So, as suggested in the title of this thread, I am looking for a new roomate. Someone I know from my group therapy, refered me to her friend. Her friend is also trans and she is already living full time. I am supposed to meet her later today. We have already gone over some of the details, but we both want to meet each other and see if it is a good fit. Also to go over some of the details. I guess what I am curious about is if basically this is a good idea. I know sometimes it is nice having someone around that knows what you are going through. But, the thing that I am worried about is that there might possibly be too much Trans related drama with the both of us being trans women. Any of you other girls have experience living with another trans person? Also, I am fully aware that it will depends largely on the person, but I wouldn't mind getting a little advice maybe? Thanks ladies!

<3 Liv

If you're compatible in other ways, I don't see the downside.

As for drama, I mean couldn't you have drama with anyone? Someone in school would have school related drama, someone with a big family would have family related drama, someone who travels would have travel related drama. Not sure why a trans person would be more likely to spark drama.

Quote from: suzifrommd on July 06, 2013, 05:03:38 PM
If you're compatible in other ways, I don't see the downside.

As for drama, I mean couldn't you have drama with anyone? Someone in school would have school related drama, someone with a big family would have family related drama, someone who travels would have travel related drama. Not sure why a trans person would be more likely to spark drama.

LOL yeah your right... I guess I am just a little anxious. But drama is drama no matter what for really. But for somereason Trans drama seems like it would be worse the other drama?

<3 Liv

Quote from: Olivia-Anne on July 06, 2013, 05:14:00 PM
LOL yeah your right... I guess I am just a little anxious. But drama is drama no matter what for really. But for somereason Trans drama seems like it would be worse the other drama?

<3 Liv

Right now I'm living with three people who have absolutely no clue how to deal with my transness. My soon-to-be-ex-wife who is disgusted by any thought of the changes that I'm going through, and my two kids are who are bewildered by the whole thing and on whom I so don't want to dump any stuff.

Having another transwoman in the house would be heaven. Someone to show this skirt to and ask whether it's appropriate for someone of my age/build and not have them say "whatever". I think I'd accept some drama in return for that.

Quote from: suzifrommd on July 06, 2013, 05:37:09 PM
Right now I'm living with three people who have absolutely no clue how to deal with my transness. My soon-to-be-ex-wife who is disgusted by any thought of the changes that I'm going through, and my two kids are who are bewildered by the whole thing and on whom I so don't want to dump any stuff.

Having another transwoman in the house would be heaven. Someone to show this skirt to and ask whether it's appropriate for someone of my age/build and not have them say "whatever". I think I'd accept some drama in return for that.

While I don't have your situation, I can relate to how you must feel right now. If you lived in my area, you could come live with me.  I hope and know things will get better for you.

<3 Liv

Teela rents a room from Sour Skiddlez.  The latter is a post-op for a few months.

I hope for a roommate in the future that relates, but I can understand your worry. A good friend of mine and I have moments were we unload on each other, and well most of the time in is good for each of us, but there are times where it just makes it worse. I think it will be neither good, nor bad just different.

Well she just left. We talked for about an hour or so. She seemed really nice and we seemed to have alot of things in common. She said she was interested but I didn't get an answer one way or the other really. So who knows what will happen. I kinda got the feeling that since I am not FT yet that she is a little uneasy of what might happen with me or something. In anycase things seemed to go well. She did say a couple nice things about me. She said she thought I was already full time for a couple years by the way I talked and dressed and everything. So I will take that as a compliment. I was using my normal speaking voice and she said that I sounded femanine. I think my voice is horrid and I wasn't trying to use a female voice or anything I was just speaking normally. So, yay on those fronts. But I just got this feeling she was uneasy about something. Dunno. Thanks for your responses though ladies. Just thought I would let you know how it went.

