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I want to give up

Started by Erin Kay Howell, July 08, 2013, 05:22:08 PM

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Erin Kay Howell

Ive waited and waited and waited and waited.

I did everything I was supposed to. Went and got a referral letter from my doctor, got a recommendation letter from my therapist and waited the two and a half months just to see this doctor.

Now im being told more hoops need to be jumped through first.

I have to see a different psychologist now and she gets to decide if I will be happy or not. I also dont get to see her until half way through august after waiting 2 months. then I have to reschedule another Endo appointment...

So sometime next year maybe Ill be able to start... Ill probably be dead by then so fyi.

I'm tired of waiting.
I know who I am, and no one is going to tell me otherwise anymore.



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CalmRage

United States

National Suicide Prevention Hotline
English: 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
Spanish: 1-888-628-9454
For anyone who is suicidal.
Toll-free and available 24/7.
TTY: 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889)

The Trevor Project
1-866-4-U-TREVOR (1-866-488-7386)
For LGBTQ youth (minors and young adults).
Toll-free and available 24/7.

Kristin Brooks Hope Center
English: 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
Spanish: 1-800-SUICIDA (1-800-784-2432)
For anyone who is suicidal.
Toll-free and available 24/7.

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Toll-free and available 24/7.
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Madison Leigh

It's hard and there are probably more hoops to jump through than there should be.  The waiting is frustrating, there's no denying that; I've always tried to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.  No matter how frustrated I've ever been I've not let myself lose sight of that and that's always kept me going. 
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Devlyn

Big hug! By all means, call one of those numbers if you are overwhelmed.  We need you around! Hugs, Devlyn
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big kim

Hang in there it will get better.Don't give up now
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Ltl89

Erin,

Is there another Endo you can see?  If you have the hrt letter, than you should be able to find an endocrinologist who will work with you.  It sounds like the one you may want to re-evaluate whether this endo is right for you if they are being this conservative with hormones.

Is there a particular reason you need to see so many different doctors?

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Jamie D

Quote from: Erin S on July 08, 2013, 05:22:08 PM
Ive waited and waited and waited and waited.

I did everything I was supposed to. Went and got a referral letter from my doctor, got a recommendation letter from my therapist and waited the two and a half months just to see this doctor.

Now im being told more hoops need to be jumped through first.

I have to see a different psychologist now and she gets to decide if I will be happy or not. I also dont get to see her until half way through august after waiting 2 months. then I have to reschedule another Endo appointment...

So sometime next year maybe Ill be able to start... Ill probably be dead by then so fyi.

I'm tired of waiting.

Bypass the endocrinologist.  Any competent GP can follow the protocols and prescribe HRT.  And order the necessary bloodwork.
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E-Brennan

Agreed - sounds like this endocrinologist is putting up barriers that you've already been through.  It's not as if you're new to this entire process and have had no psychological or medical evaluations already.

Perhaps time to see another endo?

Hang in there - you're light years ahead of many of us in this process. You should be proud of how far you've come, and there's many of us here who want to see the girl you become.  You'll get there!  Don't let one fussy doctor destroy who you are.
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Erin Kay Howell

Im not going to kill myself, but I feel like I'm just going to stay this horrible boy I was born as.

In my area I have exhausted all the endo's, There really isnt anyone else I can see. It seems the problem is that they dont recognize the therapist I went to and want me to do a one time visit with this new one... but I cant get into see them for another month.

And GS?
I know who I am, and no one is going to tell me otherwise anymore.



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AmberSkyeArisen

Let's say you want to run a marathon. You've spent a lot of time and energy training for it. The race gets postponed. Do you get frustrated and drop out, or do you wait?

I know it's not the same, but you've been preparing for this and taking the steps you need to take. The least you could do is not give up when you're so close, as i'm sure it means a lot to you. The "system" isn't the best, but it's the only legal way.
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justwright88

@ Erin. I live in Odessa. Before here I saw a trans dr in Houston. I've been on hormones for three years. i'm a ftm though. Check out http://www.askdranna.com/ that is who I see now. It's about 200 per visit but i got the hormones my first visit.
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Erin Kay Howell

Quote from: justwright88 on July 10, 2013, 10:16:18 AM
@ Erin. I live in Odessa. Before here I saw a trans dr in Houston. I've been on hormones for three years. i'm a ftm though. Check out http://www.askdranna.com/ that is who I see now. It's about 200 per visit but i got the hormones my first visit.

This is just a walk in clinic? Blood tests? Appointments? Psych requirements?
I know who I am, and no one is going to tell me otherwise anymore.



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Tristan

From looking at your profile pic I don't think your going to be able to stay in this boy mode to long . You already look like my Puerto Rican cuz and everyone ogles her.
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Erin Kay Howell

I bought a back up plan just in case my doctors appoinments dont work out.

Cyproterone
Provera
Estrofem
I know who I am, and no one is going to tell me otherwise anymore.



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Shannon1979

Hi sorry you are having such a hard time of it. at the moment. I know its hard having to wait for stuff trust me i know. i doubt i will get HRT for another 4 months at least.but you just have to stay strong. You have that strength if you didn't you wouldn't have decided to go through this in the first place. If this is what you really want then you will get there, no matter how many obsticles are put in your way. :angel:
Mountains can only be summounted by winding paths. And my path certainly has taken a few twists and turns.
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stacey fisher

I know how you feel I have been there I was told in April last year  that could start HRT by one doctor  I had blood test and every thing done then all went  and over the last 14 months see 3 more doctors and all said yes to starting me  but that was it no one would start meds till I see a new doctor last month and he said did not know why had not been started on them as I have done all that have been ask to and lived the life for 15 months and changed my name legally  I have now started on  mine and been on them 5 days now I know its early days but feel so happy now just hang in there like I did and show them that its you it will happen I know its hard sweat hart but it will happen soon am sure
start hrt on july 11/7/2013 been living as fem for 15 months full time and changed name legal a year ago and med recs to fem started spironolactone 7/6/2014 just laying in bed after getting my surgery done on the 11/11/2015 feel so good
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