are instances when severe damage is done to the nerves resulting in permanent loss of sensation.  does it really matter?    is orgasm such a big deal?  i guess that for some people it is, yet, for me it isn't.

Even that is not a guarantee that you will never develop the ability to orgasm. I have had mutiple corrective surgeries over the years resulting in loss of tissue, nerve damage, and scar tissue and scar tissue removal. Even after all of that, the human body being the incredible healing machine that it is, was still able to regenerate new nerve pathways in new tissue, which resulted in a renewed sense of touch.

The main factor? Taking care of yourself, but especially patience over time. If you provide your body with the correct substances, it is amazing how much it can heal itself. Truly miraculous!

Quote from: Katia on May 24, 2007, 06:51:01 PM
i'll have my grs with dr. bowers in august.  during my consultation, she explained that orgasm is often possible; yet, there are instances when severe damage is done to the nerves resulting in permanent loss of sensation.  does it really matter?    is orgasm such a big deal?  i guess that for some people it is, yet, for me it isn't.

Before surgery orgasm wasn't really a priority to me, I just had to get rid of the thing that was between my legs and have a physical body that fitted the image in my head. 

However, I have to admit that when I had my first orgasm (for me it's always clitoral...) I realised it made me feel 100% woman.  I'm 14 years post-op and if I'm not with someone I need to give myself pleasure at least once or twice a week.  It's something I never did pre-op and didn't really expect to do post-op (I suppose I was verging on asexual before SRS...) but for me it's become an important part of my womanhood.

That said, apparently not everyone is able to obtain clitoral orgasm, which I imagine is disappointing for those concerned, but I'm sure it's not the end of the world.  There are so many ways to be sexually stimulated and aroused with (or without...) a partner.

MVER XXX