<3 Liv

maybe she had the meeting someone for the first time jitters.    Im renting a room out at my friends house. who is TS you might of seen her youtube videos. I live with Sour skiddles. There isnt any TS drama. 90% of the time if your having a Dysphoria moment it helps alot cause if you need a hug its usually always there    I love my current living situation.  Her Boyfriend and her daughter also live here and we all get along fine.   Best of luck to you in whatever you decide.

Quote from: Jamie D on July 06, 2013, 06:39:59 PM
Teela rents a room from Sour Skiddlez.  The latter is no post-op for a few months.

You beat me to it.   

Ohhh sour skiddlez is a person... THAT makes sense now lol. I thought I was going to be seeing you  on my "strang addiction" or something... I hope it does work out with her though. We seemed to hit it off for the most part and the price and everything seemed right to her. She also kept saying that I have a really nice place. But I don't know what it is. I just can't put my finger on it. But if she does move in, her rent would make it so I could comfortably live off of my unemployment if my work found a way to fire me. Thanks for the replies ladies!

<3 Liv

BAM! Double post! 

So I talked with her today. She said she wants to move in. Yay! So now I am ok financially. If the worse happens, I will be ok. With Unemployement + her end of rent and stuff I won't lose my house and I won't be barely paying the bills. Such a huge relief on that front!

Apparently the thing that I could tell was on her mind was her living situation. I guess she is living with her soon to be ex boyfriend. He apparently doesn't know/think she is going to break up with him. She is trying to figure out how to go about it. She did agree that we hit it off well and had a lot in common. I think she will be a great roomate.

<3 Liv

Best of luck with your new roommate.  I've been living alone for the past year, so I'm a little bit jealous.  Hope things go well for you.

Quote from: Olivia-Anne on July 07, 2013, 02:32:55 PM
BAM! Double post! 

So I talked with her today. She said she wants to move in. Yay! So now I am ok financially. If the worse happens, I will be ok. With Unemployement + her end of rent and stuff I won't lose my house and I won't be barely paying the bills. Such a huge relief on that front!

Apparently the thing that I could tell was on her mind was her living situation. I guess she is living with her soon to be ex boyfriend. He apparently doesn't know/think she is going to break up with him. She is trying to figure out how to go about it. She did agree that we hit it off well and had a lot in common. I think she will be a great roomate.

<3 Liv

I hope she dosen't tell him her new, your, address!!    ...sorry but some of that above gave me a nasty flashback..   also.. Uploaded photos from smart-phones can have EXIF data (GPS).  I'll shut up now.. and go hotbox a cig to calm down.. lol  this is freakin me out more then you I'm sure.         Amazing the "triggers" or "landmines" we forget we mentally have till something trips them.   Sorry.. kinda.. stay safe!   

Quote from: Olivia-Anne on July 06, 2013, 05:14:00 PM
LOL yeah your right... I guess I am just a little anxious. But drama is drama no matter what for really. But for somereason Trans drama seems like it would be worse the other drama?

<3 Liv

For years ive lived around lesbians and lemme say thats funny; you've never experienced "dyke drama", yet! *That* is a terrifying experience LOL

bites her lower lip then breaks into a smile  (over my slight meltdown)

Congratulations Liv!!!

I'm glad you've found the help you needed to make things easier.   

Quote from: Lorri Kat on July 07, 2013, 07:56:02 PM
bites her lower lip then breaks into a smile  (over my slight meltdown)

Congratulations Liv!!!

I'm glad you've found the help you needed to make things easier.   

Lol! I am so confused by your posts right now. Are you ok!? I kid I kid. Although the first post made me have the tilt my head sideways like a puppy look . I am not too worried about crazy ex boyfriends to be honest. She said he wasn't violent or anything. Well at least a no history of violence. In any case lets just say that I am packing in more ways then one. Also, I've taken a few years of boxing and a few years of wrestling in my day. I also played varsity sports in highschool. So if push comes to shove I will be ok with the random novice male agression. Although ironically I am a pacifist *shrugs*. Most of the training was over-compensation but anywho. I think everything will be ok. Thanks for the replies ladies!!

<3 Liv